How close is too close to home w/a cancer?

You all know what happened. Weekend of heaven with 34 yr old cancer, major family guy (close w/ his family). Albeit him in west coast and me here, his sister has been keeping in contact with me. Me and cancer spoke only about 3x since TDay and we have plans to see each other while here XMas.

Meanwhile, his family~sister 30 yr old, father and mom keep asking about me per sister (both our families grew up in same town and know each other and then we hooked up over TDay) have been over-adoring.

His sisters husband is my age and thats how this whole hangout got started.. she is so sweet and we know the same ppl...ironic.

Question...cancers dad suggested we (me and cancers sister) come to NY (parents are divorced) for a weekend.

Bad thing to mix this thing or what?

Don't want to screw anything between him and I.

How to handle?

Thanks M.E.....

Aren't I walking on eggshells when it comes to the family though?

We all never socalized before....but now since we have been together intimately, things have changed in a wierd way

He has not called for almost a week now, it's strange

AND...family is so close, they talk 3x/day...cancer included (mamas boy). Mr. Cancer and sister are like 2 peas in a pod. How do you keep things seperate?

Thanks ME...I appreciate your reply

"Aren't I walking on eggshells when it comes to the family though?"
Yes if they don't like you... but if your families have the same friends, that can't be bad.

"be yourself and dont fret"
Aren't we walking on eggshells if we being are anyone else?

Question...cancers dad suggested we (me and cancers sister) come to NY (parents are divorced) for a weekend.

Bad thing to mix this thing or what?

Your gut instinct is telling you it's a bad idea..listen to it.

From my own experience, unless you 2 are an item, it's a bad idea, I may get blasted for saying it so direct but some men feel a woman is pushing her way into his life through family and there is a chance that pressure could spill over to him and he may resent that, although I'm sure that's not your motive it will feel forced for him and the pressure could pull him away from you.

I myself wouldn't go...I would weigh how I would feel if a man hung out with my brother and we had yet to solidify a relationship with one another..for me it will feel pretty intrusive and would be a huge factor in me not looking at him as a love interest, to play it safe, I would chunk him in the friendship box really fast because I would prefer to bond with him first to ensure he's someone I really want in my life and to be sure it's mutual between us both then once thats solid he can hang with my bro all he wants.

Tiki, I completely agree...and things got a little wierd.

She has been trying to push some persian rugs on me (I bought it, got it home and hated it in my room, so am returning it for a replacement, and she also brought over another one she "thought I would like", put it in my house, I hate it too, so returning that one.
HEY I'M A SCORP, I CHANGE MY MIND A LOT

These are all from her dad so now the whole "sophie is a pain in my arse and changes her mind" is going around I am sure. Whatever, I'm over it...it is what it is, nothing more.

But anyways, have not spoke to him for over a week.

He gets here next week when I get back from FLA, hopefully will see him so I can get lucky before 2009!