Should i believe this Cancer man?

I started seeing a Cancer man 5 weeks ago and as far i was aware he was single and we started going out, things got pretty heavy straight away. He'd show up and be here every night and even stay most nights too. Then he tells me he had an ex and some baggage blah blah... Anyway she ended finding out about me and then BOOM! She went crazy lady on him and made him end it with me so he come told he's pretending to end it with me but he's not, he just need time to sort his baggage out? And apparently he stayed most nights when he wasn't here so some of it could have been true? He carried on seeing me after that and was still here every night and i tried support him with his decisions and convinced me he told her it was over, Which i thought they ended before we even got together and everything anyway and i trusted him cos i really no reason to doubt him really, Maybe a little. Then other we was going the pub and his phone was constantly ringing, was her,i sat waited over an hour while they talked and she still phoned all night so i took from him and launched against the wall and smashed it to pieces. Then shit hit the fan again cos she figured out he was lying as i did too and She tied his leash and he went back to her again.... I've only seen him once in 6 days and he's asked me to give him some time and wants me to wait for him. I just like a bloody idiot and he just held me. I've not cried so much in my whole life and never been in a situation like this ever and I've fallen for him so badly but i don't know whether to believe him but have this feeling he's really taking the f'in pee out of me. I know it's only been 5 weeks and probably sounds ridiculous cos it does to me. Could just do with some advice whatever you can give me please...

Sorry, but 5wks—

Give him time?!? why not just give his sorry arse one less option?!?

Remove yourself from the situation and let the crazy 'baggage' lady keep her cheating man!

Posted by ScorpioGemz
Don't laugh its not funny!!! grr lol

OMG...lol...sorry...I laughed harder when I seen this post after the initial one...again...sorry...lmao!!!

Ok...I think I got all my laughter out (a bit of a lie...lol)...anyway let me just say this...

Cancers are very very indecisive people sometimes...my Cancer Rising & Cancer Moon gets me this way sometimes. My ex Cancer of 8yrs was the same way....very indecisive at times. Just a natural habit...especially when they deciding on relationships sometimes. Reason for it is because of the sheer sensitivy of all the heightened emotions we crabs like people feel at all times...up & down...emotions run wayyyy deep for crab folk. The only thing you can do is a) wait it out & see what the outcome will be or 2) move on to the next. Either way, no one will rush us to an ultimate decision in either favor. Just the way us crab like people move...dam sidewinders sometimes...lol!!!

LOL f'in jokes on me haha

I have noticed i learnt a lot in the 5 weeks lol i love figure out people, i never felt anything bad towards him and i do think he he was actually kinda of being honest cos how could he even get away with staying out every night for the last 5 weeks? I actually think he's not lying about them splitting , i think she had huge jealous crazy lady action going on and thought crap am losing him !! and yank his leash lol , i'll wait it out maybe a little bit but i'm not into games too much stressed for me just want a peaceful life.

An ex of his shouldn't have that hold over him

Posted by ScorpioGemz
I have noticed i learnt a lot in the 5 weeks lol i love figure out people, i never felt anything bad towards him and i do think he he was actually kinda of being honest cos how could he even get away with staying out every night for the last 5 weeks? I actually think he's not lying about them splitting , i think she had huge jealous crazy lady action going on and thought crap am losing him !! and yank his leash lol, i'll wait it out maybe a little bit but i'm not into games too much stressed for me just want a peaceful life.

Oh? You grabbed his phone and smashed it against the wall. Seriously? She not the only one acting crazy. She at least has a reason to be acting they way she is, which isn't really that unreasonable. She made a few phone calls to her partner/boyfriend. You have no status. You've been sleeping with him for 5 weeks, yet you believe you're entitiled to something and smashing someone's else property like a lunatic----all because he chose to talk to her while he's was suppose to be spending time with you. See a pattern here? He put you on hold then and he's doing it now by asking you to "wait for him".

They are in a relationship. You don't know what the real deal is. All you know is what he is telling you and the fact that while he was with someone that he was also with you. If he wanted to end it, it would have been done before he met you.

So he's being honest about them splitting, yet he asked you to wait? Why would you need to wait if he's done with her? Better yet, why would he have to "pretend" to break up with you to appease her? They're suppose be done already right Lol. Are you serious? He's not even putting in any real effort to come up with a decent lie. That in itself is insulting because he thinks you'll just lap up anything he gives you.

So, continue to wait. As for loving to figure out people. Perhaps figure out why you're willing to share a man, so willing to accept "kinda being" honest behaviour and so eager to wait around while he's gets his fill somewhere else before he saunters over to you.

My friend went through the same thing. Her and her ex have a kid and he would have her on a tight leash because of the kid. He used to threaten her and threaten to kill himself and anytime she didn't feed into his unhealthy obsessions he would purposefully try to fuck her life up and cause a shit ton of problems for her and anybody she tried to get close to. Sometimes cancers aren't trying to make a decision. The decision is already made and the time they are away from you they are getting their shit together and preparing for a life with the two of you. They just don't tell you because they don't want you to expect anything in case they fuck something up---they don't like disappointing people. But if ur in a situation like this you need to do your best to make it known that you are pursuing the cancer and then tell cancer that you will give him/her a time limit to get the shit with the ex in control and you will back off and give space. Don't let anymore then 2 weeks of space for this or else the ex will try to sneak back in and take over. Let the ex know 2. Then let everybody know you two are together so cancer can get used to people accepting the change so he can accept it too. All the way accepted it and the ex can accept it to and move her ass on to someone else. Consistency is what cancers need the most in lots of things because that's what is their weakness and that's what grounds them and makes them stable---bcuz they are so inconsistent.

OP sounds like he really was split up and it sounds like his ex was playing mind games on him and he fell for it feeling guilty for things about her that he shouldn't have felt guilty for. Most maybe all cancers I know you can easily make them feel guilty for something even if they had no part in it or they shouldn't be. They are soft little suckers even though they look tough. Even tho it looks like they don't give a shit about you they always think about the other person and is honest to a fault. My friend can't tell when she needs to lie and when she needs to tell the truth. Or when she doesn't owe anyone any information. But she learned her lessons finally and she handles the situation with her ex. She only deals with him for the kid and keeps him out of her dating life and she's been real happy again. She lost weight and goes out a lot and is getting into her old self. She's way more open and loving and it's not hard to talk to her. Now she's going to leave her job that causes her stress. She's been doing really good. Keep pushing you'll get there one day. If it's too much just leave him alone and move on.

PhoenixRusibg you make a real good point. I needed to learn this myself. Cancers won't really give you their world until you two are both fully committed and they can take you serious enough to change their life around for you. You have to show everything upfront. If not they won't make those cuts or do the things you want them to do or act if they were your gf or bf. and they hate when someone pretends to be their bf when they're not. They don't like to play house for fake the like to play for keeps.

Posted by Lovelyisis
Ok...I think I got all my laughter out (a bit of a lie...lol)...anyway let me just say this...

Cancers are very very indecisive people sometimes...my Cancer Rising & Cancer Moon gets me this way sometimes. My ex Cancer of 8yrs was the same way....very indecisive at times. Just a natural habit...especially when they deciding on relationships sometimes. Reason for it is because of the sheer sensitivy of all the heightened emotions we crabs like people feel at all times...up & down...emotions run wayyyy deep for crab folk. The only thing you can do is a) wait it out & see what the outcome will be or 2) move on to the next. Either way, no one will rush us to an ultimate decision in either favor. Just the way us crab like people move...dam sidewinders sometimes...lol!!!

No, we're really not that indecisive. Cardinal energy demands action. This guy OP is dealing with is a player. He's feeding her bs lines to keep her around.

I agree with you that cancer is the emperor of all maladies 😢(, sometime cure for cancer is impossible

Well was only a crappy iPhone 3 lol I know, I've took time out and had a think about everything and like you said Phoenix i only what he told me. He said she apparently threatened him with all kinds and making BS up, I dunno anyway..I am not willing to share anyone and be the good lil part time WH*RE , I might be a Scorpio but i'm not desperate or stupid. He says he's at his mums but so hard to believe anything anymore, only my gut feeling...He turned up other night i was going out with my friend to the pub and he ended up coming with his mate and nearly ended up fighting cos of some guy hitting on me. I told him that night to go fix his relationship with his misses but still told me exact same, That he loved me,still at mums.....Too crazy all this and way too much drama for me. I really don't have a fecking clue, All i know is they've been going through a lot of crap for a year or so and he was living at his mams, She has some eating disorder and going through a lot and broke down. I actually feel sorry for her. i kinda understand the position she in, Been there before....I had a flashback today and just made me feel like i was with my ex again, me home with kids, him out screwing whoever... Feck that! Thanks Phoenix, you helped me realise some things.

Hmm star, he's a big softy but is always trying to say he's hard lol, think he's more scared of me. and he told me about how bad his other ex was, said she always beat him up. Could be all made up stories though. I think part of me would wait it out but i have this really bad gut feeling that i should just leg it. He isn't going to leave her or his kid, i know that's one thing he does love, his family. whats a 5 week fling got over that? Naf all!!!

Time to sort my head out and move on...Hmmm or maybe some well need revenge might come his way!

Thanks for the help everyone X