im a cancer and i have trouble letting go

Hi, im a cancer and i have trouble letting go of my ex, she is a capricorn, we had the best relationship going, ok im not going to lie, i use to do all that nt speaking to her, for a lil while, cause i was feeling depressed, and she took it as if i was cheating on her, bt i wasnt, well we broke up, cause she couldnt take my mood swings, bt we still remained close, so she has a bf nw, n i still speak to her, and she still comes to see me, kisses me n stuff, bt nt on the lips, cause she dnt wanna cheat on her bf i guess, bt im always there for her whenever she is down or having a bad day, n i write her poems, cause i really loved her, bt feel she dnt really love me, bt she tells me she does, i just dnt believe her sometimes, n thats leads to arguments n fights, n i say some mean things to her, then when i see that she is hurt, i apologize and ask her to forgive me, so me being all lovey dovey, she sometimes get mad at me and says she has a bf and shuts me down for a while, bt she still gives me play n stuff?

whats going on, im confused its been about a year like this, i swear she is the only girl i want, n i tell her that

oh and she gets jealous alot and talks about my exes, n it gets me mad, i dnt ever say anything about her bf, cause i know it wuld set me off the chart

Dude, i understand you perfectly ! In my case i had a gorgeous pisces but i had to come to US for school.
But it is more than 6 months but i still think about her. Because she was amazing as a result i am also contacting her and she is not dating any body there. It is because of me. But on the other hand i am no promising her something...for her to hang on there for me. I have my own reasons for it. So i am reluctant to commit but also do not want to let her go. Simply because i love her. Pleasant memories keep me contacting her.., it is like if i let her go i am gonna regret it all my life...and i am not going to have such love any more. I have chance to date other girls out there but if start seeing some one i may become distant and she will feel it and move on (she is still there, my poor sweet baby) so i am afraid to spoil our status quo. I have many things that pull me to her also many things that push me away from her. Perhaps i would commit without hesitation if there were not certain issues...Anyway, what i want to say is cancers do not let go easily a good relationship. If it was bad or ok then it would not be a problem. I never look back when i broke up with a libra...
i had a sag which i did not even notice how she disappeared lol. The sag was fun but there was not a connection...

It is like non of 3 billion girls in the world could NOT make you happy but that specific girl...

Posted by Cancer1986LeoCusp
Dude, i understand you perfectly ! In my case i had a gorgeous pisces but i had to come to US for school.
But it is more than 6 months but i still think about her. Because she was amazing as a result i am also contacting her and she is not dating any body there. It is because of me. But on the other hand i am no promising her something...for her to hang on there for me. I have my own reasons for it. So i am reluctant to commit but also do not want to let her go. Simply because i love her. Pleasant memories keep me contacting her.., it is like if i let her go i am gonna regret it all my life...and i am not going to have such love any more. I have chance to date other girls out there but if start seeing some one i may become distant and she will feel it and move on (she is still there, my poor sweet baby) so i am afraid to spoil our status quo. I have many things that pull me to her also many things that push me away from her. Perhaps i would commit without hesitation if there were not certain issues...Anyway, what i want to say is cancers do not let go easily a good relationship. If it was bad or ok then it would not be a problem. I never look back when i broke up with a libra...
i had a sag which i did not even notice how she disappeared lol. The sag was fun but there was not a connection...

It is like non of 3 billion girls in the world could NOT make you happy but that specific girl...

yooo i think about this cappy everyday, its nt a day i dnt think of her, i was with her for a year n 2weeks, its nuffn i wuldnt do for this girl, id do anything to make her happy, im tried to date other girls, bt im jus so into this cappy that i just forget about the other girls, they dnt even matter, and i feel u on the part about, if u let them go, ur goin to regret it ur whole life, i feel the same way man, thats why i havent left, i dont wanna lose her at all, its funny ur talking bout a sag, i have one of them nw, we wuld be on the phone n she wuld jus start talkin bout hw some1 was getting at her today and blah blah, um like wtf lol, bt back to the cappy, i love her to death, serzly words cant describe the way i feel for her,

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Posted by HandsomeCancer
Hi, im a cancer and i have trouble letting go of my ex, she is a capricorn, we had the best relationship going, ok im not going to lie, i use to do all that nt speaking to her, for a lil while, cause i was feeling depressed, and she took it as if i was cheating on her, bt i wasnt, well we broke up, cause she couldnt take my mood swings, bt we still remained close, so she has a bf nw, n i still speak to her, and she still comes to see me, kisses me n stuff, bt nt on the lips, cause she dnt wanna cheat on her bf i guess, bt im always there for her whenever she is down or having a bad day, n i write her poems, cause i really loved her, bt feel she dnt really love me, bt she tells me she does, i just dnt believe her sometimes, n thats leads to arguments n fights, n i say some mean things to her, then when i see that she is hurt, i apologize and ask her to forgive me, so me being all lovey dovey, she sometimes get mad at me and says she has a bf and shuts me down for a while, bt she still gives me play n stuff?

whats going on, im confused its been about a year like this, i swear she is the only girl i want, n i tell her that

oh and she gets jealous alot and talks about my exes, n it gets me mad, i dnt ever say anything about her bf, cause i know it wuld set me off the chart

Maybe you should challenge her and ask her if she even has any good, solid reason to believe you cheated on her. She's playing you for a fool, having a new boyfrend whilst still meeting up with you and allowing the kind of romantic or semi-romantic contact you both still have. She knows how you feel about her and what she's allowing isn't fair on either you or him. I think you should question whether or not she's worthy of your love from what i've read. Not the other way around. Just my thoughts.

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thats what im trying to figure out now!!! she confuses me honestly lol, idk what to do, hw shuld i question her?

Posted by LoveBucket
Poor thing, IMO, the Capricorn woman is one of God's best creations, therefore, I can see why you're still crooning.

she's an angel, the most beautifuless thing i have ever met, i swear i got only eyes for her

Posted by HandsomeCancer
Hi, im a cancer and i have trouble letting go of my ex, she is a capricorn, we had the best relationship going, ok im not going to lie, i use to do all that nt speaking to her, for a lil while, cause i was feeling depressed, and she took it as if i was cheating on her, bt i wasnt, well we broke up, cause she couldnt take my mood swings, bt we still remained close, so she has a bf nw, n i still speak to her, and she still comes to see me, kisses me n stuff, bt nt on the lips, cause she dnt wanna cheat on her bf i guess, bt im always there for her whenever she is down or having a bad day, n i write her poems, cause i really loved her, bt feel she dnt really love me, bt she tells me she does, i just dnt believe her sometimes, n thats leads to arguments n fights, n i say some mean things to her, then when i see that she is hurt, i apologize and ask her to forgive me, so me being all lovey dovey, she sometimes get mad at me and says she has a bf and shuts me down for a while, bt she still gives me play n stuff?

whats going on, im confused its been about a year like this, i swear she is the only girl i want, n i tell her that

oh and she gets jealous alot and talks about my exes, n it gets me mad, i dnt ever say anything about her bf, cause i know it wuld set me off the chart

Hey homey, it seems as though she is an emotionally abusive person. The fact that she says she has a boyfriend and shuts you down seems to convey a message that she is interested in hurting you emotionally when she is upset, and that is not fair.

Listen to your heart, man. If you sense that she doesn't really love you as a human being, then get away from her.

You need a woman who will truly love you as a person, not someone who is emotionally hurtful.

cancers have a real hard time letting go! that is sooo true,seen it in my friends that
are cancers all the time.

Hey homey, did you get away from that snake and get yourself a quality woman or what?!

Posted by LoveBucket
Poor thing, IMO, the Capricorn woman is one of God's best creations, therefore, I can see why you're still crooning.

LOL.

It's just funny to hear that from a Cap, men or women they usually think they are God's gift to the world. Like it's a blessing to be in their presence. Oh they have some big personalities.

nahh haters. he can get her back. theres always going back. stop hating

awww..Speaking as someone older than you HandsomeCancer, I used to be just like you. Every crush I had felt like true love, and I truthfully felt I would never feel that way about anyone again until the next one came along. And usually he was very different from the last. It may just be a young thing, not a Cancer thing, and you are still young. Let it simmer for a while, but not too long. As you get older, it will get easier to let go of people and situations. I promise. Just keep going on with your life, and don't let the memories of this past relationship get in the way of your present and future. It is easier said than done. But I promise it gets better. Cancers have a reservoir of emotional strength. As long as your shell doesn't prevent you from moving on, (which can still be an issue with me personally), you will do fine.