Should I wait?

I dated a Cancer for 6 months (I'm a Scorpio). We got extremely close, and he even began talking about marriage and children. Before me, he had had a very tough time committing, and a bad track record of cheating on the girls he dated. What he had with me was his longest relationship to date, and he was completely loyal.

But suddenly, one day he just stopped being the same. I was used to shifting emotions (he IS a Cancer, after all) but then he told me he wasn't ready to be in such a serious relationship, that he was still young, and completely cut me off. Soon enough, though, I started getting phone calls from him.

He reiterated the reason why he broke up with me, but also added he saw me as the perfect wife and that hopefully one day he would be ready to be with me.

But I'm not sure if it would be worth it to wait. Yes, I believe he is the love of my life, but will he stick to what he says? Or will his philandering ways come back & he'll forget about me? Please help.

In case this helps, I'm putting in our charts.

Dan (the Cancer):
Sun Sign: Cancer
Rising Sign: Libra
Moon: Gemini
Mercury: Cancer
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Leo
Jupiter: Aries
Saturn: Sagittarius

My chart:
Sun Sign: Scorpio
Rising Sign: Libra
Moon: Scorpio
Mercury: Scorpio
Venus: Libra
Mars: Aries
Jupiter: Gemini
Saturn: Sagittarius

I dont think anyone but your cancer can answer that question. He may honestly not know what he wants right now and as such wants to "check out the other fish in the sea" before committing to just one or he could just be testing you. I would love to say yes he'll come back, see the error of his ways, realize your one, confess undying love and be yours forever but unfortunately with Cancers you never can tell. What i will say is the fact that he was loyal and at one time did commit to you shows he cares/loves you but as you already know cancers moods change and as such so do their wants and desires. Dont get me wrong i believe that once a cancer has loved you they will always love you as long as you have not hurt them deeply (like cheating on them or betraying their trust) but often their priorities change! Take some time out to do you (you got a right to be happy too) and let him stew for a while, if you find you still feel the same way find the right moment to tell him (pick a day when he's talkative, happy and in a jokey mood). Remember, Cancers can get bored very quickly (well at least mine does) and i find it helps to keep things exciting. Intrigue him! Bring back the spice! Show him what he's missing! If nothing works...move on but most of all DON'T try to push him into anything and DON'T put your life on hold either!

Oh and i noticed you said he had a hard time committing before...maybe the fact that he's realized he was actually able to commit to you scared him (may sound strange but this is cancer we are dealing with)...the sad thing is cancer's do tend to wander (if bored) but act as if the ultimate sin has been committed when someone does it to them!

Good looking out Notso...i didn't even realize her age!

You definitely are both young (i know that doesn't mean it hurts any less) but you both need to have fun and enjoy life a little before making any rash longterm decisions. Men at this age can be very immature (especially if they are cancer) and you seem to be very mature, this could intimidate/scare him slightly. As Notso said...relax!

I never really expected marriage and children, nor do I want them at the moment...in fact, I never really let myself believe it. I guess the shock was that he brought it up, and then he did a complete 180.

Thanks for the advice, though. I haven't tried to push him into anything...he just keeps giving me mixed signals which drives me crazy. But I have been moving on, dating a few guys. So hopefully it all works out.

"...he just keeps giving me mixed signals which drives me crazy"

Welcome to the world of Cancer! 🙂

he just keeps giving me mixed signals which drives me crazy.

So, you just give him mixed signals and drive him even crazier!

So, you just give him mixed signals and drive him even crazier!

Hahaha, I have been! But then he acts like I'm the "bad guy", when I'm just reacting to his behavior...that crazy boy...