Please tell me you exist

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Kim31
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A bit ago a cap friend of mine becomes very quiet and evasive. She invites me to the beach and tells me not to mention the trip to anyone. I've known her for so long I didn't ask questions and packed the bag.
She spends the morning in isolation with her phone. When she comes out I asked had she spoken to her Virgo hubby. She said his phone was off.

As I studied her I got that fucked up de ja vu feeling. I remembered a dream I had of a blonde man, who I'd thought was someone else til then, meeting a blonde woman on a dating site, turning his phone off and spending the day on the water with this blonde. He brought her back to what I thought was a condo and had sex with her. It was a Catholic singles dating site. Hmmm.

Without mentioning the dream, I flat out asked "Did you make a fake account and we're surprising him or just spying?" She turned on me like a Rottweiler. I said "Hey, you brought me for a reason right?" From that moment until we got to the beach I was her punching bag. I guess it was easier to be mad at me for knowing then to be scared.

Fourteen years of marriage and there he was getting ready for a dive with some straight up and down blonde. She was wearing a cross. We watched until we knew they were inside screwing. Cap didn't say anything. She laughed, cried but mostly shook her head and smiled.

He called my friend that night and told her he loved her the same way he always had. He was suppose to be on a trip with friends.

Not a week has gone by without cheating men becoming the theme in my life.

Do faithful men exist? Please come forward.
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LunarMaiden
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Posted by J9
Posted by LunarMaiden
Posted by DonAmanMarat
Just because you've been cheated on, doesn't make you innocent.
Chances are, you CREATED a cheater outta that person in the first place.

-As always the full story is NEVER told!



How do you CREATE a cheater?



by cheating.
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LOL real funny J9. Sound like tit for tat nonsense.
So let me get this straight, if someone cheats on you, you will cheat on them back?
No you dump them, why keep a cycle of cheating going?

I think he means something else and I am trying to flush it out.

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I dated a cheater twice actually. My first one was a Gemini. I was 20 yo then. The second one was a Sags. I was 25 yo. Sags had more to look at than the Gemini so I understand why the Sags incline to cheat. Anyhoo, I dumped them both. How did I know they cheat? The Gemini confessed. The Sags, well...his other girlfriend called me and asked me to break up with him. I broke it up with him and sent his girlfriend a thank you note.

Men and women cheat. That is a story that is as old as hills. Faithful men is hard to come by but they are out there.
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Posted by J9
Posted by LunarMaiden
Posted by J9
Posted by LunarMaiden
Posted by DonAmanMarat
Just because you've been cheated on, doesn't make you innocent.
Chances are, you CREATED a cheater outta that person in the first place.

-As always the full story is NEVER told!



How do you CREATE a cheater?



by cheating.


LOL real funny J9. Sound like tit for tat nonsense.
So let me get this straight, if someone cheats on you, you will cheat on them back?
No you dump them, why keep a cycle of cheating going?

I think he means something else and I am trying to flush it out.



There wouldn't be a cycle within the same relationship, but that is how you create a cheater, or a person who is able to cheat at least.
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I could see that, where trust is broken so now one feels they can sleep with other people.
So what starts the initial cheating from the first cheater?