I Almost Made The FWB mistake with my Cancer

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exhaleHATE
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I'm having trouble understanding my cancer man. He is a leo/cancer cusp with a cancer moon, making him one of the most confusing ppl ever. Once while having sex with my cancer man , I whispered ??I want you all to myself??. After awhile, he kept bringing it up . He claims I said it loudly but I know for a fact I was saying it softly to myself. He keeps bringing it up & I can't understand why. I told him it was just sex talk but he doesn't believe me. He also got drink one night & revealed that he knows I'm in love with him, saying that he knows love when he sees it. The next morning we talked & when I told him that I am not in love with him, I swear I could could sense slight disappointment. He confuses me to no end & I am completely unsure of his feelings for me. He never lets more than two weeks go by without contacting me & is always indirect. He has told me that when he is ready to have a girlfriend that he will be with me & all of his relationships end badly. I just don't know what to do. I can sense his feelings for me through his hugs.its like his words push me away but his hugs beg me to stay around. He says things to test out my feelings for him & constantly needs reassurance.I was considering doing the FWB thing with him but I know it'll only bite me in the ass because I care about him too much. What would you guys suggest I do to maintain our relationship without degrading myself by becoming his FWB? Should I withhold sex & just be there when he needs me? I'm not walking away from him, I know fully what I'm dealing with, with him. I can sense so much inner turmoil in him, its crazy.
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Posted by exhaleHATE
Once while having sex with my cancer man , I whispered ??I want you all to myself??. I told him it was just sex talk but he doesn't believe me.

He has told me that when he is ready to have a girlfriend that he will be with me & all of his relationships end badly.

I was considering doing the FWB thing with him but I know it'll only bite me in the ass because I care about him too much.



I'm sorry you're so confused 😢

But you are already in a FWB. You are sleeping with him. He has told you he is not ready for a relationship and you are not his girlfriend. Even you have told him "it is just sex."

All these labels regarding relationships and no one even knows what they are "in" or what they're doing.
oh no... here comes the sad 😢
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14 YearsCancer

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reporting for duty *salutes* boy boy seems like a serious self saboteur. He wants you desperately but he is content with being miserable. He knows if he officially has you then he could also lose you. That can do some serious damage to his ego, self esteem and ticker. If you want him you're gonna have to snatch him up cause he seems an awful lot like me. You kinda shit on him when you rejected him so he's probably not going to make any sudden first moves. Your best bet is to keep the lines of communication open and talk everything out. As much as people say cancer men are hard to figure out people never do with us the same things they seem to do in their other relationships such as TALK AND ASK QUESTIONS. If you two are doin the horizontal dougie then chances are he's not as guarded as he may seem. Ask him whatever is on your mind.
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Mooniemooneyes
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Posted by thecontender
reporting for duty *salutes* boy boy seems like a serious self saboteur. He wants you desperately but he is content with being miserable. He knows if he officially has you then he could also lose you. That can do some serious damage to his ego, self esteem and ticker. If you want him you're gonna have to snatch him up cause he seems an awful lot like me. You kinda shit on him when you rejected him so he's probably not going to make any sudden first moves. Your best bet is to keep the lines of communication open and talk everything out. As much as people say cancer men are hard to figure out people never do with us the same things they seem to do in their other relationships such as TALK AND ASK QUESTIONS. If you two are doin the horizontal dougie then chances are he's not as guarded as he may seem. Ask him whatever is on your mind.




Perfect *Applause* +10 to you!