What is it about cancers?

I know they're not right for me (Cancer men), being that I'm an aquarius female and I can be pretty aloof and just fling myself around from relationship to relationship sometimes, but I keep getting attracted to them. My co worker is this cancer guy that I can't stop thinking of, that I can't stop flirting with, and everytime he turns around, I just feel like grabbing his butt! 😄 I totally have the hots for him. I really really need some help please!
But I can't help but feel that he may be leading me on (just like I'm leading him on.) Unlike my old cancer guy, who was clingy and trustworthy to me (which I unfortunately took advantage of and despised so much) this one just flirts and smiles at me, but I never really know what he's thinking, like is he really into me? So I just flirt and smile back. And I know that he's got other girls on the side. I know it! He flirts a lot!
But what should I do? How do I get close to a Cancer's heart without letting it backfire on me? How can I get him to trust me, (which is something I was unable to let my other cancer guy do in my old realationship.)

Help please.

Crimson

What exactly do you want out of it?Just guessing at this point but sounds like you want to boink him.He's wierd for a cancer I will say that.If it's okay with you he sounds like a slutboy and wouldn't have a problem with just sex.Just because he's a cancer doesn't mean that he would have a problem with just that and nothing else.

Slutboy? o.O But it is okay with me. 🙂 I don't know what I really want out of it. I guess I'm really trying to understand him, trying to get inside this Cancer's mind. But I hear Cancer's are hard to just trust anyone. I don't want just sex, (I guess, though it wouldn't be so bad 🙂 ), but the point is, I just don't understand what is it that he wants, and what does he want from me. I should just be real and upfront with him, but I don't know how to do that either.

I don't don't how to help you there never been that involved with one.But the trust thing i've never had a problem with the ones I do know,I don't do anything but be myself and it just happens,next thing I know im talking with them on very personal problems.The only thing I will say is that I have noticed they do catch on to inconsistent behaviors and lies from some people very quickly,if they do they give a one eye brow look and that person is avoided.So giving him the real deal on yourself is the only thing that may work maybe,I don't really know what to tell you.

Thanks so much! I'll keep that in mind.

Crimson Tide

Hi Crimson Tide!

Your cancer man I bet is more sensitive than an average cancerian. Yeah i have seen this type who flirts with a lot of females with total ease. And also that they turn out ot be the most sensitive types. So that flirtatiousness is his defense mechanism.

But there is a very endearing quality in that. He must be a damn good communicator & a helpful person.The un-endearing side could be that he seeks approval from one & all. This is soemthing you will have to watch out for if you want to develop a long term relationship with him.

Your best bet will be to "know what you want & make it clear to him". Your posts clearly suggests that you are very drawn to him sexually. But due to your past cancer experience you know their strengths and hence your desire to have more than a physical relationship. Good idea. And I wish you the best.

You want to get close to his heart wihtout it getting backfired on you? well we all have this tendency to figure out things & minimising risks. But what is the subconscious motive behind it? To avoid hurt by controlling? Or to see the possibilities of creating a beautiful relationship? You will have to honestly explore that in yourself. Because with a cancer if the intention is to "control" the other..it will defintiely backfire on you.

Take care & let us know what's happening.

Okay I just got off from work early. I work the night shift. My cancer who is also my shift manager just sent me home 'cause production was slow. But anyway when I was at work today, two co-workers of mine (which happen to also be his two cousins) kept bringing up things that only me and him (my cancer) talk about. And so I asked one of them who also happens to be a good friend of a mind, a virgo, what does Mr. Cancer say about me, since it is obvious that he must talk about me a lot. He could do nothing but smile and when I kept begging he told me he'd tell me later. Well later on, I went back and asked him. This time he said it was nothing. But I know it's something. 🙂

I'll talk to you guys later!

Crimson