is it just me or all the cancerians are like this?

Hey I have a habbit of ruining perfectly good relationship. I fall in and out of love real easily. I don't know if its me or if it is my zodiac sign.Right now I am in a perfectly healthy relationship with my boyfriend but there is this other guy in my office that i have started to fall for. The major problem is that this other guy has a girlfriend. He flirts with me all the time and he knows i have a bf too.he just texts me all the time and would say sweetest of things to me. (BTW this other guy is leo) i have fallen for him real bad. All i do is think about him and this is ruining my relation with my bf. I cant break it off with my bf either. I am too scared to hurt anyone. any suggestions?

You will probably hide this later, when the negative comments come in.. or when you get embarrassed about speaking your feelings.. BUT

yes, I do think it's a sign thing. I think Cancers have a problem with falling in love with love.. the chase. We get all caught up in the whimsical mysticism of it all... and then it wears off. Or we no longer feel that rush and we start to get bored, or create drama in our relationships to keep the emotions high.

When I was younger, I only liked guys that never really liked me because the fantasy of them was better than the reality. Stable, loving, committed relationships don't hold enough of a spark for a younger Cancer and the quest for 'the one' the new adventure, the new feelings of love are always calling.

I don't think you can shake it.. you may just have to find an alternative way to get that emotional fix. i.e.. Surround yourself with drama riddled friends, find someone that you will never be able to actually catch or live a double life.

I think it's important to realize stuff like this about yourself so you don't continually hurt other people.

yes! it is a thing with many cancers. i am a cancer sun and moon. I fall out of love for no reason what so ever. i can wake up and the man's face can all of a sudden make me want to vomit and just like that...it is over. I cry and they cry but I still have to leave because i in no way want them anymore. the guys that are hard to get...when i do get them and everything is all wonderful-> the vomit feeling comes and it is over. it is a real problem for me. i do not want to live with whom ever i marry. i think that may help.

it is really safe for someone in a relationship to flirt with another, prob is it messes things up if it is really provocative flirting. Why do you like him? is it because he is unattainable, unavailable and flirts?

I don't think it is your sign. I rarely meet cancers who are here and there with relationships. I know I am not. I get infatuated, 2 infatuations i have had still linger, one really is screaming in my head which may not be an infatuation ( 2 yrs is a long time for it). I thin it is just you dear. Sort your feelings out. If oyu need to break up do so, because otherwise you will really hurt your bf. If you can not be there for him he deserves someone who does. not saying you are bad for him but being emotionally somewhere is not fair.

Posted by Mooniemooneyes
I get infatuated, 2 infatuations i have had still linger, one really is screaming in my head which may not be an infatuation ( 2 yrs is a long time for it).

This is kinda what I'm talking about... Cancers get infatuated, and this can happen in and out of a relationship.

Infatuations are great because we can dream and fantasize and convince ourselves that this is true love and reject, ignore and overlook real life men who want a relationship with us.
I've done this so many times.

"Go out with you? I can't... I have all these feelings for Guy X who is totally wrong for me... but I'll stick with that before trying to make it work with you cause I don't have those kinds of "feelings" for you."

Or, now our real life bf isn't looking that great because i've becoming infatuated with my co-worker. I agree it can happen to any sign, especially in the work place... but Cancers may be a bit more prone to it.

Posted by shellshocker
You will probably hide this later, when the negative comments come in.. or when you get embarrassed about speaking your feelings.. BUT

yes, I do think it's a sign thing. I think Cancers have a problem with falling in love with love.. the chase. We get all caught up in the whimsical mysticism of it all... and then it wears off. Or we no longer feel that rush and we start to get bored, or create drama in our relationships to keep the emotions high.

When I was younger, I only liked guys that never really liked me because the fantasy of them was better than the reality. Stable, loving, committed relationships don't hold enough of a spark for a younger Cancer and the quest for 'the one' the new adventure, the new feelings of love are always calling.

I don't think you can shake it.. you may just have to find an alternative way to get that emotional fix. i.e.. Surround yourself with drama riddled friends, find someone that you will never be able to actually catch or live a double life.
I think it's important to realize stuff like this about yourself so you don't continually hurt other people.

ok, i'm a virgo very interested in my cancer man which is why i'm posting.... BUT i have to agree with what u have said. i have a cancer in venus so not sure if that pertains to this...but i fall in love with love, or i used to. only thing holding me back is my virgo mind telling me to think twice about it and analyze it. i've always loved the chase, and i think thats why i am so attracted to my cancer. he's not easy to figure out like most people for me, and it keeps me on my toes, just like he does for me. he has a different way of saying the same thing, which i love. in the end.. i think if you really care and love someone, your heart knows.

I dont think so, once i am in love with someone, Thats IT! I dont even go looking for trouble. I dont need to flirt to feel better i dont try and make my man jealous.. My man is a Capricorn so he is already naturally jealous, when were in public he has his eyes on my every move. So i wouldnt want to instigate that. If you can fall for someone else or look elsewhere, than you are obviously NOT in LOVE! You are in a routine you dont wanna break. Break it off or dont, but cheating in my eyes, is purely unforgiveable!

Posted by anniej
Hey I have a habbit of ruining perfectly good relationship. I fall in and out of love real easily. I don't know if its me or if it is my zodiac sign.Right now I am in a perfectly healthy relationship with my boyfriend but there is this other guy in my office that i have started to fall for. The major problem is that this other guy has a girlfriend. He flirts with me all the time and he knows i have a bf too.he just texts me all the time and would say sweetest of things to me. (BTW this other guy is leo) i have fallen for him real bad. All i do is think about him and this is ruining my relation with my bf. I cant break it off with my bf either. I am too scared to hurt anyone. any suggestions?

I'd suggest staying single and seek counseling. or just break up with your bf, go bang the dude. and when it blows up in your face, throw yourself a pity party because you're incapable of keeping your proverbial dick in your pants.

Not a cancer....but sometimes the thrill can be all in the chase & once you have them....you just dont want them..
.Ive heard of this many times...I think when you truly love someone, truly in love a situation such as this cannot touch you...yes, you can find someone attractive...its human but to have your mind affixiated on it to the point of contemplating leaving your true relationship for someone who is already taken...I would definitely revisit/evaluate my true feelings for the other person. Maybe try the single thing as to not hurt anyones feelings.