Orbiting The Cancer Mood Planet

Forgive me if my thoughts don't come out clear right now; happy to answer any questions to clarify. 🙂

I know when a Cancer is securely in his shell time, the best way to handle is just let them be, and they will return. Which is quite easy to deal with when you don't live together, and he can go to his own space and have his alone time and then return when he is ready.

However...what if you DO live together? Short of physically removing yourself, how do you give Cancer man his space in a shared environment? The following is a snapshot of the downswing in the mood cycle.

We recently had a few GREAT days. But right on schedule, after those great great highs, we're struggling with the "okay, I've had enough of you, give me my space!" :-p And I can tell he's going into his shell, focusing on projects and friends and family more because we've come out of our hibernation hole. This is all well and good. And normally, I could steer clear of taking that sudden shift of attention personally because out of sight, out of mind. But now that we live together, we're together in the same room, but not mentally on the same page. I can see him retreating, doing what he needs to do. So how does one handle that? Personally, I tend to ignore, do my own thing. But then he sort of still wants to connect with me, chit chat, etc, and I naturally go on the defensive. Even though I KNOW KNOW KNOW it's not about me.

Basically, it's like, he wants me in, but he doesn't want me in. I'm orbiting, waiting on the peripheral for full contact. LOL. How do I get a handle on that? Tips and tricks of the Cancer trade, please. It would be AMAZING to get specific Taurus feedback, someone who understands how we are when it comes to possessiveness, short tempers, etc. Or from a Cancer who has successfully been with a Taurus woman, and what's worked best for them.

Give him a night or two and let him sleep alone or sleep in another area of the house and let him have his alone time throughout the day. Check on him from time to time. Buy him a night out at a nice hotel for the night. Cancers have weird ways and get bored quickly because they have so much going on in their heads so I figured out that the more I can work like my cancers thought process the more I can see her without her having had too much of me. I switch up my style often and always am intriguing. I see she likes to spend time by herself because she thinks soooo deeply sometimes and I think she feels most would judge her for thinking that way and criticize her so I think of really deep ideas too and bring it up to her. She loves it and now whenever she goes quiet because she is brainstorming she doesn't go quiet on me anymore during those times because she is open and knows she can talk to me about her ideas and vice versus. Now those are special moments that we share. I pay attention to the way she expresses her raw emotions when she's reading something she wrote or is talking about someone she loves. I learned to be just as raw with her and now she lets me in deeper. You get the point.

Plus cancers sometimes loves to have you around in the same area but then be doing separate shit while still in each other's company, talking here and there. I always thought it was strange but I guess it comes with the independence thing. Today I learned my cancer doesn't initiate contact with people sometimes because she thinks people have rights and freedom of choice so she wants to know for sure that they reached out because they wanted to. I never thought of it like that. But it made a lot of sense. Next time you get angry remember the cancer might not be thinking the same way