Today:Cancer men are difficult to love

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Do you agree or disagree with that statement and why. That was a quote coming from a female all matter of factly.

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Posted by Magenta_Azure
To agree or not to agree is not the question at hand. The degree to which we agree is more so the question

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Never got with a cancer man but cancers can be difficult to love bcuz they're unpredictable inconsistent and dangerously magnetic. You can't love them or hate them that's why they make people go crazy. But when they hate you your life will be some shit because everything they do they will use hate emotion they got from what's around them and they won't notice it. They will naturally slip into harshness and do things that are hardcore and dangerous and bad. When they love everything they do means love so this is how ur ass gets to cloud 20 with them. They will fill you up with love until your heart explodes and u feel with ur dick. Sex has a hole new meaning to it. Fuck life has a new meaning. But cuz they're so damn moody they bounce between these and go thro the motions and u get stuck on a damn emotional roller coaster but when the storm passes and they don't hate too much or love too much they become weird zombies with Asperger's syndrome. But why it's so hard to love them is bcuz in each md every moody state there in you love them no matter what because u know their moods are happening bcuz of their strange way of sharing energy with the world while still having their own.

Posted by StarChild63
Never got with a cancer man but cancers can be difficult to love bcuz they're unpredictable inconsistent and dangerously magnetic. You can't love them or hate them that's why they make people go crazy. But when they hate you your life will be some shit because everything they do they will use hate emotion they got from what's around them and they won't notice it. They will naturally slip into harshness and do things that are hardcore and dangerous and bad. When they love everything they do means love so this is how ur ass gets to cloud 20 with them. They will fill you up with love until your heart explodes and u feel with ur dick. Sex has a hole new meaning to it. Fuck life has a new meaning. But cuz they're so damn moody they bounce between these and go thro the motions and u get stuck on a damn emotional roller coaster but when the storm passes and they don't hate too much or love too much they become weird zombies with Asperger's syndrome. But why it's so hard to love them is bcuz in each md every moody state there in you love them no matter what because u know their moods are happening bcuz of their strange way of sharing energy with the world while still having their own.

I have been in a cancer's ugly side... And pretty much is just like he described...

Im fwp and i approve this message

Im typsy and in good mood!! Ahoy captain!!!!

Lol I'm just enough fucked up myself. I've been drinking like shit and I'm wasted.

Posted by StarChild63
Lol I'm just enough fucked up myself. I've been drinking like shit and I'm wasted.

Sir are u been drinking and posting!? Thats is no bueno... Bad things happens... I know by experience lol

Posted by StarChild63
Never got with a cancer man but cancers can be difficult to love bcuz they're unpredictable inconsistent and dangerously magnetic. You can't love them or hate them that's why they make people go crazy. But when they hate you your life will be some shit because everything they do they will use hate emotion they got from what's around them and they won't notice it. They will naturally slip into harshness and do things that are hardcore and dangerous and bad. When they love everything they do means love so this is how ur ass gets to cloud 20 with them. They will fill you up with love until your heart explodes and u feel with ur dick. Sex has a hole new meaning to it. Fuck life has a new meaning. But cuz they're so damn moody they bounce between these and go thro the motions and u get stuck on a damn emotional roller coaster but when the storm passes and they don't hate too much or love too much they become weird zombies with Asperger's syndrome. But why it's so hard to love them is bcuz in each md every moody state there in you love them no matter what because u know their moods are happening bcuz of their strange way of sharing energy with the world while still having their own.

To be honest Star, the moods are so incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. He understands just how much I put up with. He informed me his grandpa is dying so I was asking him to questions via text which was going to follow with a, "I'm here for you." He got angry and asked me why I was asking so many questions because he doesn't see the point and admitted he was Emotional. I texted him saying that it was because I care about him and I'm sorry for actually taking an interest in his life. He ignored me and hasn't responded yet. It's so emotioanlly upsetting to me. So hard to deal with. But I love him even though he doesn't know that yet. I really care.

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Posted by StarChild63
Never got with a cancer man but cancers can be difficult to love bcuz they're unpredictable inconsistent and dangerously magnetic. You can't love them or hate them that's why they make people go crazy. But when they hate you your life will be some shit because everything they do they will use hate emotion they got from what's around them and they won't notice it. They will naturally slip into harshness and do things that are hardcore and dangerous and bad. When they love everything they do means love so this is how ur ass gets to cloud 20 with them. They will fill you up with love until your heart explodes and u feel with ur dick. Sex has a hole new meaning to it. Fuck life has a new meaning. But cuz they're so damn moody they bounce between these and go thro the motions and u get stuck on a damn emotional roller coaster but when the storm passes and they don't hate too much or love too much they become weird zombies with Asperger's syndrome. But why it's so hard to love them is bcuz in each md every moody state there in you love them no matter what because u know their moods are happening bcuz of their strange way of sharing energy with the world while still having their own.

OMG. This is so fucking accurate.

Yes, Cancer men are difficult to love. They're attracted to strong people. They're attracted to Saturnian structure & rationale. They're the opposite??_ they flow through life with their emotions, and they aren't in control of their emotions. This is what makes them unbearable.. they will play games (I've seen this more than any other Sign - it's so frustrating, bless their dear hearts :/ - I'm a Taurus I can't help but feel for them). The good news is their emotions are drawn to good things, meaning things that will establish protection, survival, care, and strength.
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I need a manual called, "How to be less emotional so you can deal with your cancer." Over 1 million copies sold. Written by author who also wrote, "how to get mad for no treetrunking reason, love cancer"

@Stihl46

You non crab people are pretty brave coming to complain about us we do have pincers and we know how to use them. Yes we can be hard to read but we are no different than Scorpio's they are hard to read as well.

Posted by DearCupcake

Posted by StarChild63
Never got with a cancer man but cancers can be difficult to love bcuz they're unpredictable inconsistent and dangerously magnetic. You can't love them or hate them that's why they make people go crazy. But when they hate you your life will be some shit because everything they do they will use hate emotion they got from what's around them and they won't notice it. They will naturally slip into harshness and do things that are hardcore and dangerous and bad. When they love everything they do means love so this is how ur ass gets to cloud 20 with them. They will fill you up with love until your heart explodes and u feel with ur dick. Sex has a hole new meaning to it. Fuck life has a new meaning. But cuz they're so damn moody they bounce between these and go thro the motions and u get stuck on a damn emotional roller coaster but when the storm passes and they don't hate too much or love too much they become weird zombies with Asperger's syndrome. But why it's so hard to love them is bcuz in each md every moody state there in you love them no matter what because u know their moods are happening bcuz of their strange way of sharing energy with the world while still having their own.
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To be honest Star, the moods are so incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. He understands just how much I put up with. He informed me his grandpa is dying so I was asking him to questions via text which was going to follow with a, "I'm here for you." He got angry and asked me why I was asking so many questions because he doesn't see the point and admitted he was Emotional. I texted him saying that it was because I care about him and I'm sorry for actually taking an interest in his life. He ignored me and hasn't responded yet. It's so emotioanlly upsetting to me. So hard to deal with. But I love him even though he doesn't know that yet. I really care.

Posted by StarChild63

Posted by DearCupcake

Posted by StarChild63
Never got with a cancer man but cancers can be difficult to love bcuz they're unpredictable inconsistent and dangerously magnetic. You can't love them or hate them that's why they make people go crazy. But when they hate you your life will be some shit because everything they do they will use hate emotion they got from what's around them and they won't notice it. They will naturally slip into harshness and do things that are hardcore and dangerous and bad. When they love everything they do means love so this is how ur ass gets to cloud 20 with them. They will fill you up with love until your heart explodes and u feel with ur dick. Sex has a hole new meaning to it. Fuck life has a new meaning. But cuz they're so damn moody they bounce between these and go thro the motions and u get stuck on a damn emotional roller coaster but when the storm passes and they don't hate too much or love too much they become weird zombies with Asperger's syndrome. But why it's so hard to love them is bcuz in each md every moody state there in you love them no matter what because u know their moods are happening bcuz of their strange way of sharing energy with the world while still having their own.
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To be honest Star, the moods are so incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. He understands just how much I put up with. He informed me his grandpa is dying so I was asking him to questions via text which was going to follow with a, "I'm here for you." He got angry and asked me why I was asking so many questions because he doesn't see the point and admitted he was Emotional. I texted him saying that it was because I care about him and I'm sorry for actually taking an interest in his life. He ignored me and hasn't responded yet. It's so emotioanlly upsetting to me. So hard to deal with. But I love him even though he doesn't know that yet. I really care.

Wow, I don't know what heck happend to my post there. Anyway Star, I was just saying that I had no way of knowing that he would snap at me. Especially since I as being very supportive and I wanted to let him know that I was there for him. It's hard because sometimes I have no idea what will set him off. I don't get set off quickly and every other relationship I have been in never had these problems and it was never this complicated. In fact, I can say it was pretty much smooth sailings. It's crazy because this man has so many wonderful qualities... But he does things like this when he gets upset and ignores me for a bit. It's frustrating. It's kind of like a rug had been pulled out underneath me. That's not a good reason to be mad at me... Because I care about him lol.

@crabRiot

Posted by Stihl46
You non crab people are pretty brave coming to complain about us we do have pincers and we know how to use them. Yes we can be hard to read but we are no different than Scorpio's they are hard to read as well.

This made me laugh.

Tell em!

They will get pinched up if they're not careful lol.

Posted by Stihl46
You non crab people are pretty brave coming to complain about us we do have pincers and we know how to use them. Yes we can be hard to read but we are no different than Scorpio's they are hard to read as well.

Brave? Not that to need to use your pincers or anything. I'm not complaining about all cancers. Every post I've read from you had been nothing but Scorpio hate. Not that I care. I guess someone really hurt you lol.

the most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with...

@crabRiot

Posted by mz
the most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with...

Why you say that MZ,
You are talking about cancers right?

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meh we're millionaires in the making. funny enough people jus keep coming back to us. love that power.mmm mm mmm cheesecake.

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Posted by mz
the most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with...

Why you say that MZ,
You are talking about cancers right?
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yes. read what starchild also says...i call it self sabotaging because cancers don't realise how this negatively impacts their relationships...and when somebody can't put up with all that drama any more they start complaining how unloved they are, etc etc...when in fact all they had to do was a bit of self control...whatever...

@capnip

Posted by mz

Posted by crabRiot

Posted by mz
the most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with...

Why you say that MZ,
You are talking about cancers right?

yes. read what starchild also says...i call it self sabotaging because cancers don't realise how this negatively impacts their relationships...and when somebody can't put up with all that drama any more they start complaining how unloved they are, etc etc...when in fact all they had to do was a bit of self control...whatever...
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This is what irritates me the most and makes me want to hug them. If you had just a little more self control and stop wearing people out you would get everything you were looking for.

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Posted by StarChild63
Never got with a cancer man but cancers can be difficult to love bcuz they're unpredictable inconsistent and dangerously magnetic. You can't love them or hate them that's why they make people go crazy. But when they hate you your life will be some shit because everything they do they will use hate emotion they got from what's around them and they won't notice it. They will naturally slip into harshness and do things that are hardcore and dangerous and bad. When they love everything they do means love so this is how ur ass gets to cloud 20 with them. They will fill you up with love until your heart explodes and u feel with ur dick. Sex has a hole new meaning to it. Fuck life has a new meaning. But cuz they're so damn moody they bounce between these and go thro the motions and u get stuck on a damn emotional roller coaster but when the storm passes and they don't hate too much or love too much they become weird zombies with Asperger's syndrome. But why it's so hard to love them is bcuz in each md every moody state there in you love them no matter what because u know their moods are happening bcuz of their strange way of sharing energy with the world while still having their own.
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OMG. This is so fucking accurate.

Yes, Cancer men are difficult to love. They're attracted to strong people. They're attracted to Saturnian structure & rationale. They're the opposite??_ they flow through life with their emotions, and they aren't in control of their emotions. This is what makes them unbearable.. they will play games (I've seen this more than any other Sign - it's so frustrating, bless their dear hearts :/ - I'm a Taurus I can't help but feel for them). The good news is their emotions are drawn to good things, meaning things that will establish protection, survival, care, and strength.

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Posted by mz

Posted by crabRiot

Posted by mz
the most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with...

Why you say that MZ,
You are talking about cancers right?

yes. read what starchild also says...i call it self sabotaging because cancers don't realise how this negatively impacts their relationships...and when somebody can't put up with all that drama any more they start complaining how unloved they are, etc etc...when in fact all they had to do was a bit of self control...whatever...

This is what irritates me the most and makes me want to hug them. If you had just a little more self control and stop wearing people out you would get everything you were looking for.
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this is what makes me want to strangle them and finally stay away... 🙂

Shadowabdorber they flow through their emotions like water does and so they can move through things in life using their emotions same way water moves through life. Not a bad thing it's just peculiar and sometimes unbelievable. Defffff not normal. But it's who they are and if u want them u gotta accept this and learn to ride the waves. I don't think they play games in that way. What looks like games to us is them in their natural form moving through life with such intensity and knacks for the smallest detail. Normal people don't look at shit that way. They do so don't be confused when u see it.

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Posted by mz

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Posted by mz
the most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with...

Why you say that MZ,
You are talking about cancers right?

yes. read what starchild also says...i call it self sabotaging because cancers don't realise how this negatively impacts their relationships...and when somebody can't put up with all that drama any more they start complaining how unloved they are, etc etc...when in fact all they had to do was a bit of self control...whatever...

This is what irritates me the most and makes me want to hug them. If you had just a little more self control and stop wearing people out you would get everything you were looking for.
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Yeah... I feel like I'm finally reaching my breaking point. I'm so patient that is ridiculous how patient I am. If someone is going to keep hurting me and ignore me, as well as test my patience...I don't know how much more I can take.

DearCupcake I don't know what happened to all tht I wrote. Damn. Don't remember what I wrote but you weren't there for him when having a emotional crisis. Cancers keep deep relationships with people so death of someone means they will feel like they are dying and will react. Some will do it and u can see from the outside looking in some u any even tell that they are having a crisis. They want empathy but not pity and what u did what stomp on him when he was wanting emotional closeness and empathy at a vulnerable low point---they HATE being vulnerable so they are already fucked up from being vulnerable--so when u decided not to support him thro his crisis and then attack him and make it seem like he was being manipulative with his crisis or emotional hardship you killed him even harder because you accused him of "playing games" when really he was asking you for support. Shame

Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that

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Posted by Stihl46
You non crab people are pretty brave coming to complain about us we do have pincers and we know how to use them. Yes we can be hard to read but we are no different than Scorpio's they are hard to read as well.

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I honestly think that its easier to understand a Scorpio than a cancer; to most people, but maybe that's because i'm a cancer.

The main difference I think is that Scorpio's have better managed inputs for their emotions and actions and more controlled outputs for their emotions and reactions, as opposed to cancer's ability to be easily emotionally inspired by anything, positive or negative, and cancers ability to produce an emotion and a reaction for everything.

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by Cheeseburger

Posted by Stihl46
You non crab people are pretty brave coming to complain about us we do have pincers and we know how to use them. Yes we can be hard to read but we are no different than Scorpio's they are hard to read as well.

I honestly think that its easier to understand a Scorpio than a cancer; to most people, but maybe that's because i'm a cancer.

The main difference I think is that Scorpio's have better managed inputs for their emotions and actions and more controlled outputs for their emotions and reactions, as opposed to cancer's ability to be easily emotionally inspired by anything, positive or negative, and cancers ability to produce an emotion and a reaction for everything.

Well said. Scorpio is probably drawn to cancer BECAUSE they are so hard to read and please, it's a challenge even for scorpio, which will otherwise get borred easily.

I think the comment about cancer being generally drawn to good things is true too, at least That's my impression now that I am getting to know more of you (women though)
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Thinktoomuch reading all this stuff makes me see cancers and Scorps probably are the BEST match for each other.

Posted by ReddmannScorch
meh we're millionaires in the making. funny enough people jus keep coming back to us. love that power.mmm mm mmm cheesecake.

This isn't a hate cancer thing it's a understand them better and they will give you their world. I love cancers. I think they're fascinating and intriguing and complex. Nothing ever gets boring. You will learn a lot from a cancer.

Posted by StarChild63
Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that

having strong feelings is one thing, while being emotional is another...

dealing with your own emotions in an elegant, classy way takes a strong personality, simply letting yourself a prey to them and dragging, or at least trying to, others into that it's not fair or so...that's why i say "let cancers be with people of their own kind"...it's a matter of compatibility, after all

they are not necessarily confusing...it's just tiring for some people...

Posted by StarChild63
Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that

Star, I want you to know that I took everything you wrote into consideration. Basically what happened is I was asking him questions about his grandfather. I asked him if he was close to him and he responds with an aggressive, "close enough I guess.""—?" and I immediately could tell that he was upset. He told me he didn't see the point of me asking all these questions and he that he was upset and yes, a bit emotional.

Here is my response (yes, go ahead and judge me I could probably use it)

"I ask you these questions because I care. I asked the question because what was going to follow, is that I'm here for you. Because I'm not the kind of girl who just goes, "dat sux" Not so you can be mad at me.... =/I'm really sorry that I actually take an interest in your life and what you're going through.I'm not angry, I was just trying to understand why you got a bit upset. That's all. I honestly don't know what will set you off sometimes, I'm sorry. "

Mind you I had a fantastic day and was in a great mood but didn't understand why he had to pour his anger on me when all I want to do is care.

What bothers me most? He has ignored all my messages and is not bothering to write back.When I have an issue, I talk things out. Ignore him? Never. Is that a common cancer thing??

Posted by capnip

Posted by mz

Posted by crabRiot

Posted by mz
the most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with...

Why you say that MZ,
You are talking about cancers right?

yes. read what starchild also says...i call it self sabotaging because cancers don't realise how this negatively impacts their relationships...and when somebody can't put up with all that drama any more they start complaining how unloved they are, etc etc...when in fact all they had to do was a bit of self control...whatever...

This is what irritates me the most and makes me want to hug them. If you had just a little more self control and stop wearing people out you would get everything you were looking for.
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Capnip that's why they need someone who is direct and upfront and knows how to communicate the right way bcuz I see how they don't notice the things they do it's not sabotage. They interact with the world differently then the rest of us. Think of it like this. Notice how a cancer can be going through moods swings but they still have a way about them like u can tell from their touch or soft voice that they're not really like that. That's how u can tell the difference between who they are for real in those emotions vs what energy they sucked up from around them. That's how u can get my point. It's hard to put it in words

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Posted by StarChild63
Thinktoomuch reading all this stuff makes me see cancers and Scorps probably are the BEST match for each other.

I disagree, but this thread is very good
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Yup glad OP thought to post it

@crabRiot

Omg this thread is interesting, but I'm at work as soon as I get some time imma read through all this!

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by DearCupcake

Posted by StarChild63
Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that

Star, I want you to know that I took everything you wrote into consideration. Basically what happened is I was asking him questions about his grandfather. I asked him if he was close to him and he responds with an aggressive, "close enough I guess.""—?" and I immediately could tell that he was upset. He told me he didn't see the point of me asking all these questions and he that he was upset and yes, a bit emotional.

Here is my response (yes, go ahead and judge me I could probably use it)

"I ask you these questions because I care. I asked the question because what was going to follow, is that I'm here for you. Because I'm not the kind of girl who just goes, "dat sux" Not so you can be mad at me.... =/I'm really sorry that I actually take an interest in your life and what you're going through.I'm not angry, I was just trying to understand why you got a bit upset. That's all. I honestly don't know what will set you off sometimes, I'm sorry. "

Mind you I had a fantastic day and was in a great mood but didn't understand why he had to pour his anger on me when all I want to do is care.

What bothers me most? He has ignored all my messages and is not bothering to write back.When I have an issue, I talk things out. Ignore him? Never. Is that a common cancer thing??

We sometimes tend to hurt those the closest to us and expect them to be there....after sheet hits the fan.

he's ignoring you cause he's embarrassed
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I would honestly hope that that's the only reason that's he is ignoring me, because of he was being supportive just the same way during me going through a difficult time, I would be like, "what a wonderful man. He really cares!" If he is goi

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Posted by StarChild63
Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that

having strong feelings is one thing, while being emotional is another...

dealing with your own emotions in an elegant, classy way takes a strong personality, simply letting yourself a prey to them and dragging, or at least trying to, others into that it's not fair or so...that's why i say "let cancers be with people of their own kind"...it's a matter of compatibility, after all

they are not necessarily confusing...it's just tiring for some people...
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Biggest problem to get over for Cancers is to stop reacting as start responding. And stop guarding yourself just open up. Other people need to learn to notice how they process things and how they communicate and when they are reaching out vs when they're not

to stay mad for something like that, I honestly have no idea what to think of do after that. I know I can't stay mad at that lol.

OP I'll write back in a few hours I don't get

@happytaurus2312

I am a Taurus and I really am attracted to water signs, especially cancer. I would bend over backwards for cancer and I'm willing to change and give up my stubbornness for them, and I do this with no other sign. But when they get distant or strange, I bolt, I cannot handle the moodiness. It hurts that they seem to be able to turn their feelings on and off while my feelings for them are constant. I find them very intriguing but it never works out. Too bad. I joined this cancer forum to try to understand a man I was seeing, but I give up, there are no answers here.Thanks.

@happytaurus2312

Thanks, Clueless Cancer.It's all good:>😉 I think letting go is the answer, he will find someone who can understand and deal with it.

@happytaurus2312

Who am I fighting for him, him? He knows how I feel. I think he actually hates/punishes me for liking him!

Sorry, there is only so much abuse I can take. I get along really well with Saggs who are direct to the point of bluntness. I will stick with that.

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Posted by StarChild63
Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that

having strong feelings is one thing, while being emotional is another...

dealing with your own emotions in an elegant, classy way takes a strong personality, simply letting yourself a prey to them and dragging, or at least trying to, others into that it's not fair or so...that's why i say "let cancers be with people of their own kind"...it's a matter of compatibility, after all

they are not necessarily confusing...it's just tiring for some people...

Biggest problem to get over for Cancers is to stop reacting as start responding.
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I'm so lazy today for a meme, but this sentence deserve an standing ovation...although they dont give a fuck what we think... 😢

@capnip

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by happytaurus2312
Thanks, Clueless Cancer.It's all good:>😉 I think letting go is the answer, he will find someone who can understand and deal with it.

Well ya, if you're not willing to fight for him, we like to be fought for, like the notebook. i know i do, i'll do all types of tests...
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But that's the thing...if you fight then you are intruding on their "shell" time. If you ignore and give them space then you are neglecting them and not giving them the attention they need. If someone is fighting for me then they are sending flowers, gifts, and written declarations of love. They are telling me how things will be better and that they are willing to try to make it better.

I am not sure HOW to fight for a cancer male. Too many text messages and hugs seems like you are chasing them down to interact with you. Not contacting them at all seems like you are uninterested (and to a cancer proof that YOU DON'T LOVE ME! I KNEW IT!)

Posted by thinktoomuch

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by happytaurus2312
Thanks, Clueless Cancer.It's all good:>😉 I think letting go is the answer, he will find someone who can understand and deal with it.

Well ya, if you're not willing to fight for him, we like to be fought for, like the notebook. i know i do, i'll do all types of tests...

— this is so funny to me! It has been a while since I watched The Notebook, but I don't remember any tests! What tests are you talking about? And who's doing the testing? The guy or the girl? I totally see that movie as just bad timing and the two main characters making decisions. Maybe I don't understand testing ?
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She is not talking about test, she was talking about being fought for... like in the movie

@capnip

Posted by StarChild63
Capnip that's why they need someone who is direct and upfront and knows how to communicate the right way

That is what confuses me..what is the right way? I am direct and upfront and I guess too blunt for a cancer male. It always feels like I'm supposed to set my hurt feelings aside (caused by him) in order to keep us going.