Unsure what to think

My crab told me the other night that he loves me too much. I don't know what he means by that and he refuses to tell me.

That would be all fine and dandy but then the other night we had a spat and he literally lay next to me ignoring me. I was crying because I was in physical pain. I have a problem I would rather not go into on here but it is a new issue for us and I thought if he loves me, he would at least put aside his anger for a few minutes to at least comfort me a little. He did nothing.

How can he love me "too much" yet treat me that way?

I have no idea how is your relationship/cancer but when my Pisces got in an car accident i was taking care of her like her MOM at hospital for more than 2 weeks...and there were two other girl in her room (hospital) who were asking her (when i am absent)how she makes a guy care about her like that...


I was not that much verbally confronting though...i was trying to avoid arguments, in fact we did not argue that much as she became humble in hospital 🙂) and we became like husband and wife during that phase...

oh and she would say at times "i am in this condition and you.blah blah..." Well, when one gets sick/pain others are not gonna feel the same way as you do, definitely.

ok. i think he would be more accommodating to your needs if you communicated to him verbally what you're going through. cancers are usually excellent at sympathizing. if you explain to him that your physical pain might cause you to be more irritable or moody, which can inevitably lead to arguments, then he would be more understanding and mentally/emotionally prepared for your behavior. you should also verbalize your needs (i.e. your pain doesn't make you feel well so you'd like him to comfort you more). positive reinforcement works wonders here. if he's not a total douche, considers your position and acts accordingly, then you should try to remember to praise him for being good to you. whenever you get better then make it a point to definitely return the favor when he's not doing so well or just to show how much you appreciate his efforts.

my cancer responds exceptionally well when i just tell him straight up everything that is going on in my head/heart. while they are intuitive they are still human and not all psychic.

Depends, what did you say? If you said something like "I Hate you and you just dont understand!" i would of given you the cold shoulder, and probably ignored you unless you were dying!

I said "I would appreciate when I ask you not to tell people something, that you didn't tell them." I asked him to keep this issue between us and someone I barely know came up to me and asked me about it. When I asked him why he said something to them, he admitted to telling everyone.

Posted by ConfusionBeyondSanity
I said "I would appreciate when I ask you not to tell people something, that you didn't tell them." I asked him to keep this issue between us and someone I barely know came up to me and asked me about it. When I asked him why he said something to them, he admitted to telling everyone.

Dunno... dump him if you do not like him...

Maybe wineaux. Thank you all for your insight.

Posted by wineaux

Posted by ConfusionBeyondSanity
I said "I would appreciate when I ask you not to tell people something, that you didn't tell them." I asked him to keep this issue between us and someone I barely know came up to me and asked me about it. When I asked him why he said something to them, he admitted to telling everyone.

maybe he's incredibly unsure of how to handle your situation and is seeking advice from others? not an excuse, but a possibility? i have that problem myself...doesn't mean i don't care, it just means i'm scared and am looking for guidance.

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that's what i do a lot too...look for guidance

A Cancer that blabs secrets— i am in shell shock