Proper Balance?

We've all read the theories about "playing hard to get" or as I rather think of it as "not always being available" and for the most part I think it is true about wanting something you know may not always be there. I'm talking mildly unavailable not rude.

Anyway, how on earth do you balance or determine this for a Cancer guy? They don't seem to go hand in hand very well or easily! Any experience out there?

The biggest thing is showing interest without seeming clingy. Don't put on the 4th quarter full court press and demand all of his time. TAKE IT SLOOOWWW! If you can reassure your cancer man that you're actually interested in him with out smothering him you're good. It doesn't take much just a call here and there. You don't even have to stay on the phone very long. A quick 2 mins goes very far. He'll really like that because he knows you're thinking about him but you still have your own life which means if he ever needs to hide out from the world you won't come kicking in his door with the FBI looking for him with guns ablazing. In summary, don't seem like you're already planning the "future" after the first date but don't fake like we smell like french fries and our game is weak.

Thanks KingCrab - good advice for sure. It's time for me to back off a little - he didn't respond to my last contact so need to pull back a little I suppose. Although I know it was going to be a party weekend with friends in town he still would have responded if he was excited to hear from me 🙂- I hate technology sometimes!

i concur with king crab's advice. i started off just being friends with my cancer guy. i was always attracted to him but i let us be friends first. (it's just my style to not worry about taking it further) i would show my interest, drop a genuine compliment here and there, send him a text every now and then, but not aggressively pursue him. after some months of being very casual he started to initiate more contact. then one night we hung out together for the first time without the rest of our mutual friends and that's where it started. he made the first move and everything. even after that i still took it slow. we began a physical relationship but i still was only seeing him a couple times a month and continued with my life. by spring of this year is when it became evident we both were heavily invested and we became official.

anyway, like king crab said above, take it slow. my taking it slow was unintentional (i am a leo) but i realized he and i had spent a year's worth of dancing around each other before it got to this point. i wouldn't make him your main focus at first. u should continue dating but show him your interest in trying him out. it seems they like it on their terms. it's worth it!

Ninjamu...........man...........too late. Can't turn the clock back now 😢