Well its finally done!

I have not been here due to more problems with my computer, but I am up again.

I am now free of the cancer I loved so much, as he was quite the deciever. First of all he drove my damn new car when it was still on a non operational registration status behind my back, then lied about it.

He took the license plates off of my old car and put them on the new one so he could drive it. What a stupid move that was, and finally his mom told me he has indeed been seeing someone else for over three months.

I took the car keys from him and kicked his sorry butt out of my house! I still have to get his personal stuff out of here but I am working in that one.

Man what a jerk, I still cant believe that he could be so cold. She is not divorced yet and knows about me. He was planning to stay and use me until they could be together after the divorce. He got me a valentines day gift and said he cares for me very much (the "L" word was not used though). What a creep let me tell you, his mom told me some other stuff about him that was quite a suprise also.

Like he steals money from her all the time, is a habitual liar and a story fabricator. Like when he said he could not have any kids because of an accident from child hood. Well that is not true he has a small son that he doesnt want anything to do with, and the list goes on.

I am lucky to be rid of him it seems. Knowing he is such a creep does help with the broken heart stuff though. Well so I guess I am single again, ah such is life. He just was not right for me (or anyone I guess). I am kind of in shock still over all of it I think though. I havent even cried about it and its been three days since I had him leave. I am sure it will all catch up with me soon enough, then the tears will come.

I just dont want to talk about it anymore right now as I feel so angry from his betrayal.

TW2

Making the right move is hard. Kick up your heels and celebrate. The crying came later for me, too. But I didn't cry much because my ex wasn't worth the tears.

One day you'll hear he's done this other woman wrong, too.

Belinda

Dear TW2!
All I have to say is GOOD RIDDANCE! There is lot of happiness in store for you honey.

Hi TW2,
I know exactly how you feel. Been there, done that, but. . there is a better tomorrow, someone will help you forget the pain, the excitement of a special someone is just around the corner. . when you least expect it, . . they may just be your best friend when all is said and done. In the meantime, you have every right to feel betrayed, and know it is OK to hate what he has done to you. . you probably know by now that "what comes around goes around" meaning, he will get his someday. If you were my neighbor, I would make you a cheesecake or brownies or bring you some Chinese food to forget yer troubles for a little while, . . .in the mean time, there are those who care about you right here. .we have all been there.

Ladydane, looneybird and Drago,

Thanks so very much for the kind words of encouragement. I know you are right when you say that there is someone better just around the corner. I will be alright and I know this. I am a little lonely but will adjust to that as he was not around that much in the end anyway.

He was planning to use me for the next six months until his new love can get her divorce so they can be together. Isnt that a hateful thng to do to someone. I found out some other things about him that make me go glad he is gone. Like he takes money from his own mother, and he has a small son that he wants nothing to do with. He told me he could not have any children, man what a liar.

He got money from his mom to help me pay our bills and never gave me the money. His mom was the one that finally told me that he is seeing someone else, and the rest of the stuff. She said he just uses anyone he is with until they figure that out and kick him to the curb. He is a real piece of work let me tell you. The other woman knows about me and was being careful not to have me find out. Anyway I kind of feel sorry for her because she is separated from her husband because he was abusive to her. He cant go to her house or call and leave a message because the guy is stalking her. Sounds like a dangerous situation to me in my opinion. If he wants that situation let him have it. Its just that she doesnt need him coming along and messing her up more than she already is emotionally.

I dont know if I should try to warn her or not, what do you guys think. I am sure he has told her quite a few lies about me and that is why she thinks its ok to be with him now. I kind of feel like she is in a vulnerable situation and he has taken advantage of that fact. I cant just write her off as a bad person because of him. Let me know what you think ok.

TW2

Now.. now... mind your own business, and don't get too emotional?.
No mother in this world talks back against his son, and if you ask me they are both staging this.
What is important is that you got rid of him (unless deep inside you don't wanted).

Leave the son and his mom alone and get back to your own life woman?grief won't solve anything and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone, you think he was worthless and jerk, then he is and say good riddance there is no point if you insisting on this subject.

There is a lot of fish in the sea.

Thanks Qbone you are right! She was not telling tales though as I have spoken with his ex-boss and I guess he got fired for stealing alot of money over a period of time. And I have thought about things and have decided to mind my own business as far as his new love interest in concerned.

I am glad to be rid of him thats for sure, but I do know enough to understand that I need to allow myself to be angry and grieve for my loss (or what I thought I had lost). Or this will come back to haunt me at another time in my future where it doen not belong. I dont mean to wallow in it, but it has only been three days for goodness sake. I will allow myself a little time to work through this and put it behind me so I can give it a proper resting place.

I have learned from the past that if we dont work through things like this we carry it with us as excess baggage into our next situation. Its true it will surface in very subtle ways that we are not even aware of in our ability to trust or love fully again.

I will not give him that kind of power over me, no I will move on and something much better will enter my life. I want to be ready for that when it comes, as I do deserve to be happy and to be treated like the lady I am.

Oh and thanks my friend looneybird for cheering me on like that as I have been talking with you about this situation for a little while. I have done the right thing absolutely, it was not a hard decision for me to make. As I have always said I will not take second place to anyone. If I am not first and only I will leave the situation behind me. I expect to recieve the same as I am willing to give someone. If meant to be someone with similar moral values will enter my life someday, and then life will be so happy.

Dont worry I dont plan to wollow on my pitty pot for a time. I just needed to get it off my chest and out of my system. I am not one to stay feeling sorry for myself, life is to short.

TW2

Oh and so sorry for repeating myself in my two posts as I was pretty upset and very tired.

🙂

You are most welcome TW2! All the Best to you.