Mirrors

I was having this interesting conversation over email with other dxp user and she mention something interesting about cancers that makes sense but none of us are cancers... so i will like to hear your thoughts on that...

Do you guys feel like you are like other people's mirror or that you mirror others people attitudes? im not saying you are sheep or followers i mean...

So if we act cold you'll be even cooler, cold as ice. If we don't show love you won't either. If we don't open up to you and be honest you won't. If we don't protect you from your people placing harm on you, you won't protect us once your dogs get off the leash. and so and so, you get the idea..

This is partially true, at least when it comes to giving cold back. I think we give warmth very easily, but if it isn't reciprocated we will pull it back from that person. As for not protecting if someone else isn't protecting: NO. I'm almost rabid in my protection of others, even strangers. I've gotten into fist fights at school for protecting the kids who were being bullied against the bullies. I've poked my nose into complete strangers' business if I see a man on the street harassing or verbally assaulting the person he's with. IF someone has betrayed me, or they're an abusive jerk, then I refuse to protect them and I will give their shitty behavior some spotlight attention so that others can see it, and that's because people who are abusive or bullies COUNT on others to turn away, to keep silent, and that silence protects their shitty behavior. I won't protect people like that.

Yes, I mirror but after making sure things are what they seem. Maybe mirror isn't appropriate. My response is sometimes disproportionate. If you're cold, I'll bring a blizzard.

As far as protecting others goes, I bully bullies. Have since childhood and always will. Even part of my job. I'm very protective of others but would not protect someone again if I discover they do not have my back.

+1 on all answers. Also cancer women here, do you think the best way to win a cancers heart is to treat her like a princess and you be her Prince Charming? I think you cancer chicks dig that. What about a cancer with a nice blend of water, air, and fire?

Yes, I mirror. I don't really want to be treated like a princess though.

No, all that princess and prince charming shit is more in the virgos' line of interest. My opinion of it is blech.

Good to know. So how do you like your man to handle you?

For me it's less about the handling, and more about the connection. If there's trust, a deep understanding and love, then I want to be handled with lots of affection, cuddling, touches, playfulness, etc. but if that is lacking, I get annoyed if someone is invading my space or "handling" me, and they aren't welcome to do so.

Posted by MoonArtist
For me it's less about the handling, and more about the connection. If there's trust, a deep understanding and love, then I want to be handled with lots of affection, cuddling, touches, playfulness, etc. but if that is lacking, I get annoyed if someone is invading my space or "handling" me, and they aren't welcome to do so.

^sounds about right.

Yes, cancers definitely "mirror" and play off of the situation they are confronted with. You might even say they're chameleons... Blending in so as not to rock the boat...or saying fuck it let's sink this ship together. In that sense, that is probably what makes the so easy to get along with. They're great people persons when they want to be and can survive in any group they find themselves in.

However, what's I've found is that they don't realize when the person they are with is responding to the cancer mood... So then it becomes like when you are standing in between 2 mirrors and the reflection continues infitely...who's actually mirroring who? I'm reflecting you, you're reflecting that back, the rabbit whole gets bigger... Lol

But yeah basically that empathetic nature. Which we always assume is a good thing, but they can pull in the bad vibes just as much as the good. Of you're happy, they're happy. If you're sad they're sad. If they're sad and you're happy, it confuses them...but them they vibe off that energy and they find their happy play again.

And um hello, their zodiac sign is a mirror! 😉

Ugh those typoes. I need sleep...

Posted by phEnyxBull876

However, what's I've found is that they don't realize when the person they are with is responding to the cancer mood... So then it becomes like when you are standing in between 2 mirrors and the reflection continues infitely...who's actually mirroring who? I'm reflecting you, you're reflecting that back, the rabbit whole gets bigger... Lol

I couldn't have put it better... its up to the other person not to mirror them, or it will become a never ending cycle, or things simply end, resulting on not knowing who started first.

I which I knew this things before, they would've same a good heartache

Posted by Arielle83
I'll like you until you give me a reason not to. And when you do, you get the same treatment you give me.

Fair enough