The Switch - Is it possible?

Hello everyone.
I could really use your advice about a tricky situation involving a Cancer Girl (I am a Lion). I didn't want to bother you by writing a huge story but I'm afraid I have to for receiving the best possible advice everyone who takes a part of their day to read my post and write their thoughts.
So, the facts:
- I own an advertising Company; I try to be polite, chivalrous and very friendly to everyone but I have a policy of never involving myself or make a pass to any girl who works for us; I had never dated any girl that I met on the job prior to the events that follow.
- Last Xmas some new girls started working for us; this happens frequently and we are talking of sporadic jobs in particular campaigns or events (once or twice a month maybe), not full time everyday work; one of these Girls is the Cancer girl with whom I need your advice.
- Along with the Cancer Girl more girls started working for us including her sister (which is not really the problem so don't get too caught on this fact).
- I immediately found the Cancer girl amazingly beautiful and it actually appeared to be some chemistry but that could be all in my head at that point so I didn't act on it; the fact is we worked together (with more people including her sister) for a week straight; at the end of the week she left and I thought I wouldn't see her again for a long time since she had to pass a job opportunity we offered on new year??s eve because she already had plans with friends and I knew that in January and February nothing would come up for her.
- On New Year??s eve one of the girls who started working with us that month (and who also met the cancer Girl and got along with her during the previous week becoming Facebook friends and all that??_) was with me that night at a party where we were both working; as the night went along she started to flirt with me to the point that it would be almost rude to avoid her insinuations. I don't have a girlfriend and she was (is) a beautiful girl as well so at the end of the night I invited her to go out someday when she got back to town (she is finishing medical school at other Town and had to get back there in 2 days).
- We kept in touch via texting and when she got back we went out on a casual date; I saw what some would call —red flags?? (I am single for a long time now and I am so used to that that, fortunately or unfortunately, I tend to notice and give importance to things that other??s don't; at leas

at least at this stage) and I just kissed her on the cheeck ant the end of the date; she said we should go out again soon when she got back again, I said OK and also mentioned a work opportunity coming soon where she could participate; she said she would do it.
- Meanwhile we were in February and the Cancer Girl, who I hadn't heard of since Xmas called a couple of times to the office (I wasn't in) saying she had some items from the last job that she forgot to deliver but she was without a car at that point so it would be great if someone from the company or me could drop by and pick them up; times were really busy at the time and it would be difficult for me to do that (and I did not took it as a hint) but I did ask someone to book her for that same job I had told the other girl??_
- So, we are already in early March, that job comes along, that Cancer Girl and the girl I went out on a date meet again while working and bond a little more, not to the point of becoming great friends but to the point of mentioning that they should go out together maybe someday.
- The Cancer Girl did not brought the paperwork with her that day; she called a couple of days later to the office (I was out again) and told the same thing as last time.
- 2 weeks later I went out again with that other girl but this time the night ended in disaster the way I see it because those Red Flags became reality when, after taking her to the Theatre and a late dinner we went to a Disco she was looking forward to see for the first time and there was a big line at the door; I said we should go somewhere else because the line was huge; she responded —you can interpret this as you like but I am not used to waiting at any disco door??; I said —OK, but I don't know anyone here that can get us in so our only options are to wait or go somewhere else??; she bluntly said —No, I'm irritated, take me home!??, and I took her home without she saying a word.
- The day after I went to talk with her; she knew she had done something wrong but it was clear she was used to behave in a certain way with men and getting away with it. I was very polite saying basically that I liked her but I thought we gave extremely different importance to some things in live, that for me not entering a Disco isn't reason enough to get irritated to the point of wanting to go home without saying a word on the first real date and that for me the night would have ended great just sitting on a street bench with h

on a street bench with her listening to music. I also said we should be honest with each other and realize, before more complicated feelings were involved, that maybe we weren't compatible. When I was taking her home I noticed she didn't realize what I was actually doing (I couldn't really break up and said I didn't want to see her ever again because we were never in a relationship and we did not even kissed so we could be friends as far as I can tell); she started saying that I was right and that the fact that she was studying so far would also make things difficult (I just nodded) , she said she was thinking to change school to be closer to her parents and all but that she didn't know if the request would be successful. When we got to her house she hugged me and told me she wanted me to call her but that she would understand If I waited a while; I said nothing, kissed her cheek and walked away; this was early April.
- I never called her again to this day and she didn't contact me either.
- So, back to the Cancer Girl, 1 week after this I saw her again while working (she didn't brought the papers again), she was very talkative and we got along great that day talking about many stuff; during the conversation she mentioned that other girl saying that she had been in town but they couldn't get together because she (the Cancer girl) had been busy. By the way she talked I could see they still hadn't met again or talked about me.
- A week later I saw the Cancer Girl again while working, we spent the whole day together and she asked me if I could give her a ride home which I did; when we arrived she kissed me on the cheek and rubbed my arm very gently, almost romantically. We were already scheduled to meet again in 5 days at another job.
- I met her again after these 5 days of no contact and I could immediately sense that something was off; she was being polite and friendly but didn't looked at me; I invited her for breakfast and she refused with something that seemed an obvious excuse made up at a hurry.
- My immediate though at such an abrupt chance of behavior towards me was that maybe that other Girl I went out with talked with her and/or her sister.
- I don't have a Facebook account but I asked someone who has to check the profiles of both the Cancer girl and the girl I went out with and not only did I found out that they had talked a lot exactly before the change of behavior but they were meeting for a night out the following w

the following weekend??_
- I tried to use that opportunity she had been giving me for so long to go and get those papers she continuously forgot to bring; I called but she said she was so busy that week that maybe it would be best if her sister delivered them to me??_ Then I talked about a job that had come along the following weekend (the weekend I knew she was meeting the other girl), she said she would love to go but that she would be out of town visiting a newly borne cousin??_
- Facebook proved that they actually met and that the Cancer girl hadn't told me the truth; the following weekend I called her regarding another job and asked how her cousin was doing; she smiled and said he was great and I didn't ask anything more. This was already early May.
- 3 Weeks ago on a job; she was still friendly and polite but distant but we spent so much time together that in the evening she was almost behaving like she used to before. At a certain point she mentioned the other girl I went out with asking if I had some photos she took of some work we all did together; I said I didn't had them and that I hadn't talked with her for a while now; she rushed to the bathroom not giving me (or her) time to say anything else. At night I took her home and on the way there I indirectly asked if she had a boyfriend (it was very natural and casual considering the conversation we were having at that point) she said —no??. I said that she could only be single for quite a while because of the same reason I was multiplied by thousands: because for some reason she wanted to until then and mainly because probably unless she was in what she believed to be a great relationship she preferred to be alone; she smiled, nodded and we talked a little more about other unrelated things.
- During that whole day until the evening I was wearing sun glasses and I could see her staring at me many times during the day; she, off course only did that because she couldn't tell I was staring right back to her most of the time.
- Next weekend we have a new job where we are supposed to spend the night out; The Cancer Girl and her sister were booked for this job but she said she could not go; in fact she told her sister to tell me she couldn't go giving what I know to be an obvious excuse so next weekend only her sister is coming.

And this is the point we are at. I really like the Cancer Girl but and we are great together but I do believe that the other girl I went out with told her??_ something! I don't know exactly what she told, how much she added or subtracted to the story but I do understand that even the exact truth could have this impact on the Cancer Girl if she was interested in me and I cannot hold that against her because even I would probably do something similar. Like I said before that other girl is not her best friend or anything like that but they do know each other and went out together. Somehow I ended up creating this whole situation myself and I ended upon a situation where I want to do —the Switch?? (like in that famous Seinfeld episode) but I can't seem to find the way to do it even though, unlike the Seinfeld episode, I didn't had a relationship with any of the girls (just went out a couple of times without even kissing) and they aren't even too close to each other. Can anyone of you who had patience enough to read all this please help me with your thoughts? Is there anything I can do according to you to mend any of this? Is it normal that she avoids telling me she talked and met the other girl? Is she backing away because, consequence of anything she was told, she lost any interest she could have had in me or because she is waiting to see what happens meanwhile? Thanks in advance for any insight you may have.

PS: sorry for any mistakes and the several posts but I'm having a hard time connecting to DXP - de hided post was a double post)

Hi xxxsyzygyxxx, aurora and MoonBunny, thank you for your thoughts.
I do not feel as if anyone is trying to get even with me (after all I don't think there's any reason to, at least not yet??_) but I do know that the other Girl I went out with knows very well that the Cancer Girl is beautiful and single so telling her something would at the very least delay any hypothetical chance I could have with her. I feel like the Cancer girl is doubtful of me right now and wants to create space between us and don't let me come too close, that's what I fell. I agree that no matter what she heard it must be a turn off if she had any interest in me; I would love to tell her something about the other girl and say nothing happened but several things are preventing me from that; on one hand I don't feel it's right to talk about something semi-personal about other person even if that person already told everyone about that and second, and most importantly, I don't feel like we are close enough already to have that conversation out of the blue without being awkward. I am just somewhat afraid that any move I make right now may easily make the Cancer Girl think that I am a Player and turn her off definitely because she does not know me well enough and won't just believe anything I say to her, on the other hand If I don't do anything she may think I am not interested and that —she doesn't stand a chance?? (or that I am still waiting for that other girl to move in Town or something depending of what story she heard) like MoonBunny said when in fact she was always way ahead of anyone else. How can I approach her or what should my next steps be? I??ve read somewhere that when Crabs go inside their shells there is nothing you can do but wait until they come out on their own.

Yes, I do believe that's excellent advice aurora; I should probably also call her on her birthday, I'm just not sure if it is on the 7th or the 17th of July but I can always ask her sister tomorrow.