Puzzled by Cancer behavior

I am puzzled by the behavior of my Cancer partner. He seemed over the moon about me when we initially got involved, wanted very much to get married after dating for less than a year. We had a great time together for quite a while, but only a few years down the line, we started living separate lives (both physically and emotionally) and are no longer a couple. He even began dating again and I admit that I am feeling that I have quite easily been replaced so I question whether he really cared much for me in the first place. Yet, although we were together for a number of years, he does not appear to have shared our breakup with his family or friends. Is this a common trait of Cancers? To keep all internalized and, even when the cards are on the table, to not acknowledge the situation to the important people in his life?

I admit that I would generally consider it to be his choice what to share with whom. However, I got to know many of his friends and relatives and often hear from them. I've wanted to give him time to tell them what is happening once he is ready, but as more and more time goes by and they continue to contact me, I am increasingly uncomfortable, particularly since they do not realize we are no longer together and it has been quite a while since we were.

I was also hoping on some comments on how easily a Cancer appears to go on to another relationship. My Cancer guy went from a previous marriage to divorce to serious dating to breakup to another marriage to divorce to serious dating without time to take a breath. In all transitions, the prior relationship had not quite concluded before he moved to the next. Is this typical?

It isn't typical.
Cancers tend to cling even in bad relationships they have a hard time letting go, although they do eventually.
they also tend to go back to exes..
they have a hard time focusing on the future as they are very nostalgic of the past...
It is not common what you are saying..
Where is this person's Moon placement?
and rising?

@PiscesArgie I wish I knew more, but while we looked at our compatibility, he was the one who kept the information and I do not have it.

Interesting that, in general, you say Cancers cling. In my case, this was not at all true, with the possible exception that I was the one to declare if it isn't working, then we should split. Distance and his unwillingness to travel to see me were huge factors. But when I said things were not going well and perhaps it was time to end the relationship, he didn't protest at all and appears to have very quickly gone back to dating. I'm feeling like an idiot for getting involved in the first place since I am still upset about the end of the relationship, but he is already dating someone else although we are not divorced.

Dear I'm so sorry to hear this, but it seems he wasnt so much attached...he should have protested or tried to convince you to give him another chance..his instant dating SHOUTS that he didn't care so much...you should move on, and know that there is somebody out there for you...
He obvisouly is not committed and is not caring...don't invest time and energy in a person like this..it will drain you and will lead nowhere...although it must be sad.

Posted by caomei
I was also hoping on some comments on how easily a Cancer appears to go on to another relationship. My Cancer guy went from a previous marriage to divorce to serious dating to breakup to another marriage to divorce to serious dating without time to take a breath. In all transitions, the prior relationship had not quite concluded before he moved to the next. Is this typical?

Not typical. I guess your cancer is exception.
I DO consult/discuss my relationship with my friends (but i never give away details that might harm
my gf's reputation. for example what we do in bed and stuff like that...). Especially, if i had a good relationship i will
not forget about that girl for ages...
If i had bad experience, that girl is dead for me,i mean i am not hostile it is just she does not exist for me, she never existed but to be in my bad experience list you really have to piss me off.

Hi Treefrogger!
I just talk from observation of Cancer friends and have even asked that question to my Crab boyfriend.
He told me he has gone occasionally back to exes but after some quarrels (I guess no complete break up) or for booty call but with no feelings for the person really.
I have a close friend who has split with her boyfriend but occasionally sees him for sex..
I guess if they have been hurt tthey wont go back.
and I guess they could go back to those who were not so meaningful or important, and were only sex buddies.
Maybe then, you don't really GO BACK TO REAL EXES..mm was this clear?

Thanks for all the replies! Although our split is not yet official, we've lived apart for over a year and my Cancer guy is already on to his next relationship, so I've no expectations of his returning to me. In fact, at this stage, I wouldn't welcome it. For those who are curious, I was the one who initiated divorce, but when we talked about this, he didn't even react or protest--simply wanted to know how quickly it could be done. I'm primarily trying to understand his actions, including why he wanted to marry me in the first place. I'm sure I'll move on as well, but I'm not one who can easily jump from one relationship to the next--for me, some time is needed. I will miss many members of his family and would like to have some closure with them... perhaps even keep in touch occasionally if any of them wish to do so... but I don't believe it is my place to tell them that we have split without allowing him to tell them first. After the split is official, however, I think this is no longer true, particularly if I am asked a direct question.

Yet another example to show that it would be wonderful if relationships were straightforward and simple, isn't it?!

I have never been back with an ex, ever..I always look ahead to the future and I know that there can always be somebody new, Im not afraid of ending up alone or stuff like that.
Treefrogger, dear!!
Well at this moment my Crab is sitting for partial and final exams at Uni, he is studying psychology, he is quite moody and crabby and impatient, and obviously needs space and patience. I am travelling for a long weekend with friends to the coast, basically living my life and not being around him or on him...
We have had some arguments because we are both stressed, Im overloaded with work and he is stuyding plus working full time so we have a lot in our plates. It is difficult because we are a new couple, so to speak , havent been together for so long, and it is difficult to find time to enjoy.
But I think I bring a bit of balance and romance into his life, as it is right now, which is quite negative...he can get very pessimistic,and I generally see the glass half full 🙂

Jesus said: I didnt say it would be EASY, I said it would be WORTH IT....🙂