Cancer men and their past

I met a Cancer man through mutual friends, strong silent type of man. We were all discussing our past and exes and he said something that resonated with me and my past with Cancer people. They seem to hang on to their exes a lot more than most people and hurt themselves trying to mend what's beyond fixing and do that "let's be friends!!" thing.

His last relationship was so chaotic they cheated on each other multiple times. He was the first one to cheat under the assumption that she had cheated first, etc. They're now "friends" or at least still keeping in touch with each other but he seems very fond of her still.
The other Cancer people I know never fail to bring up their exes in conversations. The one I was with even compared me to one of his ex one time.

So I, as a Sagittarius with a Scorpio stellium who does not understand how people can still be friends after a breakup, would like to know how it's like and why do they do that? I'm not saying it's bad or anything, I just don't see why you would hold onto a relationship that's run it's course a long time ago.

Also, do you still love them or is it just for memory's sake? How can you love someone new when you still have them on your mind?

I just realised I put "men" in the title but I also meant women!
Isn't it harder to start with a clean slate for their next relationship though? Idk I feel like it's just gathering unnecessary baggage over time.

Finding this post while searching for something else....depressing and painful to read. I love cancers tho.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
i dont' remain friends with ex's i had a bad falling out with and i don't want to date any of my ex's who i am currently friends with

Can I ask you, what's the purpose of staying friends with an ex? Are you holding on for a reason, or it just ended up that way?

Posted by SensitiveBlues

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Posted by SensitiveBlues
i dont' remain friends with ex's i had a bad falling out with and i don't want to date any of my ex's who i am currently friends with

Can I ask you, what's the purpose of staying friends with an ex? Are you holding on for a reason, or it just ended up that way?

ended up that way. I mean they weren't that relevant you know what i mean. If its love of my life and i got burned , i aint' treetruking with you, ever.

if there's feelings, there's no friendship

for me. im that type of crab tho. Leo moon

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What if it was love but y'all separated due to life/no control circumstances? Would you try and stay friends, and why/why not?

I only stayed friends with one ex. i only talk to her once every few months at most and i genuinely want her to do well. I do not have any intentions of trying to get back with her

I always keep them as friends. MissGemmi made some very good points (and I don't think you sounded sarcastic, love).
When a relationship doesn't work out, I don't want to lose people I care about, so I keep them as a friend. It's perfectly harmless. Of course I need time to get over my feelings for them, but once I do we're good to go.