Moodiness

Hey cancers, I was wondering about the supposed cancer moodiness. I don't really have mood swings on a normal basis unless something makes me happy or sad, but they usually don't last very long. I was wondering how long and intense is a cancerian mood, and if it is possible to coax the crab out or give it space to do it on its own.

I am very moody.
But it depends, if I am having an off day, anything anyone does gets me annoyed.
Its really bad, and I completely think we are the most emotional sign on the zodiac.
Someone should write down about how to fix that. ASAP!

Are you having a problem with a cancer? Or is this you?

No Im a pisces with a cancer girlfriend. She is in a funk and doesn't want to be with me, but wants me in her life still. She treats me the same way as she used to, but if I initiate too much affection she says I am crossing a line that she does also. I'm just wondering if this is a long mood, and am wondering what to do about it. Do i push or hang back. I miss her and feel like I'm in limbo.

Well, I think I answered your other post.
I feel like she is playing games, or she may not know what she wants.
But she is making it harder for both of you.
I'm not sure what she is trying to get out of you but like I said, when a cancer moves on she moves on. No matter how much she may like you, so I think you still have something there.
But she even has me a little stumped.

Well it's only been less than a week since she called it off, so maybe she is just being clingy. I don't think she does know what she wants, and wants to see me go after her more. Well since she still is around I'm going to give it a shot because I have nothing to lose now. =)

hiei the thing with your girlfriend isn't moodiness it is called having your cake and eating it too..

I live with a few crazy cancers. Moodiness is an understatement. Every week I see an outburst of some sort.

We have mood swings every second!!! Like one sec we'd be horny then we'd be happy. Then not so horny. Also we'd be in an angry mood because I'd get ownd in street fighter or something. mood to eat. mood to sleep. well you get the picture. Guess I'm very very Moody! I was in the mood to type this! talk about MOOD SWINGS! Like today I was in the mood to throw chicken at someone just because I was in the mood to throw chicken! Then after that I was in a mood to laugh. Then she was in a mood and I was in a mood and everyone else was in some kind of mood. And I'm like.. Hey! I'm the cancer! You have no right to have as much moods as me!!

Haha Shishno! Yeah..I'm wicked moody too but, I have learned to control it most of the time. I just go "away" to my room or someplace alone until my mood is over. My moods just sneak up on me as well and they fluctuate on an hourly basis NOT KIDDING! I'm happy one minute and aggitated or sad the next. It's not as bad as it seems or sounds. Most of the time, the feelings I have are internal meaning I feel them inside and usually don't let on to anyone else how I'm feeling. Unless I trust you...then you will see the wrath of my moods LOL! I need to feel comfortable around you to show you how vulnerable I am feeling. When I'm in a real bad mood, you had better just stay away and leave me alone. I come out of my moods pretty quickly too. Once in a while, they last a couple hrs, but usually no longer than that.

He constantly says how he doenst wnat me in his life.. and he will go on snapping at me, and then i will call and hes back to normal again.... and i will even say things like, then dont answer if i ever call, so we can stop going around in circles, and he agrrees to this, yet he will answer when i decide to call....

I kno i gotta be the strong one.... but i am sooo not

Sorry for the double post, but wanted to thank those who replied to this post as well =)

Hi guys I want to first thank everyone that has taken the time to write to me about my situation. I however think it is finally over. Yesterday she texted me to say hi (I found out later that she was drinking with some friends earlier, so she drunk texted me). I responded back and asked her what was up. She said she just wanted to check up on me. I texted her to see if she wanted to talk, but she said that was it. I called her anyways and arranged a meeting because I wanted to find what was up. I told her how I felt and that I still wanted to be with her, but she said she didn't want to anymore but still cared for me. She said she enjoys the freedom of being single without the need to have to check in on me. Earlier I had been talking to her friend that first introduced us, and she said my cancer had always been unreliable; a fair weather friend who is just around for the good times. She is only twenty, and is only interested in going out and partying. I just needed to find out if she wanted time or not because I was unable to concentrate with this uncertainty. We said our goodbyes and I am going to leave it like that. I don't need to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me and willing to work it out. It's just sad to say goodbye. She was so loving when she was around.

sorry to hear it hiei but good for you in doing what is right for you and having the courage to move on...best of luck

Is her name Nicole?

Thanks for the kind words cansir

No her name is not Nicole. My ex was named Pualina. Why is Nicole ready to beg to get back Xp

ok good.. Stay away from a short cancer girl who likes to party a lot in clubs name Nicole. She maybe little and innocent looking... but I bet she can fit 2 bottles up her you know what while mixing a drink.. If you catch my drift...

God I'm soo mean..... But yea I knew her since high school. See was a slut then and she's an even bigger slut now! SHe's not even 21 yet...

Wow hope she isn't good at hiding it don't want to get tricked. I don't usually go for girls like that. yuck. haha it's not mean if its true.

My cancer friend can be very moody...but he is still a nice warm person ....never met anyone so thoughtful...but I don't like him romantically I guess because I am a sag...I always go for detached men like libra or leo

I'm not sure if moving on would be a good decision. I'm a taurus (phase 3); me and my cancer (phase 2) gf have been together for 3 years now. To summarize: its been like a roller coaster ride. We both have gone through different stages of mood swings, pride outbursts and self-realization. We broke up at least 3 times and haven't talked for more than 6 months at one time. We both took time to study abroad and had a long-distance relationship. She is the only girl I ever cried over and I cannot count how many times she cried over me. So its been one hell of a ride. And to summarize that too: if I had a choice I would do it all over again anytime. The thing is that we were young and full of pride, nothing was good enough for us. Our fights were legendary and I swore so many times to myself that I will move on and forget her. But I never could; apparently neither could she. Its funny how we look back at it now and realize that once all the dust settled the picture became oh so clear once again. I can go on and on about cancers but to make this quick: my point of view is to always stick by her. Strength and security is what she craves the most; she needs to know that you will stand by her no matter what. If you can't provide her with that she will find someone else who can; but she will remember you forever.

Thanks for the advice dubrdm. I understand where you are coming from, and we weren't together long enough to understand how she acts when she is upset. However, I am seven years older and have my life together. I don't have time to play mind games with her because she seems insecure. When I tell her I want to work it out, she tells me she can't be with me, and likes being single, then I have to take a step back and ask if this is what I want. Right now I am single and the ball is in her court. I will not put up with this childish behavior. I will see how it goes though because I do love her. Relationships are a two way street, and if her way of seeing if I stick with her is by breaking up with me, then she needs to seriously wake up.

Is this a typical cancerian trait?

Cancers are notorious for their mind games. When you want them, they don't want you and vice versa.

Cut off all contact with her. No texting, im, calls, nada. Forget about the dog. Date someone else and see how quickly she will run back to you.

I willing to put down a million bucks that is how she will respond.

Don't believe me? Next time she calls/texts/etc... don't answer... see what happens.

Dubrdm: that was an awesome post...I have tears in my eyes.
I once dated a Taur. He was 11yrs older and we dated for 2yrs./engaged...broke up. He insisted I move out and gave me like a day to get all my stuff out.
we didnt speak for like 5yrs. years later...we ran into ea. other and we talked off and on for a couple years.
I went to his house one day...he still had the pictures I bought and hung, little candle holders that were mine, little momentos of lighthouses we'd been to, my cat- and the Christmas cards I sent him (the cat)after I wasnt there.
I wondered if he ever thought of me...every day I guess.
He supposedly packed ALL my stuff- he kept more than I thought...
He's dated other women- but I am still there, at his house- I was the first girl to live there with him, help him as he built it and started gardens in the yard.
he was a huge prick...I forgave him when I saw...years later...I was forgotten either.

wasnt forgotten...