I Thought Cancer's Were Loyal!

Okay, here's one for you all!Met a cancer man about 3 years ago...myself a gemini...I know...don't say it! He was everything I ever wanted...kind, sweet, shy, sexy, tall and the sex...WOW! Although we live a good ways apart, we have continued to keep in touch through email and phone. Last email was this month...him telling me how much he wanted to see me and for me to call him. Last time we were together (intimate) was several months ago. Get this...I found out he is married...has been for 4 months...he has no idea I know yet. What is this about? I care so much for this man and waited on him all this time...How should I handle this? Looks to me he has made a huge mistake...if he were happy...why would he still be contacting me and wanting to see me? Does he think I will never find out and he can have his cake and eat it too? Come on you all...let's hear what you got to say about this one!
Confused One

I think you're friend is a bit confused and very unhappy in his marraige. I'm surprised that a "cancer" will do that.
I'm sure his emotions are very much in a state of flux. You MUST let him go - or you will get emotionally drained and sick! He, apparently, needs help. I feel sorry for the poor wife also. Cancer's are not usually players. I just think he is unhappy in his marraige. Let him go!

Thanks for the quick reply! Trust me, no matter how devastated I am...I would not continue to talk to a "MARRIED MAN" But, I will confront him when the time is right. I have to know what he has done and why? Not sure how I'm going to go about it yet. He sure had me fooled, would have never in a million years thought he could do something like this. And yes, I feel sorry for the new wife and I know he is NOT HAPPY! So soon though...Maybe cancer's can be players...I sure would have never thought it of him at all! How would you all confront him about it?

As a quintessential (normal) cancer male, (and I am gay also) - I can assure you that when I am in a relationship, I am very loyal, trustworthy and loving, always giving my partner the stability he needs. I just got dumped (from a virgo), and have been sick about it, but healing.
You must be straight out with him. Also, it probably is NOT a good idea to comfort him, or you will be his crutch. He needs therapy, beyond your help. Besides, you have your life too, and should meet someone that suits your needs. I totally cut mine off - he tried to contact me, but I had to do what's best for ME. There is no room for cheating in any book! Say goodbye to him.

Im sorry - I transposed confront for confort - sorry - scratch that sentence. Just be blunt - that was a cruddy thing for him to do. There are screwballs everywhere I suppose, even in straight life. ( ha ha).

Geminis and Cancers are not usually very compatible in a love pairing.

GEMINI AND CANCER

Passionate Cancer fulfills Gemini's physical needs, and Gemini's cheerfulness brightens Cancer's disposition. But all too soon Gemini's tendency to play at love wounds over sensitive Cancer. Flirtatious Gemini makes Cancer feel very insecure and an affair is likely to be volatile. These two have too little in common for a long term relationship. Cancer needs security and domesticity; Gemini loathes being tied down. Gemini hasn't any patience with Cancer's moodiness, and Gemini's sharp tongue Is too biting for Cancer's fragile ego. They are doomed to a downhill run.

I actually have an opinion on this situation, since I'm a Cancer on the Gemini cusp (I have more Cancer qualities by far then). Sounds like your friend is torn between you and his wife. Affairs bring a certain "security blanket" with them and you are his. BUT, Cancers can be quite convincing when they are after something they can't have so keep your guard up and watch out for empty promises. I've met other Cancers who derive power from playing two people at the same time. Hit him square in the eyes with that one. Good luck Hon.

I am in a very wonderful relationship with a Cancer man. I am a Taurus woman. We give each other everything the other is lacking, I make him feel secure and he rewards me with affection and cuddles. Although his moods put me off sometimes, I still can't help but nurture and encourage him. I trust him completely, and love him very much. I think that if Cancers are happy then they won't cheat, obviously the married Cancer was unhappy.

I agree totally - I am a cancer male - and really, the the thing that makes me happy and content in a realtionship is to feel emotionally secure. I MUST have that or I will wither and die. The thought of cheating when I am in love is the furthest thing from my mind. I take my loved one everywhere I go, even when we are not together physically, but always mentally. Really, all I ask in return is sincere trust, affection, and to be emotionally stable. No games or any other b******* - I DONT deserve that!

hehehe..yea..im a taurus female too..er..on a gemini cusp but i am with a cancer male right now, and its the best, we love eachother very much. And i agree with beee sweet becus when ur happy, y would u want someone else?

Confused One, Cancer men usually ARE loyal, but this one was one bad apple! I can't BELIEVE he's been married and sleeping with you at the same time! My mother warned me about guys like that, and believe me, no matter what sign you are, deception DOESN'T discriminate!