is this cancer guy interested in dating me or not?

Okay I made a topic on here a few weeks back about a cancer guy I keep seeing in the hallway,
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/is-this-cancer-guy-too-young-for-me-3725837/#3725838<BR> so I decided to make the first move, and we've been talking and getting to know each other. From the first week of talking, he was very straight forward in asking what I was looking for, and I let him know,.something long term and serious but at a slow and steady pace, you kno friends first he was honest and told me he's not exactly looking for a relationship right now especially with his classes and two jobs, he will have no time for her, but he still wants us to take the time n get to kno each other. So now e'er getting to know each other, I made the errors of makinf out with him, today, not that I regret bcuz I enjoyed it n he didn't try to grope me, he was efeectionate we were insynced, there was lip biting involved lol, i ran my hand down his chest, i cupprd his face and kissed himT deepy, but no tongue. a very good kisser he is. i actually stop kissing him and got out the car lol telling him he was going to be to be late for work, he said thats okay he will risk it lol And I did ask him again what's he,looking for exactly since we aren't dating, he said a friend, I said with benefits he said no to chill but my friends think he's just trying to hit it and quit it and that he might think that's what I want so he might be playing along . I think he likes me he calls text, I'm still playing the field, whenever he sees me in anymore he comes up and say Hi, he's always looking at me, smiles at him, he seems to enjoy and wants my company. Like last week when I got to school I went into the reading lab, he was there I didn't see him until he approached me and hugged me, he had to head to class then so I walked with him out we talked for a few minutes and he left, but he came back in there two minutes later bcuz his class was being held there, my friends point him out, I just look slightly in his direction but not at him, but from side glance he was looking at me the whole time until he sat down across from us. He eyes was in me the whole time. So I'm confused: / am being played moving too fast? What should I do, oh n I'm as Virgo

This cancer boy really likes you a lot !!!! He sounds like my cancer. Lol. This is exactly how they act! Always staring at you, calling you regularly, needing to be near you, gives sneaky glances, likes alone time, lots of sweet soft kisses. 🙂 I admit at first these guys are so charming it comes across as if they only want to hit & diss, but many times they genuinely really adore you!!! They always move pretty quick when they're interested. Once you give him time you're going to see how deeply he's fallen for you. So don't pressure him. Just flirt & have fun but don't move too fast, you don't want to be stuck as friends with benefits. Keep playing the field & get to know eachother because relationships aren't all about the physical.

But most importantly stay who you are & don't change.... He's drawn to you just the way you are.
Cancer Virgos rock!

He definitely likes you but he already told you he doesn't want a relationship, believe him. However, it's possible that he could change his mind. Continue getting to know him but make it clear that you won't be intimate with anyone unless you're in an exclusive serious relationship.

I'm not sure if he really does, judging by his interaction with me today. I was coming out if the math lab today and saw him standing by the door Leading outside, he had hid hack turn to me. I said Hi how are he said good as nd u I said okay, when is your next class he said in exactly ten minutes, keep in mind his back was still turn to me, he was still look-in out the window and just gave me a quick side glance, his Respond was quick and short. He seemed like he wasn't in the mood to talk or for any company. So I said oh okay, see you later Cheerfully and walked off.when I got back there about two minutes later, he was gone. So I went across to the n building, and I was outside in the hallway talking talking to some friends when I saw him came in, I was talking and looking in his direction from a side glance. He stopped and looked at me, and he was looking almost like he was waiting for me to look, he seemed to be waiting or graduating, still looking until I saw he went inside his class. I would've sticked around and went up to him, I don't want time seem clingy Or desperate, plus he didn't seem to care much for my attention, even after what happened yesterday. Is he ignoring me now?

Posted by Acrab
your reading into this to much

I do realize I am. But I'm just trying my best not to end up getting hurt again. After my last encounter with a Taurus guy, for once I want to be safe and If as anything get out before I get too attached

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Posted by Essielove

Posted by Acrab
your reading into this to much

I do realize I am. But I'm just trying my best not to end up getting hurt again. After my last encounter with a Taurus guy, for once I want to be safe and If as anything get out before I get too attached

Whoa.....slow down. Remember. Friends...friends...friends.

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Lol right, thank you for that wake up call: )!

Typical crab behavior 🙂
This is how they are when they get in a mood. Give quick conversations & then they will shy off. But get this ! They come back & wait for you to notice them across the room haha. He KNOWS he did not act his usual friendly self. So he returned & watched you to see how his reaction affected you. Im sure he felt bad. Heck, i know he felt bad. I've been there with my crab in the early friend stages too. Same scenario & I responded like you...smiled & walked away all fine. Minutes later he stalked me & I could tell he genuinely felt bad. That's why you keep having that sweet, calm spirit that you have.

Don't take it personal. He's human & allowed to have a crappy day. He still likes you. Keep it friendly 🙂

Posted by Essielove
I'm not sure if he really does, judging by his interaction with me today. I was coming out if the math lab today and saw him standing by the door Leading outside, he had hid hack turn to me. I said Hi how are he said good as nd u I said okay, when is your next class he said in exactly ten minutes, keep in mind his back was still turn to me, he was still look-in out the window and just gave me a quick side glance, his Respond was quick and short. He seemed like he wasn't in the mood to talk or for any company. So I said oh okay, see you later Cheerfully and walked off.when I got back there about two minutes later, he was gone. So I went across to the n building, and I was outside in the hallway talking talking to some friends when I saw him came in, I was talking and looking in his direction from a side glance. He stopped and looked at me, and he was looking almost like he was waiting for me to look, he seemed to be waiting or graduating, still looking until I saw he went inside his class. I would've sticked around and went up to him, I don't want time seem clingy Or desperate, plus he didn't seem to care much for my attention, even after what happened yesterday. Is he ignoring me now?

Don't take it personal, remember that Cancers are moody. I'm sure it has nothing to do with you, he was probably having a bad day, tired or feeling down. This happens to me a lot especially when I haven't had a good night's sleep. There are times that I feel down and I don't feel like socializing with anyone especially the guy I like 'cause I don't want him to see me in such a bad state. Whenever he gets like this, don't ignore him. Make sure to acknowledge him but if you see that he's being quiet and unsociable give him space.

Posted by Rapunzel
Typical crab behavior 🙂
This is how they are when they get in a mood. Give quick conversations & then they will shy off. But get this ! They come back & wait for you to notice them across the room haha. He KNOWS he did not act his usual friendly self. So he returned & watched you to see how his reaction affected you. Im sure he felt bad. Heck, i know he felt bad. I've been there with my crab in the early friend stages too. Same scenario & I responded like you...smiled & walked away all fine. Minutes later he stalked me & I could tell he genuinely felt bad. That's why you keep having that sweet, calm spirit that you have.

Don't take it personal. He's human & allowed to have a crappy day. He still likes you. Keep it friendly 🙂

100% correct, he feels bad that he wasn't his normal self with Essielove and now is probably worrying if she's still going to like him lol

^^^ lol. Yea he probably feels like he ruined everything ! Lol.
He'll think of something to do & say to make up for it. He wont stay away from her too long 🙂

Lol he probably was.
Anyway I saw him today after class, while leaving my career advisors office. He said hi smiling I said Hi back, I wasn't in a good mood I supposed he noticed because he asked what's wrong I said I was in a bad mood about something he ask by who or what I said I didn't want annoy him with anything he leaned over and hugged need and told me to tell him he doesn't mind. So I did. Anyway when we got outside he asked if he was okay he seemed like he was in a bit of as muddle yesterday he laughed and said yes he was, I asked why what's wrong he said it's something he's going thru and he has to sit down and discuss it with his parents, which he's about to do when he gets home since he doesn't work today. I did offer consideration and to be a friend and asked if he wanted time talk about it he said no that's okay it's personal and he rather not discuss it in public. I said okay I respect your privacy. So as after I realized he had to get going so I give him a hug and kiss on the cheek, until he shifted his face and I ended up loading him on his mouth, twice lol

See, he's back to normal! lol. No bad mood will keep a cancer boy away from the girl he likes. They just have to be in her presence, even if it's just for 2 minutes. Im sure he's been daydreaming about kissing you all week haha. This story is unfolding so nicely. You are doing great !!!!

He likes you but he's also being honest when he tells you he's not looking for a relationship. Stay friendly and flirty and let him come to you. Play hard to get. If he likes you, he'll chase. Cancer men are very traditional. They need to lead but they also need signals that they're liked first, which you gave him, so that was good. Just be patient and wait for your crabbie to scuttle back to you. In the meantime, live your life & do your best in school! Good luck!

Yesterday I saw him when I came out of class to use the restroom, he was passing by at that time. I smiled n d
said Hi, he did the same and then I was lingering, Like he was expecting me to say something else. I take it he was late for class, since his start the same time mines did.so I said well okay see you and hurried away. After class I saw him in th's hallway, he was on his but looking my way.

And now I just txt Him, We were talking about school n spring brk plans, n I asked If he wanted to hang out, he just said I already have plans. I was so embarrassed I said well okay lol didn't hurt to ask you lol n now avoid further embarrassment I will talk to you later
He replied back saying essa I don't think right now things are going to work with us, right now.

What did I do r say to get such a rejection, I tossed myself out there and again I get hurt. This always happen

YOU did not do anything wrong!! You're perfect for him & he knows it. Trust me, it's him & whatever problems he's having at home. He's going through a lot. I truly believe he desires having you in his life, its just something going on holding him back right now. He said,

"I don't think right now things are going to work with us, right now"

He said things won't work right NOW. He didn't say they won't EVER work. So I think in the future he will try again. Please don't over analyze or blame yourself. Just keep being busy with your life & don't wait around for him either. Live your life & keep that spirit of sweetness that you have because thats why he's drawn to you. He will come back 🙂

Sorry things turned out this way but like Rapunzel said you did not do anything wrong. If he's meant to be for you he will come back, in the meantime continue living your life and don't wait around for him. If you see him say hi and be friendly but don't expect anything. Who knows there might be a better guy out there waiting for you to notice him.

Awh thank you guys so much for all ur help. But I doubt there will ever be s chance of me n him getting together. I mean I did ask him what He meant by what he said n I never got as reply back. So thats it. I'm closing book on this chapter of my life I don't want to feel this kind of emotion, the rejection. But I should've known it was going to end this way. It won't happened again.

Well I haven't received any replied from him since: ( when I asked what he meant exactly. He never replied b as class. What does that mean?

Okay so here's an update. When I returned to class the week after spring break I didn't see him that first wk at all. It wasn't until last a wk ago I saw him, and he was looking at me, staring alot then one day last week I saw when I went outside, he walking to class late , he Stop I said Hi he reply and then told me he won't lie to me n he will be straight forward he was upset when he said it he has alot going on bcuz he needs to focus on school n his family isn't happy about his grades. I told him I understood school is anyone's first pririoty. Anyway I asked what he meant by thing weren't going to work out he said he though things were moving too fast with us, which shock bcuz he never date just talked and kiss you know lol so I didn't consider us moving along , if anything I say we were testing the water. Anyway on Wednesday I saw him in the hallway again and I asked how he was he said good and me I said okay and I said okay bye. After class I went to the lab and there he was working working on paper he looked up and smiled so much when he saw me and we talked for a while, after a while I worked on checking my paper and then left when I got back he was gone.

Now today I wasn't in class today since I had an emergency. He doesn't have class on Friday, and of nowhere he texted me asking if I was in school I didn't know it was him, since he never replied to my message since that day, I was upset and removed him from my phone..so I replied back asking who it was, he said his name. I said Hi, sorry am not in school today I had something to do. He never replied back I guess he's upset by me not recognizing his number but I was upset from the day he didn't replied back that I figured he lost interest so I deleted him. Was I wrong for removing him? And not knowing his number?

Girl I knew ya'll friendship wasn't over ! Lol. When he said things were moving too fast, he really was saying HE was FALLING too soon!!

You was not wrong at all for removing his number. You figured the friendship had sank like the Titanic. Therefore It wasn't your fault that you didn't recognize his number. Today he was testing the waters when he had texted you. They send little "tester" texts to see if you're mad. He didn't reply back because he figured you was too busy. He'll be alright. Anytime I'm too busy for my crab, he sulks for a little while...Virgals are always busy doing something important aren't we ? I find it so cute that he still goes around staring at you & finding ways to approach you....those are good signs lol. Continue to let him come to you & be yourself.

Overall you're still doing good. You're being very classy & kind. He's getting back to himself. 🙂

Posted by Rapunzel
Girl I knew ya'll friendship wasn't over ! Lol. When he said things were moving too fast, he really was saying HE was FALLING too soon!!

You was not wrong at all for removing his number. You figured the friendship had sank like the Titanic. Therefore It wasn't your fault that you didn't recognize his number. Today he was testing the waters when he had texted you. They send little "tester" texts to see if you're mad. He didn't reply back because he figured you was too busy. He'll be alright. Anytime I'm too busy for my crab, he sulks for a little while...Virgals are always busy doing something important aren't we ? I find it so cute that he still goes around staring at you & finding ways to approach you....those are good signs lol. Continue to let him come to you & be yourself.

Overall you're still doing good. You're being very classy & kind. He's getting back to himself. 🙂

Lol awwhh thank you: )! My bff think it's messed up I didn't recognized his number and the other one thinks it it sad okay, bcuz I don't need to lol. You see, the reason why I did was to help me move on. I waited all week for him to reply back and he never did so cleaned my phone of him and inbox. So that way I won't get upset thinking about n be tempted in texting him. For I'm one of those ppl who needs closure and I might h as very text him so if his number isn't there then I can't Lol right? But yeah I was busy, I was busy spending the day refining myself for spring I hated that I went back to class with my old fall look. So I spend all day getting my hair nails n everything done. So the next time he sees me he we I'll think damming! I messed up lol my bff said that when she saw me afterwards, saying He's gonna like my new girly look.

Anyway when I did ask him after get said he though we were moving too fast I did ask him "did you even like me " I laughed it off he said "Yeah" then hesitate saying he liked me but not sure how much. So I'm like okay cool n laughed. like he's confused n I can't go on waiting for him to make up his mind. So I'm really glad I wasnt In class on Friday When he asked, bcuz in some ways I kinda want to avoid him a little . See less of him, make him wonder. You can't tell if you like me to be with me,then okay I will move on n give his space to do what he gotta do n I do the same.

It totally makes since to me that you would delete his number...If the number isn't there, you're not tempted to text him. Smart move girl! Just keep in mind that crab guys don't let go very easily...they keep coming back if they like you.

In other news, you went spring shopping ?? Wow you sound so much like me! Haha. I love looking good for my crab...very feminine. He loves It too. Just like you I literally picked out cute outfits. My long hair always flowed in the wind too lol. My thing is, since he's going to stare at me everyday, why don't I just make him drool lol. Your crab is going to notice your new look next time for sure!! Girl I'm so glad to know this is a Virgal thing...It's like non-verbally saying, "see what you'll miss out on buddy boy" 😉 But In the end, crab guys really love your inner beauty more than anything. Your sweet, calm spirit is what really catches their eyes.

And yea since he's so confused let him miss you. Let him wonder some. Give him the space & do your thing. You don't have time for a guy to "hesitate" about liking you. Just know your perfect just the way you are & he would be crazy to let a you go. 🙂

And yes of course, he'll be back lol

Posted by Rapunzel
It totally makes since to me that you would delete his number...If the number isn't there, you're not tempted to text him. Smart move girl! Just keep in mind that crab guys don't let go very easily...they keep coming back if they like you.

In other news, you went spring shopping ?? Wow you sound so much like me! Haha. I love looking good for my crab...very feminine. He loves It too. Just like you I literally picked out cute outfits. My long hair always flowed in the wind too lol. My thing is, since he's going to stare at me everyday, why don't I just make him drool lol. Your crab is going to notice your new look next time for sure!! Girl I'm so glad to know this is a Virgal thing...It's like non-verbally saying, "see what you'll miss out on buddy boy" 😉 But In the end, crab guys really love your inner beauty more than anything. Your sweet, calm spirit is what really catches their eyes.

And yea since he's so confused let him miss you. Let him wonder some. Give him the space & do your thing. You don't have time for a guy to "hesitate" about liking you. Just know your perfect just the way you are & he would be crazy to let a you go. 🙂

And yes of course, he'll be back lol

Well I saw him today and I did explain to him why I didn't recognized his number. And asked what it was he asking why if I was in school and apparently he just wanted to hang out so I asked why would he want to chill with me and he said bcuz he was home and bored and had nothing to do, n he wanted to see if I was at School and wanted to hangout. which I told him wasn't nice that he only wanted to see me bcuz he was bored and no one was around. Like that make me feel so used you know. He said no that's not how he meant it so I said you don't like me, remember you can't tell if you do. He hesitate and laugh like he still can't tell how he feels saying "well it's not like that ' then he stopped talking, he can't explain his feelings towards me so I told him I won't rush him or him to since he has alot to deal with and that he's confusing me. Like he wanted to hangout with me, bcuz he was bored, that doesn't make me special but just unimportant and well just messed up. I'm really glad I wasn't there bcuz wtf I'm pissed. I just offered him a hug and smile and walked off since he was heading to his next class and had a paper to write,which I offer some advice on writing. I don't g

I don't get this guy, expect he just not interested in me. What guy wants to hangout with the girl he likes bcuz he's bored n had nothing to do..I don't get how he doesn't like me but he won't remove me from his phone and asking to pass time with me. Is he just being friendly?

I wouldn't take it too personally that he claimed he wanted to hangout when he was "bored and had nothing to do" because a lot of people just say that to make them seem less eager or more casual. 🙂

I mean, don't you ever just sit home bored and think to yourself that you want to go do something or hang with someone? you should be flattered that he chose you to ask. he could have just sat around and not even bothered to ask but you seem to have crossed his mind

Posted by Essielove
I don't get this guy, expect he just not interested in me. What guy wants to hangout with the girl he likes bcuz he's bored n had nothing to do..I don't get how he doesn't like me but he won't remove me from his phone and asking to pass time with me. Is he just being friendly?

Never take what a cancer boy has to say TOO personally. He doesn't mean it. He really did want your company. He would not have worked up the courage to ask you to. Many of these guys are pretty choosy with what girl they want to spend their time with alone. He just hasn't mastered his choice of words yet.

Here's what you said:
" He said no that's not how he meant it so I said you don't like me, remember you can't tell if you do. He hesitate and laugh like he still can't tell how he feels saying "well it's not like that ' then he stopped talking,"

He really didn't mean to offend you. He laughed because he sees he's getting to you. The fact you got upset, showed a glimpse of your feelings for him. He stopped talking because he doesn't want to say anything else incorrectly lol. Many crab guys can't explain how they feel vocally. That's why they show you. Mainly through hanging out or just doing things together. Look at his actions not his word. I wouldn't ask him how he feels anymore...it freaks him out too much. Let him show you 🙂

I'm sorry, but he's going to keep coming back lol

Posted by Rapunzel

Posted by Essielove
I don't get this guy, expect he just not interested in me. What guy wants to hangout with the girl he likes bcuz he's bored n had nothing to do..I don't get how he doesn't like me but he won't remove me from his phone and asking to pass time with me. Is he just being friendly?

Never take what a cancer boy has to say TOO personally. He doesn't mean it. He really did want your company. He would not have worked up the courage to ask you to. Many of these guys are pretty choosy with what girl they want to spend their time with alone. He just hasn't mastered his choice of words yet.

Here's what you said:
" He said no that's not how he meant it so I said you don't like me, remember you can't tell if you do. He hesitate and laugh like he still can't tell how he feels saying "well it's not like that ' then he stopped talking,"

He really didn't mean to offend you. He laughed because he sees he's getting to you. The fact you got upset, showed a glimpse of your feelings for him. He stopped talking because he doesn't want to say anything else incorrectly lol. Many crab guys can't explain how they feel vocally. That's why they show you. Mainly through hanging out or just doing things together. Look at his actions not his word. I wouldn't ask him how he feels anymore...it freaks him out too much. Let him show you 🙂

I'm sorry, but he's going to keep coming back lol

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Then why does he always walk pass me in the hallway and don't say hi to me. And He has done it twice now, two days in a row he was passing by, saw me, just quickly looked at me and continue walking. When he did it on Wednesday, I was standing outside my next class with my friend. She thought it was rude that she told me not to talk to him anymore, bcuz that's just jerkish, and stuck up lol I had to say hi to him , and jokingly asked "hi, how can you pass me without saying hi" and he laughed. So I then asked if he was working that day he said no so I asked If He wanted to Hang out after class. He said sure yeah, He will meet me after class. Well I got out before him and was there waiting, until my mom called and I had to go. I send him a text saying so. And by the time I got on the bus, he text me saying he there, but after he saw my text before, he then texted again "okay,forget it" I s

HA! He's pouting because he couldn't have his way. Even though you had a good reason to cancel. smh. Don't let it get to you too much. He will get over it quick. Trust me. Just make sure you look stunning the next time he see's you and he will be right back at it. Him not speaking, I think that may have something to do with the insecurity thing with cancers. I've noticed they prefer to watch then take action. Mines does at least. Whenever I see him somewhere I don't wait for him to approach me, honestly I don't even give it a thought who approached who. When we lock eyes, heck the attraction is so strong, that I feel we've already spoke with our eyes. I walk right up for my hug.lol

Just treat him like he doesn't exist. Overlook him when you see him.

Some young crab guys do jerkish things like this but still have a crush on you...I've been through the same scenario with another crab friend in college. He liked me a lot. But if we were on bad terms & not communicating he would come search me out on campus & then walk right past me like he didn't see...just quickly look away in my FACE! Its like he wanted me to NOTICE him ignoring me! Crazy.

I didn't say, "Dude what's wrong with you!" I just went silent....they hate silence. Next thing you know he text me wanting to hang out. I told him "Friends don't treat friends like this! It's not normal." I was very serious too. He didn't even argue. He did stop acting weird like that.

Your crab is going to keep checking up on you. Overlook him & keep looking happy with your life. If he approaches you, Don't ask him WHY he acts that way. Just simply let him know his behavior is disrespectful & you don't have time for that! Remain classy & go to your next class. You're a virgal, we don't put up with nonsense.

Just know its HIM not you.

Posted by pinklibra
HA! He's pouting because he couldn't have his way. Even though you had a good reason to cancel. smh. Don't let it get to you too much. He will get over it quick. Trust me. Just make sure you look stunning the next time he see's you and he will be right back at it. Him not speaking, I think that may have something to do with the insecurity thing with cancers. I've noticed they prefer to watch then take action. Mines does at least. Whenever I see him somewhere I don't wait for him to approach me, honestly I don't even give it a thought who approached who. When we lock eyes, heck the attraction is so strong, that I feel we've already spoke with our eyes. I walk right up for my hug.lol

Yes they prefer to watch than take action. Absolutely true lol

Just read the ending of your post @essielove.... Just know every time you can't spend time with him He's going to pout. They take it personal. But it won't stop them from chasing you again next time lol

Posted by Rapunzel
Just read the ending of your post @essielove.... Just know every time you can't spend time with him He's going to pout. They take it personal. But it won't stop them from chasing you again next time lol

Well I saw him yesterday, when I was in class n he just passed by me and didn't say anything, I say Hi! And he just kept on walking looking straight ahead. And today was the same, he saw and just passed me.

That's just disrespectful. There are way better crabs than this guy. It doesn't matter if he secretly still has a crush on & is now upset. You don't deserve to be ignored. You are too special & beautiful of a person to put up with treatment like that.

Let him be moody. You continue being you. Let him see how grounded & stable your emotions are...He's moods do not cause you to have a breakdown. 🙂

Don't let ANYONE mistreat you. You weren't born to be mistreated. Just know that.