How to fix this problem with cancer male?

I'm gonna give you the whole story so that you're better able to u der stand, and hopefully help me.

So I slept with a cancer male (who I liked a lot for a long time to begin with), the next time I saw him after that he was acting differently. He wasn't flirting with me anymore. He swore up and down that he wasn't, that it was all in my head. But I notice these kinds of things.
So I tried cementing the cracks, and getting things back to normal. Which was just by being extra friendly.

Still was acting the same for a while after that. Would only speak to me when spoken.

Went out drinking again with some mates, and I asked point blank if there was nothing that he felt about me or wanted with me.
Be it just **** buddies, or a relationship. He said yes to **** buddies, but to understand that some nights he may go home with someone else or I may do so too. (Not gonna happen on my end)
And no to a relationship.

A little while later at the end of the night I asked him point blank again why he didn't find me relationship worthy.

He went on a huge rampage about how I've never travelled the world like him, and how I'm inexperienced when it comes to life. And I give away too much, and there's no mystery to me, that I'm a negative nancy blah blah blah.
Anyway, that's fair. He was giving me his "criteria" on what he wants from a person he dates. I don't add up. So that's fine. I'm not mad.

We ended up going home together anyway because I'm weak when it comes to him.
The next day, he couldn't have thrown me out of that door fast enough.

So then work comes along again, and I was being told by another team member how she and him were drinking together and he tried getting her to go back to his house. I had a chuckle, as I'm not suprised.
Later that night I see him next door with a girl, chatting her up.

Now I got a little jealous at this point.
Because.. Just like wow.
Calm down.
So without thinking, something I tend to do quite often.
I grab my phone and send a facebook message. And it says.

"Do you fuck anything that has a pulse, like seriously, pace yourself dude. You're gonna give yourself a heart attack"

He sees it. He ignores it.
A little while later I calm down, realise it's not a big deal. And am now left with that seen, unreplied to message.
So I try to fix it.

Saying that the message wasn't meant to come off as mean, should've added a smiley face. Not to take it serious blah blah blah.
Seen, and

Guess I ran out of text. Anyway.

So he ignores that message too. And now I feel like an idiot for sending it.

We work together the text day and we're both not talking to each other.
Not like ignoring, just not talking.

I know he doesn't like me, and that's fine. So I'm not going to push for a relationship anymore.
He doesn't want it.

But I'm also not going to be just fuck buddies either.
I haven't told him that I don't want to be that anymore.
But I'm sure he won't care

Just how do I fix this?
How do I sweep everything that's happened between us and start a new?
I'm fine with just being friends, and I'm wanting to know if that's possible.
Is there a magic little way to make a crab happy with you again?

Your fault is that you liked a player who is pretty open about where you stand with him. What exactly do you want to hear from people on here?

You are a fuck buddy to him, so getting jealous and not taming your emotions is just making you look foolish and damaged.

I have a question for you. Where is your self-respect? He explicitly told you that he doesn't find you relationship material (doesn't matter at this point what his reasons are) and you still went home to sleep with him. You mentioned you're weak for him. Where is accountability for your actions? You choose to sleep with this assclown and now you're wondering what? You need to respect yourself so that others can respect you. You teach others to respect you in the way you carry yourself, not the other way around.

^I wrote that before I saw your second post.

Why do you choose to interact, especially want "friendship", with someone who doesn't respect you? Respect is the underlying foundation of any sustaining relationship.

Besides you only want to be "friends" with the hope that one day he will start to like you back or at least respect you. You need to respect yourself before others can respect you. I can't say that enough to you.

Okay. Calm down.

I mentioned the fact that im fine with him not wanting a relationship and that I just want to be friends.

He's still a very nice, very interesting person.

I'm asking how to go about it with a cancer.
If it's possible to wipe the slate clean.

Rejection hurts. No doubt about that. But if he had EVER been a friend to you , first of all he never would have slept with you because he would have been aware of your feelings and would have known you would get hurt. He would have been up front with you, at the very least, about where things stood before he slept with you. Secondly, if he insisted on sleeping with you, after, he would have least tried to shield you better from his other activities so as to not hurt you. It sounds like he was nice to you without ever really being much of a friend. Given that...what would you be going back to? A guy that never cared about you in the first place. He is a user and a player. Just because he was honest with you about where things stood does not make him a good person. Just because it appears as honesty does not mean it is not also deliberate cruelty. You cast your pearls before swine and got a mouthful of mud for your trouble. It hurts and it is not going to be easy, but love yourself enough to walk away. He was never your friend and he never will be. His loss. You should not be so callous with people that genuinely care about you. They don't come along everyday.

Is he older than you?

Posted by Pearls
Is he older than you?

Yes, by 3 years.
I'm 20, him 23

I think that you have leo in you and pisces or scorpio somewhere in your chart, maybe moon. So we talk about self esteem with anyone else except you.

It is not love it is attention that you look. Try to not put you down for a boy, it is anything likeable in this.