I NEED ANSWERS FROM CANCER MALES

I've been dating a cancer man for 1y8m and it was perfect, he is not romantic, he never complimented me... But he is very sweet, he loves to touch my face like tracing the lines of it, he loves to hold my hand, he keeps looking at me without saying anything. We are very compatible in bed, we love spending time together... but he is married... I've always known he was married, we were friends at first but I fell in love.
I never told him to get a divorce or anything like that, because I think that if he has to do it, he must do it because he chose to divorce her. He has a daughter and to make things worse, he works in 2 jobs, but his biggest income comes from working for his wife's family. And he also works as a nurse at my aunt's house, where we met. He takes care of my cousin who suffered a terrible car accident. And I help my aunt daily as a caretaker. As soon as we met we became friends. After a year as friends I noticed some changes in his behavior... he was kind of flirting with me. And I let it happen because I was confused about my feelings for him too.
We never argue and we never fight, we always talk, a lot. So we realized that we needed to spend more time together. So I asked him what did he want from me... and he kept saying I dont know, I dont know what to do, I cant live without my daughter, and he is very concerned about the financial thing and what his family will think of him... and finally he said I wanna be with you but I cant.
So I broke up with him a month ago, I really love him, I'm suffering like hell. But I know I did the right thing. So I asked him,I almost begged him to quit the job at my aunt's house so we can put an end to it. Because I see him every other day and financially he doesnt need this job, or he can work at someone else's house.
But he refuses to quit.. he says that if he quit we won't see each other anymore and that he needs to see me.

So.. I was wondering, I keep reading over and over about how cancer men are attached to their families and attached to money. So, wouldnt it be much easier to leave ME since he'll never leave his money or family... the so called "stability" cancer guys hang on so tight? Why does he want to keep such an awkward and hurtful situation? What does he want?

Your statement: "So, wouldnt it be much easier to leave ME since he'll never leave his money or family"

It would also be just as easy for you to leave him.

You need to suffer...what gives you the right to fuck with someone's husband? He is using you & he doesn't want you. How can you have such low self worth? Would you like it if you were married & some bitch was fucking your husband? I really loathe women like you seriously...why would you want to ruin someone else's marriage? I hope he breaks your heart...smfh.

No, it wouldnt. I have the obligation to take care of my family this is one of my duties. HE doesnt have to go there, it is only a job.

Dude. You suck.

selfish

He probably thinks if he stays around you will get back together with him so he can keep his wife and family and have you on the side. Obviously he doesn't care about your best interests since he's willing for you to be number two (well wait him1 family2 money3) so number 4 in his life instead of wanting you to be with someone who will put you first. Remember he treats his wife like garbage and you come after her.

Posted by Maddy
She didn't come here for judgements, she came here for help and it's nobody's business who she screws.

So give her some AMAZING advice & answer her question then. Don't pass judgments on people judging her. I don't give a butter if she screwed the carrot in my avi...she's making her business PUBLIC by going on a forum where people are going to condemn the butter out of her for having an affair with a MARRIED man...only home wrecking tramps do butter like that. FOH...

not that i think having an affair is right...but, why doesn't the man (who is the one that has actually made a vow to someone else) have equal responsibility here....

she has ended the relationship and asked him to get out of her life.

Posted by RealTalk
You need to suffer...what gives you the right to fuck with someone's husband? He is using you & he doesn't want you. How can you have such low self worth? Would you like it if you were married & some bitch was fucking your husband? I really loathe women like you seriously...why would you want to ruin someone else's marriage? I hope he breaks your heart...smfh.

Ahem. HE is married. WTF is HE doing? Where is HIS self worth? No one forces married people to screw around.
The only person ruining his marriage is the guy here.

I really loathe guys (or chicks) that screw around behind their SO's back and I really really really loathe other people pretending some wild single woman forced him into it. Get real. He has a choice here.
Zip it up and take it home. He shouldn't be out offering it up. FFS

Oh and .....
"I've been dating a cancer man for 1y8m and it was perfect, he is not romantic, he never complimented me..."
HUH??

Fail. Next. Don't care who the guy is.

I agree with MoonMan.

The fuck stops with the married dude.
He has a wife to fool around with, no need to be getting it anywhere else.

Big deal who the topic is for the OP can scroll or block any non cancer male comments or tell people in one way or another she's not interested in their opinion. We are all free to do and say as we please.
You are also not a cancer male and RT's post is directed at the OP so according to your own point then why would you care since Real Talk is not talking to you?

Anyway I don't want to derail another thread, so back to the topic I agree with Moon Man that ultimately it's the man is the one obligated to the wife and the true scum here.

No, they both need to share responsibility equally. Its 50% his fault for stepping out, and 50% her fault for stepping in. If I knowingly borrowed stolen jewelry and was caught wearing it; I would sound crazy if my defense was "but I didnt steal it".

Yes I know but I just found it kind of weird that you were telling someone not to do the exact thing you were doing.

bye 🙂

I m cancer male also learning Psychology. The main problem with cancer males that they CLING to anything, most favourite is women. becase we like beauty. Cancer men can easily be kicked because are timid(gentle people by the way😛). He cant leave anything even his family or YOU even 😄 . Dont worry he will sunk in his thoughts about you but you can go away. Another thing is that cancer`s are high flirt 😄

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Posted by RealTalk
You need to suffer...what gives you the right to fuck with someone's husband? He is using you & he doesn't want you. How can you have such low self worth? Would you like it if you were married & some bitch was fucking your husband? I really loathe women like you seriously...why would you want to ruin someone else's marriage? I hope he breaks your heart...smfh.

Ahem. HE is married. WTF is HE doing? Where is HIS self worth? No one forces married people to screw around.
The only person ruining his marriage is the guy here.

I really loathe guys (or chicks) that screw around behind their SO's back and I really really really loathe other people pretending some wild single woman forced him into it. Get real. He has a choice here.
Zip it up and take it home. He shouldn't be out offering it up. FFS

Oh and .....
"I've been dating a cancer man for 1y8m and it was perfect, he is not romantic, he never complimented me..."
HUH??

Fail. Next. Don't care who the guy is.

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Ahem...no shit. The same applies to him as well. He's a smug bastard...And your point?

Posted by Maddy

Posted by RealTalk

Posted by Maddy
She didn't come here for judgements, she came here for help and it's nobody's business who she screws.

So give her some AMAZING advice & answer her question then. Don't pass judgments on people judging her. I don't give a butter if she screwed the carrot in my avi...she's making her business PUBLIC by going on a forum where people are going to condemn the butter out of her for having an affair with a MARRIED man...only home wrecking tramps do butter like that. FOH...

She is not screwing your husband so why do you care anyway? and read the topic again. It says help from cancer males.

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So why the hell are you commenting? Are you a Cancer male? YOU read the topic again smart ass & for the record I'll post anywhere I damn well please. She shouldn't have put her shit on blast ON A PUBLIC FORUM...Read that part again too.

Why do you care why I care? Sounds like you been there & done that. All whores think alike.

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Posted by virgodreamz
Yes I know but I just found it kind of weird that you were telling someone not to do the exact thing you were doing.

Just realized you both are virgos. Need to babysit each other. I'm out, no time for this shit.

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Just realized you are a gemini...AND? 😄 Peace out!!! Have a nice trip...see you next fall...FOH.

Posted by virgodreamz
Big deal who the topic is for the OP can scroll or block any non cancer male comments or tell people in one way or another she's not interested in their opinion. We are all free to do and say as we please.
You are also not a cancer male and RT's post is directed at the OP so according to your own point then why would you care since Real Talk is not talking to you?

Anyway I don't want to derail another thread, so back to the topic I agree with Moon Man that ultimately it's the man is the one obligated to the wife and the true scum here.

Gemini broad...A WALKING PARADOX. What a dumb bitch...

Posted by MoonMan

Posted by RealTalk

Would you like it if you were married & some bitch was fucking your husband?

Reasonable point and most probably her answer would be, no.

Posted by RealTalk

why would you want to ruin someone else's marriage? I hope he breaks your heart...smfh.

Nope, the married man was the unfaithful one, he is the only person who can ruin his own marrage, not the 'other' woman. The buck stops with him, in this case.

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True indeed. But she's a big help.

NewsFlash. He is NEVER leaving his wife. Move on!

Posted by LadyLionness
NewsFlash. He is NEVER leaving his wife. Move on!

totally off topic but people ALWAYS say this and will then go on to tell you about the high divorce rate.
I suspect that someone must be leaving someone.........

If the Supervisor of the person you cared for most in this world offered you that person's job would you take it and leave your friend/loved one unemployed simply because you needed a job? She doesnt get a free pass because she's single. Im all about following my heart but I'm not going to lose my soul in the process.

Your logic makes no sense to me. It comes down to morals. No, I would not want to spend my last day alive fucking a married man because guess what, its not LOVE if he belongs to someone else, its lust. She's not physically hurting anyone but she's aiding in the pain of another. It must be the end of days.

^^^^^ Indeed. The Karma Police are always watching and waiting, striking when you least expect it.

Moon Man— Your awesome 🙂

In any case I think we all collectively ran the O.P. off the board

Oops *You're*

Posted by MoonBunny
Sleeping with him, she's hurting no one. And that's fine.

Aren't philosophers always telling us to live every day like it's our last? If in her position, would you spend your last day on Earth making love to someone you love, or worrying about what the world says about you because you're with someone you shouldn't be with? Cuz a lot of near-death people will tell you they'd wish they had the courage to confess their true feelings to the one they love, and worried less about work, and so on.

so why can't this dude conjure up the courage to divorce his wife and marry the chick he really loves?
What is he worried about? Man up. Why stay with a woman he is not in love with?
Doesn't she deserve someone who truly loves her?

It seems unfair that this guy has 2 lovers (his wife and the OP) when some people are doing without😢
Aren't there enough people for everyone to have someone?

Posted by luckystar

Go out and find a gentleman. Fuck this motherfucker.

By the way there are a couple of us on this board who have been screwed over by cancer men. Hence the anger.

Yeah it sucks when you realize you've fallen for the wrong one.