Need a bit of help trying to figure him out.

So I posted before about the cancer guy that I was seeing and how it ended out of the blue. Well it ended over our little misunderstanding I was shocked and taken back. He went from hot and all interested and now is cold and telling me how I am not the one for him. He had blocked my number and fb account when he told me he was going to say good bye is how he put it... he thought I was asking for a break when I told him he should think on things for a few days... which I wasn't but whatever! So now its been a few days and we have talked a tiny bit back on forth from another fb I have for when I get bored and play the fb games. So far he has yet to block this account even though I have told him to go ahead and do it a few times. I told him early on I don't do the block thing and I wont.

I am an Aries and I know they say that we don't go well with cancers but I was really liking him but now I am just confused. Part of me feels I dodged a bullet and the other part of me misses him. If he is so sure I am not the one I just don't understand why he does not block me on the fb account we have been talking on like he has on everything else. He says I am not the one for him yet for a few weeks he was all saying he hoped I was the one and he has such high hopes for us. Went on about how he hoped i liked him as much as he does me. Not sure if it is the Aries in me that wont just let this go. I thought we were suppose to be good at that but I am really have a hard time doing so! Not sure if I should keep trying and if i am being kinda tested here?

Well he had come over so we could hang out and since he lives about 45 minutes away but works like 10 minutes from me I told him he could stay over which he did. We did not have sex or anything which I am so thankful for now. Says he waits until he is in love or else its just not the same. We just simply cuddled up and went to sleep. Well that morning when he left he said I will text you in a few and hours later after no word I sent him a text and asked if he was alright which he said yea but felt he was kinda blowing me off. He went from texts left and and right and I don't know I just could feel something was off. All I told him is maybe he should take a few days and think about things. He said he didn't ask for a break and I said I don't want one that I just thought it was best for him. The night of our first date his ex started texting him out of the blue earlier that day. So I thought maybe he had a lot going on. He took it as me wanting a break or me not being sure which wasn't the case. So now its I am not the one for him and he knows this based on our misunderstanding and says it changed everything for him.

He said he was fine when he left and that he had come over and had a wonderful time with me even though he didn't feel good and that nothing was wrong whatsoever when he left. I just could sense it so bad later that day that something was off. I have never dated a cancer so when he came on so fast and strong and then changed up so fast it was like WOW. I mean he would text me and If I didn't answer right back I would get a few more texts asking me where did I go and if I was ignoring him but hell it would be like 4 texts in a few seconds of each other and I just didn't have a chance to answer back right away. Then we spend a night together and I hear nothing.

They're ridiculously sensitive to rejection.

What's up with his ex? Is he still hung up on her. If so that might be the case of why he's giving mixed signals. IME early on if a guy is worth your time he will chase you if he feels you are worth his time. If not it will be very half ass. Which is what this kind of sounds like. I dunno hard to tell with little info.

I'm not sure I understand exactly...you text him and was not satisfied with his lack of response so suggested he "think about things?" Am I missing something?

Him and the ex had been together I think he said 4 years but he said the last year or so was dead and why it ended. They have been split for like 3 months I think he said. He was also telling me that he never goes back to an ex ever and that there was nothing between them for a long time and is why they ended . So maybe he is still hung up on her but he claimed that was all done with.

Yes Moonbutter that does sound crazy I know! I mean my thinking was he was chasing me so hard and then boom he changed. I have ever dated a cancer and have never seen the chasing and then stop and then chase and stop. We talked for a month before our first date and he would text like crazy. The night of our first date he was texting me like 5 minutes after we went our separate ways. He had sent me a few messages on fb and texted me and I was like he is blowing up my phone and we just pulled out of the parking lot! So then he stays a night over and nothing the next day. Plus I had the nagging feeling something was not right. When I get those 99.9% of the time I am right.

I have read that they can be scared of rejection and that they are sensitive. I had made sure when I told him that maybe he should think on things that I was sure of what I wanted and that was to move forward with him if he wanted. Instead he just said it was done and I am not the one for him and that was that. I know me and I will keep trying. That is why I told him just block this account if that is how you feel and he still hasn't done so. I get not chasing and let them chase you but maybe I like chasing? Part of me does and part of me does not but I am having a touch time knowing what to do. I figure hell he blocked my number and my other fb so he should have no problem doing so with this fb account also if he really feels I am not the one for him!

Thanks! Was feeling that maybe it was the case when I told him he should take a few days to think. He replied with he wasn't asking for a break but yea he went from that to an hour later being done so thank you!

Thank you so much and yes the way you just put it makes complete sense! I will try and not feel bad but wow being swept up in all his charm and then dropped like that feels crazy! I did write him this morning and simply asked him why he has not blocked me which he just read but no response yet and I am still not blocked either ugh. I should be lucky he did not really use me for a long period before this happened and that I didn't get caught in some crazy drama. I am hardheaded I wont lie. Dropping things and walking away is really hard for me and not sure why! I really need to try and walk away from this now though.

He went from telling me he wasn't asking for a break from seeing me tooooo this its not meant to be..... you are not the one for me... in like an hour. He said the misunderstanding changed everything.

How feelings can change up so fast is beyond me! Must be nice...I guess!

The night of our first date we were texting all that day and he told me that his ex contacted him out of the blue. They had not talked in awhile he said. I had said then if he wanted to back out let me know because at that point we had not met yet. He said no and that it was completely over with her he just found it weird she would contact him out of the blue when he had a date that night. See he goes on about wanting to find his forever love and makes everything sound so good. Even asked me if I was going to leave him once I got him. Then all this happens.

Thank again Missgemmi that is exactly how it is for me! I will go over the why and what if this and that for awhile. Letting go is hard and not having all the answers does drive me crazy. I am all for fighting for it and even chasing for a bit. The fighter in me makes it also hard to leave things alone and when I want something ugh its really hard. Even though I know this is better left alone still hardheaded and bring many things on myself. I might not make much sense but I admit my faults lol.

I do exactly what your name says I "thinktomuch" and make it worse on myself. Part of me thought maybe he was trying to dump his feeling for her on me and well nobody is going to be her. So of course that did not work. He told me a few times that for over a year that their relationship was dead and there was nothing there and so they ended it. Says there was not a harsh word between them it was just over with. It could be a few reasons and I get that. Just confused as to why he does not just block me and that be that if he really feels this way. I do know the Aries in me would get sick of the passive aggressive crap which is what I feel he might be. I mean blocking someone in the first place when they didn't do anything yet lol. He blocked me once before our date also! He claimed he just had a breakdown and could not explain it. After our date he unblocked me and now this. Yes as I write this I do know how crazy it all sounds and ask myself why is this hard to let go of dummy?!?!

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I do exactly what your name says I "thinktomuch" and make it worse on myself. Part of me thought maybe he was trying to dump his feeling for her on me and well nobody is going to be her. So of course that did not work. He told me a few times that for over a year that their relationship was dead and there was nothing there and so they ended it. Says there was not a harsh word between them it was just over with. It could be a few reasons and I get that. Just confused as to why he does not just block me and that be that if he really feels this way. I do know the Aries in me would get sick of the passive aggressive crap which is what I feel he might be. I mean blocking someone in the first place when they didn't do anything yet lol. He blocked me once before our date also! He claimed he just had a breakdown and could not explain it. After our date he unblocked me and now this. Yes as I write this I do know how crazy it all sounds and ask myself why is this hard to let go of dummy?!?!

I do exactly what your name says I "thinktomuch" thinktoomuch sorry missed an o there!