How do you fair with No Strings Relationships?

I have a male Cancer friend (nothing more) that is in a no strings relationship with this girl. He insists this is what he wants and all he can do right now. They meet up occasionally, but not often. He calls her at least once or twice a week, chats with her on-line every night, etc. He sometimes contacts her two, even three, times a day. And, he's the one that makes each and every contact.

Could he be in deeper than he realizes?

Just trying to figure you guys out. Thanks for the thoughts.

i don't.BUT i have tried when i was REALLLLLY busy. i did not want a relationship then. i chose a guy that i could never really want. they guy caught feelings and pretty much begged and a relationship.

no strings attached and cancer usually does not go together unless the guy has some flaw that leads to her never wanting to take him serious.

No, Moonman, its not me. He's just my friend. I worry about him getting hurt since he's the one that always initiates the contact. He says they talk about anything and everything from flirting to discussing day to day problems/activities to topics they are interested in. All I know is what he's told me. I've just never seen someone in a no strings relationship keep that much contact.

Nope! I am a Cancer, and i had a no strings relationship with an Aries and Cancer man, we both talked online and met once a week or twice a week for just sex, and i never had relationship feelings for either of them. Its possible.

Nice call MoonMan!... this story is bs..

I hope you don't try these tricks with you Cancer 'friend' truecap, LOL!

Posted by Claro de Luna
Whether it's bs or not, a simple answer to you question is not necessarily. Not at all. If you are just having sex then that's fine just as well as if you are good friends and talking a lot also then fine. People can do all of those things with someone without wanting commitment and Cancerians aren't exempt from that.

He might want that closeness from you as well as the sex without commitment. Maybe it's fulfilling him for now until the real deal comes along?

Maybe without that closeness the sex wouldn't be as nice for him? That's how simple it could be.

Claire...

I find it interesting that she has not mentioned sex at all, just implied it.

@ Claire.. great answer, btw

Posted by Claro de Luna

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by Claro de Luna
Whether it's bs or not, a simple answer to you question is not necessarily. Not at all. If you are just having sex then that's fine just as well as if you are good friends and talking a lot also then fine. People can do all of those things with someone without wanting commitment and Cancerians aren't exempt from that.

He might want that closeness from you as well as the sex without commitment. Maybe it's fulfilling him for now until the real deal comes along?

Maybe without that closeness the sex wouldn't be as nice for him? That's how simple it could be.

Claire...

I find it interesting that she has not mentioned sex at all, just implied it.

Ah yes, good point. I assumed. But why else would you bother calling it 'no strings'?? There would be no point in that to me unless there was something sexual going on. Sex = anything sexual btw.

Maybe where others are from that has a different meaning, idk. Are you from the states?

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I am as curious as you. Hopeful truecap will appear with a more forthcoming response. And no, I'm not from the states 🙂

I realize a lot of people post questions on here and twist the reality and truth about what is going on and give false impressions. I can see why you suspect bs. It happens all the time on here. Seriously, folks. I'm a pretty straight forward person. If it was me he was talking to, then, what would be the harm in saying so? Why would I just not pose the question from my perspective? It really is a friend of mine. I'm not romantically involved with him at all. We are close and good friends and that is all. I'm just worried about my friend.

For the record, I'm interested in an Aquarius and chose not to go down this FWB road with him. Good thing, because I am figuring out thats all it would have ever been. But thats another story for another board.

The Cancers I know are very loving people with big hearts that tend to broken rather easily. Then again, on the flipside, I do have one girlfriend that is Cancer and was "dating" four guys at once.

Therefore, trying to learn about yall. (Realizing there are different influences as well).
Just curious to what you guys thought.

It's great that you care about your friend but at the end of the day, he is a grown man, (in his 40's I assume or late 30's...whatever?), anyway, you can't decide what his heart wants for him, you have to let him be and make his own judgement call.

If you are very concerned about him, then find some diplomatic words to plant a seed, calmly remind him about his intent with this girl, 'suggest' he take a small step back and keep his heart in check. The rest is up to him.







Yes, I agree. He's a grown man responsible for himself.

Posted by PurrrrHissss
I have a question, though. How do you know that he initiates each and every contact? Did he tell you this?

He has told me he contacts her, "she's not the kind of girl that would call a man". I think she messages him though.

Posted by truecap
I have a male Cancer friend (nothing more) that is in a no strings relationship with this girl. He insists this is what he wants and all he can do right now. They meet up occasionally, but not often. He calls her at least once or twice a week, chats with her on-line every night, etc. He sometimes contacts her two, even three, times a day. And, he's the one that makes each and every contact.

Could he be in deeper than he realizes?

Just trying to figure you guys out. Thanks for the thoughts.

Oh yeah. I believe he has feelings for her & doesn't want to admit it because he has agreed to a "FWB relationship" & would probably feel like an idiot if he divulges his true intentions.

A FWB relationship does not consist of deep conversations, cuddling, spending time together after sex is over, contacting each other often, etc. Well at least to me it doesn't. If the relationship is just "no strings attached" there should just be contact strictly about/for sex. They meet, have sex, she leaves or he leaves. That's it.

Uh, so yeah...he's starting to care about her.