HURRY...Need Help...ASAP!

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Got2bGood
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Hi All,

I have posted on here a while back about my relationship with a CANCER MAN. Been seeing him for a year...but he still has not got a Divorce...she is begging him back...but he was in my bed a week ago. I ended up telling him how I really felt about him a while back...maybe it scared him....ANYWAY...Something is not right...hearing all kinds of things...I can't get a straight answer about what is going on and he was very distant...said he was with his kids.

My question?

I love this man and need to know...I am thinking of calling his ex-wife...to see if I am being played...if he is telling me the truth or not. They have been apart for 15 months...Would I be crazy...should I? I got to have some answers...either stay and fight for him...or move on....Would any of you confront her or not?

Help ME!!
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I don't know what I would do...I am not one to stand for being played that is for sure...and I have left guys before even when I loved them if they couldn't be straight with me...
It is hard to end a relationship, but, it is also very liberating when it is the best thing for you...
I can't judge if this is what you should do though...

I would probably try to find the truth even if it were a very difficult and possibly hurtful thing to find out...

Good Luck to you!
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Got2bGood
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Ohhhh....Star,

You are supposed to tell me YES,I would do it...or... NO, I would not. I have friends that say I am stupid if I don't do it...but in a tactful way. Another says why would you want to know....well, cause my gut says to do it and he should not be able to play us both if he is doing that. I gotta know somehow and she would tell me...but....I am sure it will cause problems...but I am important too...gave him a year of my time. 😢I would rather know now...before I let him come back here.
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Thanks, Star...I did call tonight and I am so thankful I did. This Cancer man is a liar and has been playing both of us for 3 months now. In her bed and mine. We are both very heartbroken. Found out he has got out of both my bed and her on the same day. She thought he wanted her back and the SOB told me he did not. All I have to say is...What goes around...comes around1 And ya just can't trust nobody. I am so heart broken..but i will get over it somehow. His ex-wife is tripping...was gonna let him move back this weekend...now she asked me to testify against him in court. Lord help me!!!!
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well it sounds like u got it worked out. im a cancer and i cant stand liars, please dont think that were all like that. but i have experienced it first hand myself with an ex of mine that was a cancer. she had no problem bending the truth to suit her. well, needless to say its been a while since we were together and even though she'll be dating someone else she still tries to call me and start something. well, keep your head up, the bad apples are on the ground, the good ones are on the tree. wow, that was pretty corny. sorry u get the point.
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Liars. *spits*

I hate all the mothertreetrunkers. I really, really despise them. I'm glad you've at least finally gotten the truth, even if it didn't come from who it should have; you know what you're dealing with now. If I were you I would put him behind you...about a zillion miles behind you, and move forward at full speed. With time, you will forget about the jerk.