Well since when you can tell its over is popular

Because you arent free to be with me 100% . And too many lose ties to tie up. And to me, your commitment is with someone else, that is not me. And too easy for me to get tangled in and amongst, shit and drama. And if I am going to be with someone, personally I dont like to share. (outside of family and children, friends) and I expect the same ... ex lovers are on my 'um, no no' list 🙂

**loose ties

Posted by InTheCorner
@oceandeep

I can see that point of view. Though I am lucky there is no drama involved in this separation and is being handled very maturely, is there any way to move past that for a Cancer? Or will there never be any hope for a relationship or just wait till things are finalized? Though I have to say there is no fear of any "sharing" that would be going on. I'm a extremely loyal person, almost to a fault.

As a Cancer, if your relationship is over and that is very clear.. i wouldn't have a problem with a marriage still on paper. I mean it's a legal document... my heart and where it's at has nothing to do with how others see that. Especially the government, haha!

In fact, I'd be super impressed and have respect for someone who is handling the end of a relationship in a graceful way. Considering all people involved, especially children.

In my opinion, this guy should not be in a relationship right now.

The fact that you're still legally married means nothing, so don't be concerned about that. It's HIS issues that are going to cause problems. The way he handled his last relationship clearly shows that he doesn't know what he wants, which means he will put more expectations and pressure on the relationship than is healthy, and that isn't fair to you. He needs to spend some time alone to figure himself out. You can try to help him, which he may need from someone, but he has to make the decision to change himself.

Since things have already progressed to sex, it may be difficult to reel back and be friends. Where you take it is up to you. Don't pull away just to get him to dive in: that's emotional manipulation, plain and simple, and it's neither fair nor healthy for him. If you choose not to pursue the relationship, be sure to explain why clearly and honestly and don't leave any room for doubt.

Again this is merely my opinion.

Posted by ZenBear
In my opinion, this guy should not be in a relationship right now.

The fact that you're still legally married means nothing, so don't be concerned about that. It's HIS issues that are going to cause problems. The way he handled his last relationship clearly shows that he doesn't know what he wants, which means he will put more expectations and pressure on the relationship than is healthy, and that isn't fair to you. He needs to spend some time alone to figure himself out. You can try to help him, which he may need from someone, but he has to make the decision to change himself.

Since things have already progressed to sex, it may be difficult to reel back and be friends. Where you take it is up to you. Don't pull away just to get him to dive in: that's emotional manipulation, plain and simple, and it's neither fair nor healthy for him. If you choose not to pursue the relationship, be sure to explain why clearly and honestly and don't leave any room for doubt.

Again this is merely my opinion.

I agree, and thank you.