Need some advices

Ok i am a cancer man 28, she is leo 25. We first met and talked on 14-2-2012. We both checking on each others before the date we met. So, after that, we hanged out, we lunch, dinner, study together. firstly, she didnt say that she like me or mention anything about relationship. One day, i asked her what if i like her. she answered me no no no, we wont work out, i am a danger girl. we arent impossible to make it work. OKay, after a month, we fought for 1 hour because i saw a guy with her very close and even touched her. so i texted her like " let me know if i dont have any chances, so i can move on" she didnt text me back for awhile. After 2 hours she texted me back " i dont know is this annoying u or not, this really annoyed me, i couldnt even focus on studying, if you want, lets try to be couple." Next day, she came to my home, ya i was shocked, she was quite aggressive, this scared me a lot. Then we watched TV for like 10mins...and u know...bed thing. At that moment i was scared already, i have been thinking something like, does she do this alot? I didnt ask, coz i know she would be mad if i asked. After 2 months, i called her, and she was crying. I asked her what happened, where are you, i am coming. she told me she is at home, so i rushed to her home and try to find out what happened. When she opened the door , she was on phone with a guy. i asked her whos that. She told me that he is just her friend( NAMED this guy as "A". Then i asked her baby why did you cry? she answered me: I couldnt forget him, why is he still in my mind?. Another shock moment for me. I said baby, it gonna be alright, he is your past, and i am here to be with you, no matter what. OK, things went well for couple hour. I went home, and she called me and said " we need to break up, i cant forget him" AFter couple days, we back together like usual...

ok this is first time that we break up. Dont worry guys , i wont make this story too long, i will just point out how we break up so many times within a year.

second time:
She told me her family wont allow her to have any relationship.

third time:
We were both playing Pocket planes on iphone but she was tired so she slept early. I didnt sleep yet because i want to farm more money for her. A damn message poped up.."I love you". I was like what the hell, the message is from "A". i clicked on that message because i mad like crazy at that moment. and i discovered something that i could never believe...
They both sent "I love you

They both sent "I love you" to each other. I woke her up and asked her who is he, why did u both have texts like this ( in upset manner, without yelling.) She answered me u even checked my phone?! ok what do you want, break up? you want me go home now? i said no, i just want to clarify whats going on,who is he, and why did u both texted like that. She answered me " he is my friend, i always send i love you to my friends"

Respect yourself.....u deserve much better........leave her and never look back!

I WAS PISSED OFF..i was like why the hell u could hurt me so many times?!!

( She went to "A" guy home) in above case.

sixth time:
simple; she said i dont like you anymore

seventh time:
she planned to go back to china for 3 months right after new year. I was making a E-card to her( i have her email and password) so i sent to her and checked hm...did she look at it yet? Another madness moment to me....she bought a xmas gift and delivered to "A" guy home....I was like ....once again..I tried not to mention this and pretended that i dont know, which is damn hard to me. We went to a mall and she said " do you want this, i have a lot of money to spend, if you dont want it, i have no where to spend my money"....i couldnt control myself at all, i said everything about her email...
SO, she said this to me again; break up

eighth time:
She was in china already, i asked her what are we, she said i dont know. she didnt talk to me, call me, text me when she was in china. after 2-3 weeks, we were fighting how to apply work permit oversea. ok, i made it for her. And her sent me a voice message with a softy voice like " good night" (sound like we are ok) BUT actually not, she then once more; i dont like you anymore...then she disappeared until she came back to Toronto.

ninth time:
She texted me something in general. we met and she came to my home, i felt like we back together again. But something was weird, she didnt want to torch me, hold my hands, hug me. She used to very aggressive to do such things. One day, she was saying going to Kitchener to visit a friend on her own. So i trusted her. But a friend of her posted some pictures on her facebook related to this and left a comment like " thanks for coming here from toronto and your sweet boy friend " i called her, how was that, did u see your friend? she said yes. I asked one more question " did you take bus? how long did it take?" of coz she bs me...2 days later, i asked and i pretended i didnt asked her. " did u take bus to kitchener? she said yes again and she finally realized something wrong, and asked me " why did u asked me again? whats wrong? " i said....why did that bus small like a car. U lied to me again. she pissed off coz she think that i checked her facebook ( its a damn open comment, everyone can read it ) SO...after that, i texted her to forgive me, i begged her not leaving me again. and of coz, no respone.
So 2 weeks ago, i know she is looking for a job, and she has no idea how to

So 2 weeks ago, i know she is looking for a job, and she has no idea how to write resume and cover letter. I actually did a resume and cover letter for we both when she was in china for 3 months. Well, you know, my english is limited. I spent like 2 months to make it looks good. I changed it everyday. She was my only motivation to make things perfect. i worked on resume and cover letter every night until 3-4am. So i sent her our resume and cover letter. She said "thanks" without any emotions.

I have her email, i know she is lazy and quite busy coz she has to take care of her cousin everyday ( from 9am-10am,3pm-10pm). I got a new contract position , which is damn far away. Everyday wakes up at 5:30am, and arrives home around 7pm. I think about her, worry about her all the time even im working..I worry she could find a bad agent, bad company who might cheat her money. So i send resume and cover letter for her every night. I tried to call her out, she keeps rejecting me. I did another stupid thing..I asked my boss are we still hiring anymore, he said no. I suggested my boss...can i find a replacement. she works very well and even faster than me. ( im not lying, in my office im the fastest one finish tasks without error)so as i said that to my boss, my boss might impressed. My boss said ok. i will call her and interview her, dont worry. This is my last day of work.

So i texted my gf (ex, i dont know what we are ) "congrat! u got a job! perpare urself for the interview" she asked me why and how. i explained to her its my replacement. she refused at first, but i pushed her to give it a try coz without exprience, its really hard to get a good job in toronto. So she accepted. and asked me "can u company with me if i have to interview" i said yes...

However, my boss didnt call her and me..the result from this is....we both unemployed...i texted her i am sorry, my boss cheated me, i am stupid" she said " haha no problem"

so i have been asking her to job hunt together, she rejected. i asked her to come out, coz i missed her a lot, she rejected. then, she called me and saying " i know what you want, you thought we could be together again if i could get ur position! I am telling you , are will never work anymore! not even friend! dont text me or call me again, i dont like you anymore, please forget the promises that we made. either u change phone number or i change!... i was like ok.. i disappear, i wont find u anymore..

Today, i off from work, waiting

Today, i off from work, waiting for subway, i saw that a volunteer fair is coming tmw, i texted her the information, no reply again. And I sent her an email about how to job hunt, no reply..

Why do we Cancer have to suffer Shht like this?
Is that our fault to keep our promises?
She used to say " i love you baby, good night" to me..now she even said " i dont like you anymore..

Sorry guys, i didnt mean to blame any Leo girl. I understand this is not her fault. I understand people change in anytime.. But cancers dudes...can u guys feel me?

Posted by cutegemini
Respect yourself.....u deserve much better........leave her and never look back!

Bro, its hard..i asked myself..what the hell am i doing?!

I would hug you if i could. Her hurting you like that makes me mad...

She's going to suck all the life out of you if you keep her around. She's abusive cant you see... She does something disrespectful towards you & YOU go apologize! A real woman that LOVES you will cover you with tenderness & understanding... If something hurts you, a real woman would be there to console you. If you cry, a woman that cares would be there to dry your tears. You deserve love FREELY...you should never have to compete for it. Her main goal seems to be "breaking up with you". You want a woman who's main goal is making you smile & helping you reach your goals in life.

Your enemies would treat you better than this chick!

Wow, you are something! If only my cancer guy is like you or at least half as much I will hold on to him.
And Leo people are not like her


You are a nice guy and you don't deserve her. Take a vacation!

Where is your shell by the way?

I have good cancer friends and i know how sensitive u people are.Please,please,please do yourself a favour......forget her and move on. U lost ur job and u are just wasting ur time and emotions on a girl who cheated on u again and again ....and again. It will be hard to forget her......but someday u will have to.How many times u will let her cheat on u and play with ur emotions.......how many times ??.Please accept she is telling truth that u ppl cannot be together....dont be in a denial,,i know its hard .....but this is the truth. Move on.U deserve a good woman,,,who will love u ,care u and respect u.U have already messed up ur life.....become a stronger person ,collect yourself,find a new job and a good heart.

Ah my goodness, this is horrible. I'm not leo, but I don't think it has anything to do with signs or whatsoever, the girl is just mean.

Please don't waste your time and emotions on someone who clearly doesn't deserve it. If you don't run now, you'll get hurt more than now, that is for sure and you don't want it.

One good thing is that the girl has told you 'no' so many times (not gonna work, don't like you anymore, cheating on you with that guy A, etc.), gave you plenty reasons to move on, rather than keeps you hung in there and manipulates you... You can actually hate her for those reasons alone... which is good, keep trying to think about the horrible things she's done to you, not about meagre happiness you shared with her (I said meagre, because I just cannot see there could've been plenty...) You will want to stay away from her in time!

Change your number, delete her number, delete any contact info you have of hers, and block her sorry ass on facebook, problem solved...Take time for yourself and then find someone worthy of your time and love..

Thank you for the reply guys..

A large number of my friends saying the same thing. I make things too easy for her. When she calls me, i respone, when she needs me, i rush to her place, when she hungry, i buy her foods. I just cant imagine why and how could be treat me like this...

@Rapunzel, i used to cried a lot for her but no more. honesty, i wanted to cry but i just couldnt drop a tear down anymore. i feel like my heart is totally empty..

@Iceprincess17, Her leo's fire melted my shell 😢

@cutegemini, I thought, i thought she will never break the promises between us. But she just told me to forget all the promises in our last coversation.. At that moment, i hated her..but after one hour, i worry about her, i find excuse for her to let myself forgive her...silly enough?..

@xxixxi, Our pattern is we break up on every month 20nd-30th. we both stop contacting each other for a time period ( the time period is constantly increasing ( from 1 week, 2 weeks, 1 months, 3 months....) If u have seen my last reply on ur topic, u will know cancer forgives easily...we can even create some non-exisitence excuses to let ourself forgive ppl.

@jessgoogoo, me and her have been saying to change our phone number for like half year, but we actually didnt do it. However, she deleted my fb, QQ( chinese msn), and whatsapp already. I wanted to change my phone number, so i dont have to be like a dumbsss staring at my phone and wait for her call. I havent changed it coz i think she will never call me again, why do i need to change it ( i know its my excuse). And i am so sure..one day, she will call me when she need me. I know her too well..This is also one of the thing i promised her. i still remember she slept next to me and looked at me, said " One day u will hate me, u might be disappear, if u disappear, i could cry." Then i promised her, i will never hate u and disappear hun. I will always right next to you no matter how far we are."...

Guys, thanks again for the reply..I know i am very moody tonight, its full-moon...
I went to drink with my friend on last full-moon night. I was completely wasted. My friends told me that i cried like fkkked..they said " oh my god...is that sam?!" they suprised , coz my image on thier mind is strong and smart guy. I also feel so sorry about to my friends. They pulled me up so many times but i never listen to them. I know, and i sense my friends were getting annoyed whenever i talked about my relationship. ( they mad like u

( they mad like u guys ). so i decided to keep everything on my own. but i didnt share my thoughts to ppl for so long...its just wat too long...thats why i wasted and cried.

Well, again. thanks for reading this thread and the reply.

sorry that your hurting, but she told you so many times that she don`t like you and you still want her to contact you cause she might need you, thats alot of bullshit on your part...forget about her, let her take care of herself for a change, she sounds selfish and is only using you cause she knows she can, and whats even worse is your letting her do this to you, which is making you break down even more...this is not healthy for you..

You promised to her you would be there for her no matter what... and while your efforts to keep your words is commendable, but only when the other party (your girl) is willing to do the same for you, and here, she clearly is not - so why you alone must keep those promises? If I were you I would be so offended and kick her ass out 😢

Yes, of course, we sometimes let others use/abuse us, make excuses for them, because we (believe?) were so much in love with them, but there is limit for everything and while I might let someone take advantage of me once or twice, connive once or twice, but not multiple times, because I know it would do me no good and I don't want that crap from anybody.

I know it's hard to move on, but sometimes we just have to... 😢

Posted by samller

So i texted my gf (ex, i dont know what we are ) "congrat! u got a job! perpare urself for the interview" she asked me why and how. i explained to her its my replacement. she refused at first, but i pushed her to give it a try coz without exprience, its really hard to get a good job in toronto. So she accepted. and asked me "can u company with me if i have to interview" i said yes...

However, my boss didnt call her and me..the result from this is....we both unemployed...i texted her i am sorry, my boss cheated me, i am stupid" she said " haha no problem"

it's hard to find a guy who is so dedicated (blind) in love with someone. i think the only and main thing working against you might be your putting her before you. hell, you even stepped down from your job for nothing. and plus if you want to be perfect for her, you have to be successful for yourself. she is not going to love you for you sacrificing your job for her. if anything, if you take a break from her and build your career and life, and stay smart and confident, she is going to want to be with the confident/successful you. sure, you can help her build her career, but not by giving away yours. girls like strong, confident, smart, successful manly men. just standing outside of her house is not going to attract her. only when you are independent/successful and perhaps busy socializing with other people, is she going to panic and want you for herself. you seem like a genuine guy, but please don't act blind in love. giving away your job is seriously not caring for yourself or even for her, how are you going to provide for her without a job? be the man and do things to make her feel that you can take care of her without crying.

@jessgoogoo, thx for your words. I know she wont come back anymore and i will never let her to do so. yeah, i admit that i feel upset but this time is totally different. I just disappointed how she break our promises, and she hurt me like this once again (last). I wont say that she used me or anything. I dont regret and i also put myself to her situation and asked myself "what/how did i treat a girl that i dont like/love". i think i will just do the same things. so everything is good as long as me and her wont contact anymore.


@xxixxi, haha, i wont do that. I will just disappear for awhile. I know that i will be fine soon. time heal!

@sky1, let me make it short for you. a Cancer man broke up with a Leo woman many times, and this is not gonna happen anymore.

@memyself, i admit that im blind in love and yes, i place her in front of myself. I know you guys mad on how stupid i was...even suggested a replacement...hm..i actually quite independent. I rarely ask for helps on work/study. If she or any girls come to me based on my success in career(money?), i am 100% sure that i wont consider them to have a relationship. its just weird if love/relationship built by moeny/ any physical goods. Its sound like a trade to me. Its quite unrealistic..

Thanks again guys, thank you for kindly advices and opinions, and i apologize for my english. im still working hard on it 😄

You asked in the Leo forum if she will come back to you again. Let me just say she does not behave like a typical Leo. We don't play mind games and mess with people's emotions for fun.

I'm sorry to hear what happened, but this girl doesn't love you, and she has told you that many many times. She is obviously just using you, because she knows you will always be there when she wants you to. IF she comes back, it's not because she loves you. It's because she wants something from you again, or she is bored, or she just wants attention.

So please do yourself a favor and leave, don't respond to her. Move on. You deserve someone who appreciates you.

I agree with JulyOcean. Move on from this girl. She is obviously hung up "A" and you are just the interim piece that is catering to her every whim. Do yourself a favor and do for you. But this is not typical "Leo" behavior. It is not typical human behavior.

She will be back...when she is in of something from you.

@julyocean i think i have to believe everything u said..

@TheLioness79 hm...dont know why, i have the same feeling that she will call me or text me later...weird..but always accurate. maybe its time to change number and at the same time....samsung S4 is released hahaha good timing for new phone lol.


@leoliza yeah, u are right. its time to let go. thanks for waking me up.


thanks again guys...i will try my best to move on. Thanks a lot, i know i have been asking advices for too many times, ppl might get annoyed. I apologize and thanks again.