How to deal with cancers? Please give me insight!

the first one is a guy that I like/liked that I haven't talked to in a couple months. He asked how I was and if we could hang out again and that he hasn't seen me in a while. I responded with "hey! I've been good - How have you been" he responded telling me how he's been followed with ' how have you been?" I then emailed him back telling him (again)that I have been good. And then no response—!!! And I am not going to email him AGAIN. Just bc I dodged the "can we hang out again question" did that scare him off?? I was responding!

Second one is a guy that i liked who I haven;t seen in a while so I text him asking how he's been and saying I noticed I haven't seen him out at all. He texts me back saying "thanks for noiticing" then goes to say he hasn't felt up to going out, works been hard but he's getting by" . So I texted him back saying I am sure he's busy with work now but maybe some other day we should get lunch since I haven't talked to him in a while - and NO RESPONSE!

Is there something wrong about how I behave towards cancers—? Cuz I never get anywhere with them!

Maybe they are genuinely busy.

VirgoLibraCusp, sorry for hogging your thread.
But please just hear me out I am just hurting so much.
Me and my cancer had a big argument, yesterday.
Story, I was making him breakfast. I took the day off because I have not seen him for 3 weeks was out of town working, work has just been crazy. When I get upstairs he was online chatting to some girl that kept calling him my love and her flight details.
I threw a tantrum and demand he tell me what is going on. He said that he doesn't owe me anything. And treating me like the ugly step sister.
And wanted to know who was the 2 people that smsed me saying they loved me. One was my friend and the other was my gay cousin. Which means he was going through my phone while I was making him breakfast.
While we are fighting she calls and this guy( that told me everyday how much he loves me and planning a life with me fort he last 7 months) treats me like I don't exist . Telling her how much he loves her and he can't wait to see her.Then puts down the phone screams at me tells me to pack my things and go. We were living together. But I still kept my place.
Then this morning his cousin that I work with tells me that he was asking her about my trip.
I can't even cry that's how angry I am. I just don't understand. How someone can tell you they love you one day and the next throw you out. And he shows no signs of feeling bad about what he has done to me.

Have to run a meeting .. please anyone respond

Bella79😢 I wish I could hug your heart, I'm so sorry about that. Cancer men scare me almost much as libra men lol. It seems like both have inscurity really bad. Nothing good can come from that. How long have you too been together? He should trust that your only loving him in a romantic way. I guess he got really scared off by reading that and went into his shell and felt a need to get back to have one on you. I think that's just what people do when they get hurt. I'm sure he'll come out of it

"Second one is a guy that i liked who I haven;t seen in a while so I text him asking how he's been and saying I noticed I haven't seen him out at all. He texts me back saying "thanks for noiticing" then goes to say he hasn't felt up to going out, works been hard but he's getting by" .


-It sounds like he's not in a good place right now in his life.

We have know each other for over 2 years, but we have been togehter for 7 months. No, I don't want him back . The way he treated me shows me that he has no respect for me not even as a person.

He was talking to her in front of me, like I was nothing. Thats what hurts the most.I just feel so hurt and angry and I just can't beleive that he could do that to me. He didn't even look like he is sorry for treating me that way. He just was so angry.And he knows my gay cousin and Che-Che is a woman's name so I really don't know what the hell he was going on about.

And I also don't understand my need to know that he feels a little sorry for hurting and treating me that way..

^Oh I see. I have been that angry before. My libra was an example. He had this one really bad night, I felt totally abused by him and he didn't even seem to care. Than he tried to hold me and tell how sorry he was. I couldn't even hear or feel what he was saying tho, I compeletly shut down from him. I felt so disrespected. N you now I'm a sag I forgive n forget like getting the paper. But that was too much n now I can't look at him without wanting to kill myself. Everyones got a limit.

I agree. Eff this emotional insecure mess. He did you a favor by treating you so horribly that each time he crosses your mind instead of calling him or remembering sweet thoughts.... you'll think about his head on a stick.

Let me see...Hmmmmm....My Cancer friends are CLINGY, controlling, sensitive peeps. They would admit it. But, I love them all! When they get in their moods. Then they tend to go into their shell. That's bad for their mates. Because when they go into that state of mind. That's when you need them most. Very consistent. To me they seem like a much more sensitive version of Gemini's. Just my opinion so don't bite me head off.

thanks

"instead of calling him or remembering sweet thoughts.... you'll think about his head on a stick"
Thats exactly how I feel. Whenever I felt like calling him I remeber what he did and I tell myself that I deserve so much more.Yip, I am better off with out him.

I went on a date with another cancer, he has liked me for awhile. We had dinner and chatted for hours and we agreed to stay just friends, but it is nice. No, I really don't want a relationship right now.

My ex cancer really did a number on me.And it really does hurt and you know us Leo girls and our pride.So, I am just going to chill and deal for awhile.

Well VirgoLibraCusp for you that is just how Cancer men are! Period. They will call consistently for a while then stop, out of the blue. Out of nowhere! LOL! Then they will start calling again consistently and stop out of the blue. The only advice I have or based on my own opinion is just don't put to much meaning into him calling. It is the same with the texts. But you will get way more calls then text. I don't know if they don't like pushing the letters on texts or what it is but he does better with the calls. Esp. if you don't answer them for a while. That will keep him on the chase. Don't call back right away or call back way later, I don't know why they like it like that. If you don't call much usually he will beg you too call him and still don't call right away.

Bella- I know your heart is with this man but give him a WHOLE BUNCH OF SPACE! Period. Let him date this other woman if he wants too. Let him know Ok, if you want to date this other woman I am ok with it but you cannot see me and her and put some distance between you two. I know it is hard to do but you go on with your life without him being involved. It is going to be that way anyway whether you want it to be or not. You will look up and it will be months and months passing which will make the heart grow fonder. Just don't keep arguing with him or give him the satifaction that he has a hold on you or he will take you to town. The best advice will be to put some distance between you two. The doors are opened for abuse and bad treatment and if you don't get control over yourself then you are going to go to hell and back with this man.

krobe03,thanks

Yes, I am still hurting and it is hard not to pick up the phone and call. But I know it is a process and I will get over him. I should just give myself time to deal.Got up this morning just pass 04:00 , I felt so bad but I could't cry.I guess Iam just still very angry.

Going back to him or even being friends is a NO for my.I will not be selling myself short. No WOMEN deserves to be treated like that. With such utter disrespect.

I left some of my things behind at his house and after the fight I tried calling to inform him that I wanted to go get my things. He didn't pick up his phone .but he texted me back " stop haressing me please."

I deleted his numbers an I am in the processes of changing mine. I want NO contact with him.

yeah well...even if he went thru your phone while you made some eggs...that did not give himenough time to go online, find a woman to love and have her book a flight to see him. so that shit had been going down awhile.

thank god you can move on and be strong.

oh as for your shit...leave it...or send a really really really big guy friend over to get it.

Yes, I figured that it has been going on for a while. And I will just have to let my stuff go.

Can anyone make me understand what astrology causes cancer to be drawn to libra girl . I am extremely irresistible to libra girl but never dated a single due to incompatibility phobia .

I have a long affair with a Libra. It took quite a while to realize he can't commit. Whew that hurt, but he does commit on his level and has become a tried and true love. It just will not work for us at this time and we are crazy about each other. It just matured I guess.

As far as your Cancer boy............run! He is being a jerk. At the least he is testing you and that is being a jerk.
Yes we shell up but no reason to play mean and rude. Bad behavior is bad behavior. I will tell you this, as with any sign, if he is testing you he will fall into line quickly if you start to do your own thing. Rubber band effect. I have jumped on a guy for being nosey before and within an hour said I was sorry with reason for my actions. I let people off the hook if I am responsible.

Don't let anyone treat you this way. I am using the same advice for myself as I write this. SIGH!