He's just not that into you apply to Cancers?

So it seems that everything I read about cancers says that they get scared off easily/are afraid of rejection. So do the general "rules" not apply to them? You know - if a guy doesn't respond right away or ask you out asap it means "he's not that into you?" I always seem to be interested in cancer guys and they seem very interested as well. I've never had one ask me out tho!

I have been told that I come off as "mean/cold" to guys, so I think it is extra hard for them. I always start to play "hard to get" and am afraid to show much interest with these cancers cuz their wishy-washy behavior confuses me. It just seems to go downhill at that point. But as soon as I get flirty/nice again, they are back! But when they go off in their "shell" is it cuz they're a cancer or just not interested? Should I be doing the opposite with these guys? i.e. give them attention/show interest? Or should I be telling myself "if he was that interested, even if he is afraid of rejection, he will still overcome it and ask me out regardless of his sign?"

Or should I be telling myself "if he was that interested, even if he is afraid of rejection, he will still overcome it and ask me out regardless of his sign?"

I feel he would overcome his fear of rejection and pursue you. I read alot of misunderstandings about Cancers but they are not afraid of rejection too much. If he wants you, he will not take NO for a answer.

always start to play "hard to get"

Oh, PS, NEVER PLAY ANYTHING with a Cancer man. He can smell and sniff out low self esteem and insecurity in a woman 1 million miles away!

DON'T PLAY or PRETEND anything, if you PLAY, he will PLAY, I suggest you BE hard to get. Being hard to get and playing hard to get are different.

Being hard to get means you have a life, outside activities and passions other than him and you are not desperate or clingy.

Playing hard to get is using a strategy to "get" him curious and interested but no for the long term. It is games, using manipulative tactics" rules".

ALL men KNOW the rules, so you have to really have a life outside of him and be very content and happy with yourself. Trust HE is aware of the difference!

Maybe a younger Cancer fears rejection but the olders Cancer men understand NO. I don't mean if she clearly states "No, I am not interested in you, leave me alone. But, NO, wait, let's take things slow. I know alot of Cancer males and they don't fear NO where I live. Do you think it has to do with the geographical area?

A Cancer's cautiousness trumps any fear of rejection. What some may see as "playing hard to get" is just that, caution. The best way to push through that is to just be VERY sincere and reassuring. I personally don't like games and can see through most of them. Don't take the moods and shell like behavior too seriously. A lot of non-Cancer folk do that.

I have more than two cancer female friends who have been involved
with married men and men who are taken so yes that book does apply
to many cancers,perhaps not all,but a large enough number to be
very relevant and reliable.You won't find many cancers bearing
the truth or their soul too often either but I hate seeing these
things happening to cancer friends and they need to stop kissing
a guys booty and start finding better males.

Let me enlighten you guys since I'm a Cancer myself. Being the most complicated sign, I would throw out all the hard to get and playing games stuff. And yes we do hate rejection. Just because we don't initiate courtship does not mean that we are not completely smitten and super crazy about you. It does help when the girl/guy are more open than us. We love it when you flirt with us too, but in regards to us making a move on ya, it has to do with how comfortable we are with ourselves. I'm a free spirit so I will not be bound by fear. So I now just tell girls I'm into them if I really like them. It took quite a few sad loses for me to get here. So I hope this helps!

Personally speaking, when i go in my shell its usually because i am not interested. To me, if i am interested, i will let you know UNLESS i think you will never be interested. Then i will keep it as a secret but if i feel like the person is interested, i will do the same. If i'm not, i wont give any hopes. The hard to get part is kind of iffy. In the beginning its cool. But there is a limit. Eventually ill think you're not interested and wont bother unless we think we have the ability to change other persons mind? But in the end, we like honesty and being straight forward. These games get realllly annoying.

Bumping this thread!!

What makes you feel secure?

Krobe03 gave a really good answer:

"Oh, PS, NEVER PLAY ANYTHING with a Cancer man. He can smell and sniff out low self esteem and insecurity in a woman 1 million miles away!

DON'T PLAY or PRETEND anything, if you PLAY, he will PLAY, I suggest you BE hard to get. Being hard to get and playing hard to get are different.

Being hard to get means you have a life, outside activities and passions other than him and you are not desperate or clingy.

Playing hard to get is using a strategy to "get" him curious and interested but no for the long term. It is games, using manipulative tactics" rules". "

Simplest answer: Crab men want to know that they have people in their corner. At the end of the day, they want to know that when they come home, there is someone who is going to be there for them.
They aren't pussies, though. They're not looking to be babied, but supported (and that includes an occasional kick in the ass when they're indisputably in the wrong).

what makes us secure: constant reassurance