I Called Him First

I called the Cancer man. I called to check up on him to see how he was doing with the black out. He lives in Sunnyside and was without electricity for nearly one week. I heard about his plight from mutual acqaintances. I called him yeasterday to offer support and consolation. What does he do? He thanks me and says that I am very sweet to check up on him and offer my help and support. However, he was very abrupt with me on the phone. This is the man I see five days a week at work. We flirt everyday, he invades my personal space, he touches me by accident on numerous occasions. Others ask me why am I so crazy about him? They say, "He should be chasing after you." I answer, "I love him." I am in crazy love with him. I feel an attraction between us. Either I lose my mind, or I leave and never show my face again. There has to be a better way. Is he attracted, but not really interested? Is he interested, but not one to come out and say so? What do I do?

I take that back!!!!! I "was" crazy in love with him. It has turned lukewarm now. Screw him!!!!

Good lord! What are you doing? Do you think that he forgot to remember you because of the blackout? The city may have blacked out, He didn't. Why isn't he calling you? Take the hint. He's not interested.

PS - shame on you for using a local power disaster as an excuse to call a guy!

Sun in Leo,

He is up in my grill more than I am in his. What are you sayin"?

He was the one who called me countless times when I was away sick for a couple of months. Now he withdraws as if he knows nothing? Hey, we are all human!

Bollyhips >>He is up in my grill more than I am in his. What are you sayin"?

I'm saying, don't get tricked into asking a guy out. If he's into you, why isn't he calling you and asking you out?

Well, he obviously has other "activities" in his life. I never asked a guy out and never will either. It is just that I felt a connection between us. I must be feeling the wrong thing. Furthermore, he is my boss. I have cut my losses, no biggie.

Bollyhips >>He was the one who called me countless times when I was away sick for a couple of months. Now he withdraws as if he knows nothing?

Yes? Did he ask you out when you were sick?

Bollyhips >>Hey, we are all human!

Yeah, but not wanting to go out with you is MASSIVE as far as dating obstacles go.

It is not a matter of not wanting to go out with me, he has gone out with me in the past, but with other co-workers. He has even hinted to me about going out. I just think he is not forthcoming. Whether or not he is, at this point, it really doesn't matter to me anymore.

Bollyhips >>It is not a matter of not wanting to go out with me, he has gone out with me in the past, but with other co-workers.

News flash, that's not a date. It's a work lunch.

This was not during working hours. This was drinks after work.

Hardly a "working lunch."

Bollyhips >>Hardly a "working lunch."

It's the same thing sweatheart....he took the crew out for drinks, it was a work thing, not a "I want you so badly that I just have to take everybody out and let them all know it" type of thing.

Sun in Leo-do you research about Cancer men.

Yes.

And since when is it bad to ask a guy out?

Um...since adam and eve....

Sun in Leo,

You remain so adamant, but you really don't see whole picture! Anyway, I know what I feel.

Bollyhips-Dont worry so much. Just be your attractive libra self (go venus buddy! :

Contessina! You are so soothing to the soul! Thanks for your constructive advice! I wish you the best in everything!

Bollyships>> You remain so adamant, but you really don't see whole picture! Anyway, I know what I feel.

I know what you feel. I've felt that way also. Doesn't mean that I would like to see you pine away for someone who thinks it's okay to brush up against you at work. Maybe he just wanted to cop a feel. Maybe he wants attention for his own nafarious reasons (ego). Who knows? But if he's not asking you out, none of it matters is all i'm saying.

You seem like a sweet person. Your dance card should be full with men who want to go out with you, and who are willing to let you know about it.

Sun in Leo,

I have thought about about everything posted by you and others here. Yes, you all have given very valuable input and it has made me think more objectively. I have adopted a nonchalanat attitude towards him. If it were meant to be, he will find his way to me. If not, there is better! All the best to you too!