in love with a cancer man....alas!

hello,

i wish to know about how cancerian men behave when they r in love.......... any cancer males care to help me out? or anyone whose been in love with a cancer man............. im an aries girl, direct n straightfwd....... n have absolutely no clue wht these complex men think.

why do they hide their feelings........ whts the reasoning to tht??

It's just the way they are, and they will continue to hide them until they are sure of you. Believe me, this is something you have little control over.

The best thing is to be what you are, not what he wants you to be. Don't cheat, don't mislead; don't give him any reason not to trust you. He's got it all to give, but without a precedence grounded in stone, you won't get it.

Hi Jabbarsher

Im a cancerian male, at the moment im very interested in a Libra female, im dying to tell her directly how i feel for her, but i find it difficult, just as the crab walks side ways, we cancerians tend to go into a situation sideways, i do, its like im scared of the rejection or embarrassment, im a bit frightened to say to a woman that im interested in, just exactly how i feel about her, even though there are signs that she may be interested in me too, i always think to myself, what if im wrong, i will look a fool, for this young woman that im interested in at the moment there is nothing that i wouldnt do for her, its torture holding the feeling inside of me, i want to open the flood gates and pour out my love to her but so terrified of the direct approach, when i get more trust in a woman and shes even more open and honest with me then i eventually let it all out, once i know shes in love as much as i am i will explain myself deeply, i have no problem doing that once im sure of it, one of my ex partners used to look almost shocked and amazed at how i would pour out my deepest feelings to her, i will gladly tell a woman how i feel for her, but usually only once im sure thats its right to.

moloko

Reasons for holding our feeling inside? Rejection, if we had past hurts we kinda protect ourselves, and withdraw at times. If however we sense u love us and say, mean and show dat truthfully then we open up a lil more.

I agree with Daemon, i was hurt deeply by a taurus female in the past, we cancerian males take things very deep, if you can show how you really feel to a cancer man he will definately respond more, he just needs to know first, just scared of more hurt basically.

dear moloko, thanks i think he behave quite the way you do, but one thing i dont like is that at times when he is very sad and emotional, a few times he has been like this..... at these times he calls me and is really emotional telling me how much he cares for me and all that, also that he just cannot show his feelings and express his emotions......... and i feel so nice at these times.....

but then after this heart to heart kinda talk.......... he just disappears , if i call, he is busyy, or then he is cracking silly jokes, he's just not the serious emotional man that i spoke to.........

being an aries i am very direct, so i even asked him about that day, and he goes like 'oh that, i must have been drunk i dont remember what i said, what did i say?"

imagine how i feel..... i dunno what to make of it, he is interested at times, then he backs off, is cool as ever, disappears.........

does he like me or not??

do you also behave in such a terrible manner with your lady—?

also sometimes i get this dreadful feeling that i may not mean much to him, and maybe he's just doin some timepass.....

Hi jabbarsher

I cried once in front of my ex girlfriend, not just a few tears, it was proper sobbing, like uncontrollable, this really startled my girlfriend of the time, she was not used to seeing this from me, she regularly asked me if i loved her and said that she sometimes was in doubt as to whether i did love her, i did of course but being a cancerian i go through those silly moods too, that damn moon ruling us, lol, after i cried i too acted kinda funny, as i felt embarrassed at letting myself go, even though im male each full moon makes me feel emotional, i can feel tearful, sounds soft dosnt it, i know us men are not supposed to, it just makes me more sensitive around that time, i would say that your cancer man does like you, hes doing the typical cancer things, im sorry that we cause this confusion, im going through some confusion myself at the moment with a Libra lady that i like, i have no lady at the moment but have behaved in similar ways to how you explained with past women, we try desperately to hide our true feelings at times. Cancerians do care, so very much, more than you can imagine, sometimes when im acting tough to the outside world im actually in pieces inside, sometimes when i like a woman if im feeling a bit unsure of her feelings towards me i may go off in the opposite direction and pretend im not really interested, il watch her from afar, its because im scared then that maybe ive opened up to her and worry that i may end up looking foolish if she isnt feeling the same.

Cancer men stab you & watch you bleed. Good luck.

Thats a bit harsh

Hey taurus, if "my chick" kissed some other guy, that would be a big disappointment. I wouldn't react like your guy anymore, but i used to be like that. It's not "just a kiss" to us.

Well then he should let it go. Not drag my heart along! Maybe he's thinking, I don't know. I emailed him telling him how amazing things could be if we just tried to understand each other. He called me telling me that he completely agreed. Then asked me to pick him up. He also asked if I was serious about trying things out again cuz he's got girls hitting on him out there(where is stayed for a month). I said I was, but that he must be serious too. It seems like everything is a test with him, and I have NO idea where I stand. Last time we talked he was a sweetheart. That was a week ago. This is a merry-go-round and I'm staying in it because I was crazy about him. Seems like instead me & him are just going crazy.

I don't want to run down anyone, but I feel like this guy is making me lose my mind!!! Ok, I will calm down. Sorry.

What is with people being sorry all the time?

Anyway, things might have gone too far between you. Usually, when i start hesitating, it can never get to what it was before. Consider that as a possibility.
He might be trying to hurt you like he's been hurt or something, i have done that too and only realized too late, i had already been mean and it was over.

Mr. Crabby, sorry because I made a pretty rude comment on the cancer man. I lash out in anger. That is part of being human. Cancerboy emailed apologies & said he was coming out next week instead. I don't really know what to say. I kinda have felt like things have just gone to wrong to be right again. Some things are, just better left alone. I feel much better today anyways. Sometimes I just gotta take a few steps back & see the big picture. It's hard to do that, when you're still right in the picture. Time is a good thing.

As a cancerian, i do have an all or nothing attitude, therefore i want to know that my love, time and efforts are not going to be wasted on someone who im willing to dedicate myself to, i found with my last partner ( a taurus female ) that i was in full support of everything and always a shoulder for her to cry on, yet when i did finally need that kind of support back, not only was she unable to return it but she wiped me from her life completely, she let christmas pass first though, she wanted those gifts, oh and valentines too, then 3 days after valentines i was trashed from her life, to rub salt into the wounds a little further, she made a compilation video tape of some of our times together, why? im not sure either, maybe to toture me? to screw up my head? maybe, i was possibly the hardest situation i had dealt with, not saying that another taurus would do this but this particular that i was with really took me by suprise. It hurt me enough that her name is not used within our family since.

Yikes, taurus women can be selfish! Sorry to hear about that. My situation is a little different. I really want to be with this guy.

I just checked your profile taurusgoddess and you have similar facial features and hair as my ex partner, you remend me of her too much, il stay clear of your profile, no offence, lol, if she was on fire i wouldnt piss on her now to put out the fire.

Wow! the tables have turned for rudeness. Sorry to hear.

HMMmmm taurus and cancer bashin, dat's loveeeee,awwwwww,lol. I 'll tell u this GOdess don't fall in that trap,if he call u then jus talk some mad sh**. Joke and if he brings up anything of da past and faults jus forget it. although we don't forget. U have to move on.

Yeah,some of those things like the "kiss" thing isn't as black and white as you guys may think.Read the rest of the story going on around that situation,beyond feelings of jealousy and his insecurities there isn't much fault in the "cheating" department on TG's side.Sure,some people think playing games works-it doesn't it's only what you allow yourself to think and you leave the truth out of it.Im still standing behind her 100% on this one,he seems to be immature in communicating and im sure people will have kids if they wanted one.The only way someone is supposed to KNOW something is if you tell them otherwise the actions taken tells them other things.

If your uncomfortable at a party,you say so before you leave and ditch your girlfriend and leave her with nothing to believe the two of you are together for three weeks,otherwise you deserve that to happen and you aren't in the right if your so concerned with your own "feelings" that your blindsided to other peoples and thier thoughts.The dude needs to grow up.

"she let christmas pass first though, she wanted those gifts, oh and valentines too, then 3 days after valentines i was trashed from her life"

That was predictible. When she don't give straight answer on the occasion then she waits something. No no no, no waiting. Just answer or get lost.

Wow! Where do I begin? I met a cancer man almost two years ago. We began communicating via e-mail (he lives in another state and I was married at the time). First, it started out as strictly friends, however I always felt there was a strong attraction on both sides because when I didn't write him for a while, he would pop up out of the blue with some unrelating email (like a joke or something) to get my attention. After a year and a half of doing this, I got to see him again. He came to a city near mine to do a show (he sings) and I met him after the show. He was very affectionate....hugging, touching my hair....holding my hand, and he even gave me a long kiss on the cheek at the end. I was in heaven!!!! He sent me e-mails on Christmas day and then....he sent me a song, recorded with his own voice...that basically confessed his feelings of love...this was all done via email. When I asked him to share his inspiration for the song...he ignored my emails about that and just told me that he had written it. By this time....I'm really in love...not to mention the problems I was having in my marriage...long before he came into the picture. I confessed my feelings for him in the form of e-mail and of course...he never responded about the subject. I just felt like I needed to tell him how I had fallen for him....I'm not sure why he has not touched on it....he is single...so he has nothing to hide there. He is a professional entertainer , but is very old fashioned with traditional values. I have separated( and soon to be divorced from my husband) and my cancer man knows this. Recently, after my separation 3 months ago...I made plans to see my cancer man again....after a show. I explained to him...in an email...that I wanted to spend some time with him alone....several weeks later (like he's thinking about it) that he's in no way interested in me in that way....I guess he meant romantically. Well, me being the Leo woman that I am...told him the same...he never addressed it again. We've had several spats via email and I always apologize or suck up because I really do like him and he's always very understanding....and loving (in the form of email) and tells me that I should keep doing what I do and that me and my heart will be greatly rewarded.....He's sending me alot of MIXED signals....I'm not sure if I should give up on him or not....I have a small internet business that I developed in his honor, that is about his career...for that he's always been very thankful, gr

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thankful, grateful and supportive. It continues to grow and he always tells me to keep doing what I'm doing FOR HIM. He told my friend that he needs me...that he doesn't know what he would do without me, but he tells me He's not interested. He calls very rarely...but only for business related stuff. I may have been a little pushy...because I wanted him so bad....but he knew this from the very beginning, I'm sure. Lately, I've been thinking that I should back off and see what happpens....He wants me to continue to support his career in the manner that I do... and he says that there's abbout to be a major change in his career and that he's going to need me....I told him I will always be there for him. Now, that I'm separated...I'm going through alot of emotional stuff trying to start my life over, and I've shared some of the details with him, but he does not respond to it directly, however he did say that he was sent here to comfort me in troubling times....I'm not sure how he expects to do this via email from another state....and of course he won't expand on it. What's a girl to do—?PLEASE HELP!!!!!