A letter to my Cancer guy

This is my vent forum... I really miss my cancer guy so I need to get it off my chest. I'm sorry people if this is to sappy I promise this will be the only one.

Hey babe, I have been doing some thinking about us ....about me, I'm really sorry for my actions on Thursday night I realized that's not me and I don't know what I was thinking, but I do know I miss you like crazy. I miss holding you in my arms I miss running my hand over your head and playing with your ears until you fall asleep. I miss the feel of your soft lips..no one can kiss me like you do. I miss how we use to cuddle after I cooked you a hot meal. I miss the little things you use to do for me, when you went to CVS to get things we needed for the house you'd bring me home my favorite chocolate "Hershey cookies n cream" just to let me know you were thinking about me. I realize this goes against me giving you space but I can't help it baby your my kryptonite. My point is...I want to change to be a better woman, I want to be more patient with you, less nagging, I know what we had was good but I want to make it better. I want to be the girl in your life that you can love and trust and want to be around. I don't want to be that annoying girl you can't stand. I hope it's not over between us I hope I can get at least another chance to show you. That I can be more patient with you, more gentle and loving ... I don't want to fight...I'm tired...I miss you .. think about it, and get back to me when your ready.. I love you

Should I send it to him? Honest yet gentle opinions welcomed 🙂

I will be a nurturing cancer with an ear to listen. Um what stage of the relationship is he at and also which part of the relationship are you two at?

I would say no, don't send it.

It's not speaking with any depth about the relationship itself...
It's full of surface relationship niceties and things that are past tense negativity about yourself that you want to change FOR him, not because that's you naturally while around him. That's a lot of pressure on a person - to know somebody is changing for you - it's a set-up for obligation, and resentment.

Very much going to come across as understated desperate... I would think. Especially if you have agreed to give him space... which you directly reference in the letter. Very contradictory, in actions versus words - versus words.

Posted by Ruh
I will be a nurturing cancer with an ear to listen. Um what stage of the relationship is he at and also which part of the relationship are you two at?

Hi Ruh thank you , I hope I don't sound too dumb when I ask what do you mean by stage in relationship? We've been together for 4years known each other for about 6 years. I don't what stage that would be...

Posted by Craabmoon
Hi, you asked for a honest opinion right. So this paragraph bellow as you can see is yours from another thread you posted.

Read your own advice to other girl. Think about it.

"I too am a Leo female dated my Cancer male 4 Years , we are going through a similar battle in our relationship Ive tried everything possible in the book to bring our love back to the way it was. The best advice i got is to Move on, If a cancer male is ignoring you, Ignore him..Disappear! which is exactly what i am doing right now. from what i hear if you meant something to him, which im sure you did he'll come back. This process i am going through is helping me to love myself first and foremost, and i must say it is the best thing i have ever did. Do i still love him? Heck yea! do i still hope every now and then he'll come back? Heck yea! But either way I know i will be ok whether he comes back or not. Stop chasing , Im sure your very beautiful and young. He needs to realize that and Chase you . I read that men in general like to be challenged, they dont like things that come too easy. Give him something to chase, challenge him. So have a little cry session, cry your loudest,and your hardest get it all out of your system. when its all over dry your eyes and say to yourself everyday you start to miss him "this too shall pass" and trust me it will."

Now my opinion is stand in your ground, don't chase this guy. If you already did everything you could to make things work and you guys still taking the break, is because you both Need it. Give the space he needs and don't send the letter.
In other times I would say just send it and see what happen but honestly, you need to love yourself first and sending him letters will just show your weekness and how needy you are right now. You will annoy him.

Oh yea, follow your head cause sometimes the heart doesn't work well 😉

Thank you craabmoon for your honest opinion 🙂

Posted by deezie
I would say no, don't send it.

It's not speaking with any depth about the relationship itself...
It's full of surface relationship niceties and things that are past tense negativity about yourself that you want to change FOR him, not because that's you naturally while around him. That's a lot of pressure on a person - to know somebody is changing for you - it's a set-up for obligation, and resentment.

Very much going to come across as understated desperate... I would think. Especially if you have agreed to give him space... which you directly reference in the letter. Very contradictory, in actions versus words - versus words.

Thank you, I definitely don't want to seem desperate

My friend you don't have to do ANYTHING...Don't send this letter.

Realize, If you miss this guy THIS greatly, don't you think he is feeling the same about you—? I'm sure he misses u more! These men "feel" a lot. Let him feel like he has lost you & that makes him return.....Time is your best friend

Everyone has spoken. Challenge him girl ! You are the Prize.

@ rapunzel

I will not send the letter thanks everyone for reading my sappy letter 😉 glad I got it off my chest ...lol

Oh well if you two are on a break he does not deserve this. Live your life and do not drown yourself. Love yourself first before anything else. Once you stop loving yourself before anyone else what do you really have? You are the most important thing to yourself. Let him be. If he is in his shell eventually he will come out.

You are welcome.
If you ever feel low remember this : My cancer told me to always "Remain Confident" no matter how he acts. And that's exactly what I do. Always be the Lioness that u are 🙂

Posted by Sneaky
What is this guy's chatt btw ?

Umm I honestly don't know I just know his b'day is 7/14/1986 and mine is 8/13/1987 I never looked up our charts and Sun signs etc.

Posted by Ruh
Oh well if you two are on a break he does not deserve this. Live your life and do not drown yourself. Love yourself first before anything else. Once you stop loving yourself before anyone else what do you really have? You are the most important thing to yourself. Let him be. If he is in his shell eventually he will come out.

Thank you Ruh, 🙂

Posted by Rapunzel
You are welcome.
If you ever feel low remember this : My cancer told me to always "Remain Confident" no matter how he acts. And that's exactly what I do. Always be the Lioness that u are 🙂

That's gonna be my new saying instead of"this too shall pass" because I think i am past that and all that is left for me is to "remain confident" your cancer guy sounds like such a sweet heart I wish you guys the best 🙂

Posted by Sneaky
I don't know the place of birth or the time of birth but did a check to see which placements were going on your birthdays.

He is a libra moon, Virgo venus, Capricorn mars

And you are an aries moon, Leo Venus and mars.

I would now say, , don't send the letter. He won't appropriate it the way he should, and I'm citing that Virgo Venus to support my opinion.

Thank you sneaky for looking that up for me when you say you are citing from Virgo Venus, what exactly does that mean...sorry I'm new at this 🙂

Posted by Sneaky
In a nutshell, they are not emotionally intelligent. It's unlikely that he will appreciate all the sentiment and emotions you presented in the letter. In fact, they might hate it.

Ok gotcha🙂 thanks again

Posted by MzLeoLove
This is my vent forum... I really miss my cancer guy so I need to get it off my chest. I'm sorry people if this is to sappy I promise this will be the only one.

Hey babe, I have been doing some thinking about us ....about me, I'm really sorry for my actions on Thursday night I realized that's not me and I don't know what I was thinking, but I do know I miss you like crazy. I miss holding you in my arms I miss running my hand over your head and playing with your ears until you fall asleep. I miss the feel of your soft lips..no one can kiss me like you do. I miss how we use to cuddle after I cooked you a hot meal.🙂

Are all leo women like this? thats the one thing I love to have done to me! you just reminded me of probably one of the only good memories of my mother. she would always caress my head and make me fall asleep when I was young. I was dating a cancer girl one time and her leo friend was over and she was running her fingers through my hair and playing with it and it was amazing! a little unnerving to think how powerless I am when a woman knows how to do that.. sigghh..

Posted by SeeingStars721

Posted by MzLeoLove
This is my vent forum... I really miss my cancer guy so I need to get it off my chest. I'm sorry people if this is to sappy I promise this will be the only one.

Hey babe, I have been doing some thinking about us ....about me, I'm really sorry for my actions on Thursday night I realized that's not me and I don't know what I was thinking, but I do know I miss you like crazy. I miss holding you in my arms I miss running my hand over your head and playing with your ears until you fall asleep. I miss the feel of your soft lips..no one can kiss me like you do. I miss how we use to cuddle after I cooked you a hot meal.🙂

Are all leo women like this? thats the one thing I love to have done to me! you just reminded me of probably one of the only good memories of my mother. she would always caress my head and make me fall asleep when I was young. I was dating a cancer girl one time and her leo friend was over and she was running her fingers through my hair and playing with it and it was amazing! a little unnerving to think how powerless I am when a woman knows how to do that.. sigghh..

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Lol I can't speak for all but I can definitely speak for myself and I am like that I loved to make my crab feel relaxed after a long day he was my balance.... when he was relaxed and in a good mood, so was I. Hmm powerless eh.? I might one day use that to my advantage lol