Moon and Sun in Cancer

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ladydane
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20 YearsScorpio

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Mr.Crabby,

I'm a Scorpio, dating a Cancer guy for over two years. You sound a lot like him, but mine is afraid to be emotional over me; scared he'll get burned again. Lots of indirect comments about our relationship; somewhat indoctrinated by meddling family members that he has trusted and shouldn't have. We've come a long way but.....

Just how much proof does it take?

I've been nice, but one of the more telling comments he made recently was that I should give him a hard time.

Course, one look into those bright, brown eyes and I'm a goner, every time.
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mr.crabby
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20 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

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Ladydane
If he's afraid to be emotional, that probably means that he is already. I guess that your feelings have to be clear, he needs to feel that you know for sure what you feel for him, that you won't "take it away". Security, always. You scorpios can be quite magnetic to us, y'know. You can be forward with him, he should love it (even if only secretly).

looney is right too, overcoming your more difficult traits is a big part of growing up, trying to be conscious about yourself and your reactions.
I tend to see what the person you should be instead of what they are sometimes, i see what they can become so i can be disappointed easily by reality.

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ladydane
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But Cancer guys don't like confrontations. They want to be the ones to initiate an argument. You try to get a point across when they're beating around the bush, and they run.

On the up side; he's very much a gentleman. When he takes me out, financially he's in charge. When I talk about my problems, he listens, caressing my back; letting me know he's there. He's extremely self-sufficient, a frugal spender, very grounded in the work ethic, a very secure man to be around.

I feel as if he wants me to take him on; I feel like there's a big emotional outburst coming my way and I'm the catylst for it, but he wants to be sure I can handle it when it happens. I think that's what all the waiting is about. He wants to be sure that when he shows me everything he is, I'll still be there. I WILL still be there.

He keeps me in the dark. I'm on a need-to-know basis.

Continue, please.
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looneybird
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Yeah Cancers are nto great ones with confrontations. Butlike Mr C stated they do appreciate directness..though secretly. Besides being a cardinal sign of leadership they cannot be led succesfully unless you know how to wear baby gloves whil you throw volleys of criticism at them. You are their close ones means they have to be assured of validation of their emotions or insecurities...... however ridiculous those fears might be. Parents play an excessively important role in helping them to develop coping skills (with their emotions) .
This is almost insanity already with this guy. I hardly know where I stand, it feels like this awesome thing is falling apart. My cell is getting fixed this week so I hardly get to talk to my man & making plans has been difficult. On tues he came down wit
taurusgoddess
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20 Years1,000+ PostsTaurus
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friends say i've got this obscure or , my personal fave, "Duuude, whaaaat?" way of life. not to say I'm a total weirdo or anything of the sort, but I tend to behave like "another type of cancer". Am I normal or.......?
ABCR2
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20 YearsCancer
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How are things with Mr. Pisces? Are things settling down, or are you ready to get into another dating adventure? Give us DA SCOOP!!!
seizeTheDay
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