break up then make up

I've (Aries)been dating a cancer guy off and on for a year. Broke up with him three times, and every time, won him back. With no effort. This last time he came back, treats me perfect, but doesn't want to put a title on it. I'm ready to grow up and seriously commit. Did I screw up?

Posted by NorthWest
how did you win him back so many times?
Maybe he doesn't want to put a title on it so that he can date other people?

I would call him and tell him I miss him, and apologize for my actions. In a matter of minutes, he's at my door with hugs and kisses. We'll end up staying up all night expressing our feelings for each other

I tell him I want to go back being bf and gf, but he says I'm not ready

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Posted by ariesheart
I tell him I want to go back being bf and gf, but he says I'm not ready

Because you're inconsistent - on again, off again.

Until you prove your staying power, he won't believe you're ready. They need consistency and security.

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Wow, he has said I was inconsistent a lot!

So inconsistent?? Hmmmm i been reading that word a lot around here lately.... So if im consistently telling a cancer how much i care and love them... Even if they dont react— It means is not annoying? Or dont get that pretty well

Posted by fullwaterpisces
So inconsistent?? Hmmmm i been reading that word a lot around here lately.... So if im consistently telling a cancer how much i care and love them... Even if they dont react— It means is not annoying? Or dont get that pretty well

Good question! Hmmmmm....

Posted by fullwaterpisces
So inconsistent?? Hmmmm i been reading that word a lot around here lately.... So if im consistently telling a cancer how much i care and love them... Even if they dont react— It means is not annoying? Or dont get that pretty well

Depends if someone believes you or not. I have 2 people that are no longer in my life, and their lying was so bad that no amount of claiming to love and care for me would be believed by me. Ever. They can't fix it if they wanted to, and I won't even give them the chance, at this point.

You seem shallow but you could just be very young.
& It sounds like you've taken him for granted.

If he grew up too he wouldn't go back to you.

I never did understand the breaking up and getting back together over and over thing. I've only broken up when I fully meant it, and then it's done.

Posted by Pearls
You seem shallow but you could just be very young.
& It sounds like you've taken him for granted.

If he grew up too he wouldn't go back to you.

I'm actually 33. Sad I know. I just easily run away any time we have bad arguments

Posted by MoonArtist

Posted by fullwaterpisces
So inconsistent?? Hmmmm i been reading that word a lot around here lately.... So if im consistently telling a cancer how much i care and love them... Even if they dont react— It means is not annoying? Or dont get that pretty well

Depends if someone believes you or not. I have 2 people that are no longer in my life, and their lying was so bad that no amount of claiming to love and care for me would be believed by me. Ever. They can't fix it if they wanted to, and I won't even give them the chance, at this point.

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He hasn't changed his ways towards me. What do you think of that?

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by ariesheart

Posted by YellowSubmarine

Posted by ariesheart
I tell him I want to go back being bf and gf, but he says I'm not ready

Because you're inconsistent - on again, off again.

Until you prove your staying power, he won't believe you're ready. They need consistency and security.

Wow, he has said I was inconsistent a lot!

Ahh really Sherlock. You sound like you're dumb as bricks.

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Not sure if you're talking to me, but if so....

I'm a fukn Aries! We don't see relationships the way others do. Life can be so simple, yet difficult because our emotions and how we see others emotion don't add up. How we react is way off balance to how others react! That's why I posted the question dick.

If you wasn't talking to me... Apologies

Posted by aquavita8

Posted by ariesheart

Posted by Pearls
You seem shallow but you could just be very young.
& It sounds like you've taken him for granted.

If he grew up too he wouldn't go back to you.

I'm actually 33. d I know. I just easily run away an..........y time we have bad arguments

.... you mixing up a simple quarrel with a breakup

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Nah, I actually break up with him. For weeks. Disappear

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by ariesheart

Posted by aquavita8

Posted by ariesheart

Posted by Pearls
You seem shallow but you could just be very young.
& It sounds like you've taken him for granted.

If he grew up too he wouldn't go back to you.

I'm actually 33. d I know. I just easily run away an..........y time we have bad arguments

.... you mixing up a simple quarrel with a breakup

Nah, I actually break up with him. For weeks. Disappear

... I was watching a tv show with young women being moms. It featured a clip with a young guy, 22-23, who was the father of one of these children. He and the mother had just broken up, due to her finally telling him, she had cheated on him. He said, that he knew, they were in a rough patch, but that to him, they could "easily" be not-friends for a while, but that didn't mean, that they had broken up. He said, that he thought their commitment was bigger. This involved a kid mind you, but I was still surprised, because I was rash like you, when I dated a cancer (I'm a scorpio but aries mooon). Constantly telling the other person, that maybe you should break up or in fact break up does not make you stronger all together. It just brings drama and like they all tell you - inconsistency.

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