The one, the only, the Cancer man!

Hey guys, I'm new here, but I read most of the topics (on cancer men at least). I met this cancer man last July through work.I haven't been able to stop thinking about him ever since. During the first meeting he was flirty, he stared at me for so long I felt really awkward. After that my colleagues told me he asked them if I had a boyfriend. I didn't. Time passed, but he didn't call, and then he stared calling me quite often about work. I took him out of town with my car to show him some projects we had done. At times he was very shy, then he would start hugging me, touching my hair and stuff like that. We saw each other (work related) almost every day for a month after that but he never asked me out. Then he stopped calling, and although I begun to really like him I didn't call him neither. I found out accidently he had a girlfriend who lived abroad and they broke up before NYE. Then in January he called and blamed me for not calling him. We went out, but he seemed depressed. He was out of work because of the crisis and all. Then he kept calling once a week. We want out one more time, he invited himself to my house. We watched a movie, shared a blanket, hugging and touching. That was all. Then he became weird again, I called him he said he had work and will not be available next few days. Fair enough, I stayed put. He called my this morning to see how I was doing and to have a coffee with me in the office. I had my own stuff to do and had to decline the proposition.

And one more thing. When we see each other he always talks as if we are a couple and we make plans for the future. Like, when are we going to go to London, let's work more and I'll make you the nicest bathroom ever ( he is an interior designer), you should come to Rome with me and stuff like that. I confronted him and asked him to come to London with me next month. His answer was: not the right moment, I'm broke, which I suspect was true. But why is he acting so weird? Do you thing he has any serious intentions about me or are cancer man like that? Should I give up on him, or keep trying?

But why is he acting so weird? Do you thing he has any serious intentions about me or are cancer man like that? Should I give up on him, or keep trying?

Let him TRY for YOU! If you get in the habit or DOING this and trying to make things HAPPEN out of HABIT, it will be a HABIT that YOU will ALWAYS be the one doing ALL the work. Inspire him to want you more than you want HIM. Cancer men call I don't know who made that up that they don't call you. Just give him the chance with time and LET him come to you. I didn't say sit AROUND waiting for him, I am sure you have a wonderful happy life and things to do besides wait on a man. You are a DIVA and act like you are.

Hey Krobe, thanx for your answer. He calls me only in the morning when obviously people can't have a proper date. i should wait for him to make a proper effort then.

He calls me only in the morning when obviously people can't have a proper date. i should wait for him to make a proper effort then.

That is a Cancer man for you and he will call ALOT of times during the day when he is VERY aware that you are not home or unavailable. If you are unavailable don't answer, if you are available pick up the phone and ask him "what's up?'

But why is he acting so weird? Do you thing he has any serious intentions about me or are cancer man like that? Should I give up on him, or keep trying?

I sense his intentions are serious but he's rebounding and slightly testing the waters to see what's out there for him...he was flirting with you while still in a relationship seems he may have been hesitant because of what's going on in his personal life, although it's been made known that he broke up with her around NYE, now that he's supposedly single (I say supposedly b/c it hasn't been confirmed if he's still single or back with his ex) he may want to pick up again, I would just pace myself with him, I know it's frustrating but it seems he's figuring things out for himself. I wouldn't give up but I wouldn't keep trying, just be yourself, be comfortable with your decisions, if your available then your available but if your busy then well your busy and If he's truly interested in you he will make an effort, as LK said ignore all that future talk, don't make any assumptions, lean back and watch him, watch how he pursue you because that will tell you a lot about how he feels about you, what he wants with you.

Thanx guys, your answers are quite enlightening, I dig too deep into what he did and said, while I should play it cool! But his hesitance has lasted for so long, I'm afraid that the feelings between us would fade away. I don't want this to happen.

well he may have not have completely severed emotional ties with his ex so although they may not be together he may still be holding on in hopes of some kind of reconciliation or maybe they have reconciled but just know that if he's sincere about you none of it will fade but you can't force him to be any closer by taking extra interest in him, he will resist your efforts.

Hey guys,

How do you invite a cancer man on a casual day out with other people. I have visitors from abroad, and I have to entertain them on Saturday. It's work related. One of them is a very nice girl, I have worked with her before and the other is an architect. I taught that since the cancer man I'm into, we are kind of friends also, is an architect and interior designer I should invite him to join us. Do you think I should invite him to join us?