Should I even still persist?

Hello,

I'm new here and its my first post and its a long one.. so pls bear with it. 🙂

I confessed my feelings to cancerian woman that i like her. We met online and we've only gone out for 2 days and we both enjoyed each other's company (it was mutual). On the first night, she gave me a hug in the car before saying goodbye. Then came the bombshell few days later when she told me via text that she doesn't really feel the sparks b/w us and hence told me that she'd feel bad to waste my time. She wished me good luck. We were planning to meetup that day.

So then i replied thanking her for telling me the truth and i asked her if we can be friends then but she didn't reply to that qns. I told her that although rejection is hard to take but we're all adults and I took the rejection graciously. She even commended that I am so understanding in this situation and she hoped that I find myself a fantastic girl. I did not ask her to be my gf at all. I was basically just telling her how I feel. Ever since then I've had no contacts from her. She's a very busy woman.

Just the other day I saw her and her friends at a club and I was with my group of friends. I did not approach her cuz I was wary in case I scared her further. But I was surprised that she came over with a friend and said hi and asked if I wanna go over and said hi to another mutual friend. She was sorta flirting with the friend in front of me i.e. touching the friend and unbuttoning one of the button cuz she said it'll looked cool. I brushed it aside and asked her if she's cool about my confession and hoped that I didn't scare her away - she said yeah she's cool about it. And so I went to dance with my friend (I was quite high from alcohol and my friend told me that I was dirty dancing all night long). Anyway I caught the cancerian alone at the counter and I approached her asking if she wanna go dance and she seemed pre-occupied with her phone and she wasn't looking at me when I was asking her; she was mumbling something and so I left her and continue with my dancing. She left the club without saying goodbye.

To summise, I thought we had a connection but she prob cld have send out mixed signals or I may be too aggressive in my approach. 😢 I don't know why but the moment I saw her it was an indescribable feeling that I have never felt before and I did tell her that.

Can any cancerian ladies shed some light on this? Should I even still persist or walk away? I'm a scorpio.

give it up. personal experience, though cancerian & scorpio connects, there's no sparks & chemistry.

no need to persist...she's made it clear she's not interested...to persist would make you look desperate and thats unattractive.

I'm a Cancer currently seeing a Scorpio. In the beginning I really wasn't attracted to him and he really turned me off. There were no sparks for me at all. I allowed for him to pursue me even though the feelings weren't mutual, and now I'm totally hooked on him! I can't get enough of him! We Cancers and be moody and very fickle at times. So it's possible that you caught her one of her moods. I'm not trying to give you false hope this is just my experience. You told her how you feel and if you want to pursue I say go for it. Just be prepared that she may not into you...Good Luck

Hi PeanutBrown,

How did the scorpio managed to get you hooked?

Anyway I'm chilling now - giving her the space. I didn't know all along she has given me mixed signals. I guess its the scorpio in me that refuses to give up; I've leo in my ascendent, mars and moon.

One night I let him take me to dinner and I got to know him a little better. It's true when they say that Scorpios and Cancer have an amazing connection. I found him to be the opposite of what my first impression of him was. I felt so comfortable with him. I felt safe. Now I'm so crazy about him!

You're doing the right thing by giving her some space. At least this way if she liked you she's probably missing the attention. When you feel the time is right reach out again and she what happens. If she's still not reciprocating those feelings. I guess it's just one of those things when some things just aren't meant to be. Good Luck breakaway

Well, I am Cancer woman...and I have been in similar situations. When I have actually come right out and told a guy that he was nice but I wasn't interested in more than friends....I meant it. I hate to hurt any one else's feelings but I try to be up front with people. If she made a point to tell you-I think she means it. I may be wrong....but from THIS Cancer girl's experience...she means it : (

I'm Not A Cancer Female, But Two Of My Best Female Friends Are and From What I Read, You Should Probably Just Move On For Now. I realized a long time ago that just because you have feelings for someone doesn't mean they feel the same. There really is not a point to advise you to continue on trying to get her attention, when she's brushing you off, but At least she wasn't one of those people who like to lead someone on.

Also, Sometimes people don't know what they want, when I was in High School this guy had the biggest crush on me, he followed me around everywhere, I hated him, he asked me out and I turned him down, he continued to follow me until we graduated and I didn't see him for years after graduation and one day he popped up where I was and we talked for awhile and I thought he still liked me because now I liked him, but just like I didn't want him, now he didn't want me, LMAO. My Point is Sometimes at first ppl don't like you back, but sometimes there feelings change, but I'm sure you'll find someone else who truly likes you back from the start and who will treat you right.

I guess its just one of those things (fated to meet but never meant to be together) and I'll just have to walk away from this cancerian lady. Now I have to try to forget her - it's been about a month or so and I am still thinking about her.

Thanks for all your replies, folks. Appreciate that!