How do I get my Cancer man to be exclusive?

I'm a scorpio woman madly in love with a Cancer man I have been dating now for almost seven months. For me it was love at first site or maybe I should say lust at first site. We met online, and during our first date I was nervous because I got lost and arrived two hours late to our date! But the craziest thing was that he waited for me that long. But I did keep him informed of where I was and why I was running so late. I did tell him that if he wanted to reschedule that I would understand. He said, no problem, just come over, I'll wait. Keep in mind, we hadn't really communicated prior to our date, just a few texts agreeing on where and when we were going to meet. He was so patient and understanding. When I arrived I was tired and apologetic and couldn't stop talking, because that is how I get when I am embarrassed and nervous. I felt silly for getting lost in a city I should know very well. I said, "Thank you for waiting for me and I am so sorry for being so late". He replied, "Don't worry I have waited longer for less attractive women." I just smiled and thanked him again. He bought me a glass of wine so I could relax, then my non stop monologue started. With the wine and my nerves I couldn't shut the f*** up. But finally once I did and started to let him speak and looked at him, I noticed his gentle eyes, his sexy smile and I even liked his nose. I thought to myself, "OMG, he is hot!".

He also had a glass of wine. Like 40 minutes into our date, he started to get touchy feely. He started to caress my legs, I had a short black cocktail dress with black pantyhose. I immediately felt attracted to him, once I saw him take control and make a move. I normally don't allow a man to touch me like that on the first date, but I allowed him. As we parted ways, out of the blue, he just pulled me to him and gave me a very passionate kiss. I kissed him back and when we pulled away, I asked him aren't you happy you waited for me?, and he just said, yes, with a stunned look in his face. He offered to walk me to my car, and at the stop sign, he pulled me again to him and kissed me, only this time with tongue. When we arrived at my car, we kissed more. We agreed to see each other again.

Well, it has been a long road getting him to date me on a regular basis, we see each other aprx once per week. And I don't know how to approach the subject of being exclusive. Any advice will help. Thank you.

Haha, I just noticed my computer auto-corrected cocktail dress and put instead chickentail dress, that's funny. Just so, you know, I was wearing an elegant black dress to our date. By the way my cancer guy complimented me on my attire and said I love a well dressed woman. 😉

Again any advice on how to get this man to ask me to be exclusive would greatly be appreciated.I would especially welcome woman that have a relationship with a cancer man and advice from cancer men.

Thank you in advance. 🙂

Thank you Iwin, I really do appreciate your advice. But I already had s*e*x with him. We have been seeing each other for over seven months now. It actually happened two months after our first date. It happened on our third date. The attraction between us was so intense that we just couldn't control ourselves and we did it in his car after we left a restaurant. People were walking buy his car, and we didn't care. I know, I acted out of impulse, but it was so awesome.

This was a little over seven months ago and he has been playing his hot and cold game with me. I have been reading a lot about cancer men to try to understand him and learn more patience but I am at my going crazy.

Lately tho, he has been showing more hotness than coldness. I love him so much. All I do is think day and night about him. I sometimes feel as if I am going crazy over him. He is soooo slow at getting this relationship up and running. I feel like our plane is just going in circles on the runway and can't seem to be able to take off . BTW, the plane is our relationship in this silly analogy 🙂 . But he has come along way. From ignoring me and not showing much interest in me, now he is actually calling me. He would only text me before.

His birthday was three weeks ago and I bought him accessories for his guitar. An amplifier, a tool kit to fix or adjust his guitar strings, picks, a key chain that holds his picks. You see he just started guitar, music school and has decreased his work hours to dedicate himself to learning the guitar. He loves music and even moved one block away from school to devote himself to it. I admire this about him. Well, I wrapped each little gift separately and put them all in a gift bag. He unwrapped one at a time and was so excited to unwrap the next one. He thanked me and the first thing he told me was, "now I feel guilty". I knew exactly why he said that, but told him that there was no need to feel guilty it was his bday after all. But i know why he said that. The reason for that statement was because I gave him his present one week later. because he went to Vegas for his birthday and disappeared on me for like five days. He didn't call me nor text me. He basically treated me like I was not important to him. It hurt me, but I told myself that I need to be patient with this man. He asked me out to dinner and later told me that I was the only one that gave him a bday present this year, with the exception of his son that bought him a book but told hi

It sounds like you have his attention. I think you need to relax and take your time. Do you have any other interests beside this Cancer man? Perhaps occupy your mind with something that allows you to grow like a foreign language or a painting class. I'm going to post you some videos to help you understand men, let me know what you think:

Here is another one, the quality isn't very good but I think it specifically addresses your situation:

Thank you Iwin32 for being he first one to respond to my question. You're such a cool guy. Love your picture by the way. And please keep your advice coming. I need all the advice I can get.

LunarMaiden, you are a sweetheart!! Thank your for the videos. I watched them and they really do give a woman a glimpse of a man's psyche. They kind off reminded me of the book, "Men are from mars woman are from venus", I needed to see the videos. I will try not to forget the valuable advice in them. I decided to stop chasing after him and to stop asking him out. I figured that he is pulling away because he needs to think about the relationship and needs also to increase his dopamine levels. Haha, I think I am learning something here.

But I did not want him to know that I don't care about him anymore. So, I still text him to let him know that i am thinking about him and that I miss him. But leave it at that. I used to always add, "when can I see you again?". I don't add the pressure anymore. He did text me last week to ask me if he could take me out to dinner and added that he wanted to take me to a nice place. I was out jogging and didn't see his text until an hour and a half later once I got home. I also noticed he had called me to ask me out and left me a voice mail. In the seven months I have been seeing this man he had never called me to ask me out and he had never left me such a nice message. I texted him right away, letting him know that I was out for my run and missed his texts and call. He didn't seem bothered and asked me what time I could see him. He is really coming around. This is the same man that just six months ago, asked me out for friday and I texted him a day before our date and he never replied, he basically stud me up that time. Well, things have come a long way.

I am very transparent and I don't like playing games. So, I am pretty honest. But this past week I have missed his texts a couple of times and reply one or two hours later once I notice his texts (we normally are both pretty good at responding to each other's texts within one or two minutes). But all though I didn't do it intentionally to place doubt in his mind it seems to be having that effect. I notice he is much more responsive to me and he is searching me out more.

He asked me out today again for dinner and we had a nice time. As we kissed good bye in the parking lot(btw, no s*e*x in his car this time. Lol). I told him that I would no longer be asking him out. He asked in a sad voice, "But why not?". I replied that I know he is very busy at school and I don't want to impose. I know he needs to focus and study. And when he has time and wants to see me, he has my number and he can call me". I said it with a smile while I hugged and kissed him. He said, "but you are not imposing and I always want to see you, if I am not busy." I told him, "but I don't know when u are busy and when you are not, so I want you to call me when you want to see me from now one." He smiled and we kissed and said good bye.

I hope I didn't make the wrong move. But I was just so tired of always asking him out and always getting hurt and feeling rejected when he couldn't see me. I know he likes the attention and will probably miss it. But I want him to move this to the next level and want him to miss me and ask me to be is girlfriend. And frankly I don't know if this will work, but by doing this I feel as if I am removing myself from this tug of war game that has lasted too long in my opinion. I want to rock the boat and see if he will take me more seriously. I don't know, any advice will help. Did I make the right move? What do you guys think? Of course I will still text him to say hi and see how he is doing but I will no longer be nagging him on when he can see me again.

All comments are welcome. Thank you, in advance. Much love to everyone. :-)

Edit: "But I did not want him to know that I don't care about him anymore." I meant to say that I don't want him to THINK that I don't care about him anymore.

Thanks for reading and please comment. I love this man and I want to marry him and have a bunch of babies with him!! Lol. Well, maybe only one or two would be nice. Seriously I think he is the guy I have been waiting for my whole life.

When I hear Christina Perri's song, the one that says, "I've loved you for a thousand years and I will love you for a thousand more." I think about him. I feel like I've loved him all my life, but just now met him physically. I know this may sound too corny or too metaphysical for a lot of folks out there. But that is how I feel. And I respect everybody's beliefs and opinions.

Sweet dreams. 😉

Thank you ACrabbyCrab12 for responding to my question. Sometimes when we are deep in a situation we do miss the obvious. I do want to tell him what I want from our relationship and see his response. And to be frank with you, what has stopped me in the past are my fears; possibly not getting the answer I want, like getting told he wants something else or that he is simply not ready for that with me just yet. I know that I should not blame him for my fears.

But lately he has been giving me the green light for the conversation. Just the other day during our dinner date he seemed to want to bring up the conversation about us, but I freaked out and I rapidly changed the subject, duh, sometimes I fu*k things up.

He told me that he had had dinner with his best friend two days prior and that his best friend had spoken very highly of me. His best friend knows me because the three of us have had dinner together a few times. He said, "Mark said that you are very intelligent, beautiful and edgy and that I need to be with a woman like you." And he stopped to see my reaction and smiled. I think that this was the perfect opener to talk about us. Like I could have responded, "That's nice that your best friend thinks that, but what do you think? Am I the woman for you?". But instead I said "Oh, he is so sweet. So, how is he doing?" . I know I fu*k*d up. But I have a hard time accepting compliments and it caught me off guard.

What should I do guys? Should I bring it up next time I see him. And ask him if he agrees with Mark. I am so bad at this. I am not used to doing the pursuing. But he melts my heart and I know he is worth it.

He does have mother issues, but that is a whole other post. I will stick to this topic for now.

Please respond, I am open to any advice. Thanks. Hugs. 😄

Sounds like you have just been good sex partners and you want to take it to the next level and he wants to keep it where it is because of his comfort zone.Alot of women are in your position, it just isnt a sign thing. A key to getting a Cancer Man to commit is showing you got a longterm financial plan for a thing like marriage. We aren't cheapass's but a woman who got a secret nest egg is a turn on because we like financial security and marriage itself is a huge risk,especially for a man these days.

Overall,I dont think Cancer/Scorpio is a great mix except that we both can rip each other a new one and eventually its over and done with. Others like Virgo won't put up with the emotional intensity so I would rather get steaming mad at a Scorpio Wife then a Virgo one LOL.We both act like fools when we are mad so it somehow balances out the relationship.