Serious problem with my Cancer BFF.

So, things have got so bad with my Cancer best friend of 15 years that I almost feel like I can't be friends anymore.

I let her move in with me because she was in an "abusive" relationship. I went to her house and helped move her out in a day, and let her stay in my spare bedroom. We agreed on this being temporary and agreed for her to pay $ 300 towards my $ 1000 rent, plus utilities. It is now 6 months, she never actually left the boyfriend, he is at my house daily. She has only paid me utilities ONCE and when I asked for them stated she thought she was just paying $ 300 to stay with me!!!

She doesn't clean AT ALL. Only her room! In 6 months she has cleaned the stove and bathroom once and unloaded the dishwasher only twice. Gone grocery shopping maybe 4 times TOPS!

I am a single mother and she knows i'm planning a huge move, I have mentioned the utilities several times and she has avoided it. There are so many more details I can list about how inconsiderate shes been. The biggest- clogging my toilet when I was at work, texting me about it at 11 asking if I had a plunger,I didn't. She didn't have to be to work until 4.. when I got home at 6 shit was clogged in my toilet and no plunger purchased. I had to goto the store buy one and come back to plunge. There are several more awful stories.

My question is she has a long history of doing these kinds of things to people. Can this change? Are Cancers typically this messy and inconsiderate? I don't want to walk away from her, but I feel above and beyond taken advantage of. I feel cowardly about confronting her. At this point does it even matter to?

Sun/Venus/Merc in Cancer 9th. Moon Taurus 7th. Uranus/Neptune Sag 2nd. Mars/Saturn Scorp 1st. Pluto Libra 1st.

I am sure it doesn't have to do with the Cancer sign, your friend is taking advantage of u! Advantage of your kindness. U should really lay down the rules and if it gets out of hand again what the consequences will be.
U can probably even make a schedule of the duties between her and u for the day.
Make sure u do all this, in a good mood. Good Luck!

And if it doesn't still work, yes I agree with Cluelesscancer ....kick her out!
Friends don't do that

Kick her out please. You need to tell her look I need x, y, z done. I know youre a Libra and you are very nice about these things but Libra's need to be able to draw the line. Don't let people take advantage of your niceness. Set the rules or tell her she needs to leave and move back in with the boyfriend she never broke up with. Youre moving too so she has to have a plan to leave anyways. Just enforce it earlier.

I lived with a Cancer and he was horrible with home responsibilities. He helped out around the house and all though and cooked. I did all the deep cleaning though. I have heard (of course after the fact) that Cancer's can be very manipulative. You should call her out on her bs and give her a time frame of when she needs to get out. If she doesn't oblige, move her crap to her "abusive" boyfriends house and change your locks. No one should have to put up with that nonsense.

I should add that he was horrible with the finances side of things but did help out around the house. Cancer's may be the sign that likes to be home but they don't like to pay for where they live apparently.

Not a typical behavior for a cancer woman - we feel responsible and carry guilt till we martyr ourselves.lol

I know a cancer woman that had a messy house. She would whine about cleaning one room (all day). She never worked outside the home. Her husband would work, take her out to eat and then come home and clean maybe one or two rooms. Her kids never cleaned either.
Life has a way of biting you in the rear - the husband left her, and she had to go to work and she had to move out of the big house she had. Then she actually had the nerve to yell at the kids she never asked to clean before, to help her with the move. They were useless teens.

I am in a similar boat now. My son has his girlfriend living with us. She is a Gemini. She doesn't do crap around to help nor offer any money.
I've told him on a few occasions to either put her rear to work or pick up after her.
She finally got the hint about leaving her stuff in the bathroom when I threw it out and and the ground where everyone walked over it.
She brought her son in too. She buys no groceries and all she does sit in his room. And even that is messy. I got tired of her drinking all my OJ (she doesn't drink water) and I don't buy soda for the house. I quit buying anything that was non-essential. And I took all the towels out the bathroom. She liked to keep grabbing a new one to take a shower with. The hell with that. I want to see what she does - if she will actually wash them.

Her laziness is driving my virgo, likes a clean place, daughter crazy.

I am moving next month 45 minutes away. I told my son, nope, she can't come. His choice either come alone or go find a place to stay. And I told him why - if she can't do anything to help in 1 bathroom house, imagine a 3 bathroom house. And I'll be dammed if I am going to buy an expensive house so her lazy ass can enjoy it while I work. He said, she will pay. I said it has been 6 months, she hasn't paid me once. She has him supporting her. He knows I mean no. He plans on staying. Oh well. he will tire of her lazy butt soon.

Shes pathetic to treat a beautiful woman like you in such a way.... #libran goddess. 🙂