Help with a Cancer man

Help with a Cancer man after sleeping with him too soon...

We met on a dating site. We were texting for a bit and he was chasing me trying to meet me. When I finally gave in we meet and I couldn't help it I slept with him. I felt safe for some reason with him. He asked me to stay the night but I couldn't so we cuddled for a bit but then I had to go. He walked me out and kissed me and texted me when I got home. The next morning he texted me for a bit but then stopped.. He is also a single father with two kids (who lives with the mother) and before I met with him he was texting quite a bit.. NOW that I'm interested what do I do to get his attention back? Ignore him? or tell him I'm interested so its clear?

I think it's obvious you're interested, otherwise you wouldn't have slept with him on the first date. Or perhaps he thinks you do this with everyone and it turned him.

I did try fighting him off a number of times that night but he just kept at me.. you're right though..

I'm such an idiot

okay so bottom line.. back off and just focus on me and let him come to me (if he ever does).

Can I message him at all though?

you're the best.. thank you.. hoping i don't screw this up but I am going to take you advice.. I dated a cancer for 9 years and this is exactly familiar.. you clearly know what you are talking about. thanks again.

What do you mean by this though? "Act oblivious to what happened between you."

ok so .. I feel like i can tell you a bit more

everything happened on this past Saturday..

he messaged me on Sunday just saying good morning and he saying he had a great time (while he was at work) so I responded. I didn't hear back from him that night at all so on Monday I messaged him just saying good morning. I idiotically asked him what he was having for lunch ( I think he may have taken that too seriously) you know as though I was asking him like a wife or something.

Anyhow he did respond back and also asking what time I was done work but after telling him around 6ish he has not texted back and I've not texted back.

At this point I am not going to to text him back right? I'm going to just focus on my own shit until Fridayish and maybe message him then. What do you think?

Dear MissGemini, the Cancer that left you definitely did not realize how fully you understood them and it was surly his loss. Its hard to find someone like you who gets you the way you clearly understood him. I am so appreciative of your advise

Sorry . I meant:

I'm going to just focus on my own until Fridayish and maybe message him then. What do you think?

gotcha!!!! I can totally do that . thanks again. no texting.

MissGemmi:

Ugghh.. Still nothing from him and its Friday.. geezzz... I'm not tempted to text because I know I will feel worse if I do and he doesn't text back.. Do you think I'm completely out of his mind now?