Perhaps he's not interested....?

My cancer man and I have been together for a year and a half now. And honestly I am feeling like he is not interested, even though everytime him and I would break up he was always the one coming back. Now that him and I are together, it's as if he doesn't want to do anything with me such as go out to different places take mini trips, or just have fun together. I talk to him all the time about this and I even asked him if he thought I was boring, if he's interested in doing things with me his response is "sure why not, I 'just can never come up with anything". Now when it comes to hanging out with other people, or going different places he's always so quick to jump up, and go no matter where it is. Perhaps he just isn't interested and doesn't want to tell me. When I see him it's only when it's convenient to him, we live about fifteen minutes away from each other and I hardly see him, he calls and talks to me when he's ready. When we do see eachother it's always just the same thing, him and I are in the house while his attention is always on video games, the computer, or playing cards with his friends. Sex? we hardly do that, I mean come on we hardly see eachother, the most out of the week has been twice that we see eachother and sex once. I believe there is a problem here, perhaps it could be deeper than what it really is. But when I don't call or ignore his calls he constantly calls me, and then when he finally gets to speak to me, it's more like he's checking out what I am doing; once he finds out Im not doing much, he says he will call back later. So what's going on here? I try talking to him and he always feels like I am attacking him when it's simply me trying to express to him how I feel. When I ask to see him, it's as if I have to play a waiting game and the result is me not seeing him at all. It's not fair, but when he wants something from me no matter what it is I always do what I can. So why can't he do the same in return?

Let me just point out, I am a cancer therefore I am not a boring individual and i know how to have fun. There are plenty of guys and even my girlfriends who love to be in my company. They enjoy me, and my sense of humor, and the fact that I am extremely funny, fun, and spontaneous. What the hell is his problem. As far as my appearance, there is nothing wrong in that area. So what do you guys think?

cancerian men...pfftttt....

I try talking to him and he always feels like I am attacking him when it's simply me trying to express to him how I feel.

Stop talking to him because in his mind this is confrontational and a turn off, which makes him want to distance himself more, jus relax and go with it, if you really feel there is a problem and you must say something, find other ways to get your point across, if what your doing isn't working find another way to do it, I find that giving positive feedback and compliment him before going into what you don't like works for me, this will shift his mind into a positive feeling and make him open up more.

why give this guy so much attention when he clearly doesn't deserve it, stop opposing his nature and flow with it.

If he's being distant and aloof, you do the same and when he comes back all lovey dovey, get a good helping of that and you be the first to pull up and go about your business.

Gotta flow with cancers or your going to be frustrated all the time. Sometimes these guys need a mirror effect to get them going.

If you don't want to go back and forth, the hardest thing you will find is to let him BE while you live your life.

and also you are BEAUTIFUL, don't waste your time trying to figure that out, open your mind to other potentials, shake that off honey.

I don't know if you saw it but I read somewhere else on here where someone wrote that if a cancer guy seems to lose interest and/or isn't going to the same lengths he used to to impress you it's doesn't mean he's not interested - it means he's gotten comfortable with you.
perhaps that is all it is.

I know supposedly two people of the same sign are a great match - but I disagree, I think when you have the same sign you have too much of everything - the good and the bad.
I think taurus people are wonderful and will tell anyone who is dating a taurus that they are VERY kcuky - but I personally won't date a taurus guy - I did once, and we were sooooo much alike that there was no passion, no real interest.....a couple's differences should compliment each other, with each bringing what the other needs but lacks.....cancer/cancer just may not be a great match........

"kcuky"......um....that should have said "lucky"..... ??

Thank you guys for your advice. Your posts are very helpful.