How to deal with this super shy cancer guy?

- he's a barista, I'm his regular customer
- we never really talked before, he barely knew my name
- a friend told him I'm interested in him, he asked for my number
- he texted me couple times just simple texts
- I went to the coffee shop after we texted, he didn't greet me.. said he's too shy
- he followed my instagram the next couple days and liked my selfies only.
- I went to the coffee shop couple times after that, he still didn't try to talk to me at all. Just looking awkward and shy as hell. I did catch him glancing at me so many times.
- I tried looking at him and smile, he just looked down, he couldn't look at me straight up which is kinda annoying :/
- today I went there again, this time the guy just texted me! I told him, instead of texting me just come and sit or talk to me.. he said he can't since the supervisor is there. But I believe it's only because he's too shy cause other barista just casually talked to me. When I left the place, dude texted me again said 'drive safely, take care'.


My friends said he clearly likes me but I don't know... I'm not sure. What do you people think? And if he really likes me but just too shy, then what should I do to let him know that I'm not going to bite him or something. Help meeeeee... I'm reaaaaally into this guy but I don't know what to do.

Ps, I'm Pisces (moon in libra).

Pull him to the side and tell him flat out.

Sounds like he's interested. I think it's awkward for him while he's working and probably feels embarrased when you're around his work environment. For example, while you're working, would you want someone you like to be around? He struggles with this. Let him make the first move.

Posted by Vixen2
Wow....talk about introvert. Im not even sure you can be that introverted whilst being a barista, dealing and talking to people all day...whatever.

It seems like he is more comfortable with expressing himself from a distance for now with written communication. I would just concentrate on building a connection with him texting or emailing him....and being patient and not trying to rush him, if you like him...

Just talk to him about hobbies, music, etc...seal a bond with things you have in common and then maybe he'll feel more comfortable about maybe taking it to the next level like smiling at you or saying hello when he sees you or maybe even agreeing to do something you both have in common...

Honestly, I've never met anyone that introverted but I get along and can read people well. I would just slow my pace and mirror his and follow his cues for a bit to establish a connection...

Yes, introvert. That's far better word than shy. He's the only person who never really talked to customer in that coffee place. He got nervous when he had to take people's order that he managed to cause a little scene.. but aside from that, he makes the best and awesome coffee! And that's one of the reason why I fall for him lol.

Anyway, from what you've stated. I guess I should just let him lead for now, right? Mirroring his action instead of rushing things... okay got it, thanks! 🙂

Posted by takemeaway
Sounds like he's interested. I think it's awkward for him while he's working and probably feels embarrased when you're around his work environment. For example, while you're working, would you want someone you like to be around? He struggles with this. Let him make the first move.

Ahh that's possible, I didn't think of that.. thanks. 🙂