What makes a Cancer guy fall in love?

Hello to all! Since Cancer people tend to hide their truest and deepest feelings all the time, what are the definite signs that a Cancer guy is in love with someone or falling for someone? What makes a Cancer guy fall in love? What do Cancer guys do to show or express that they are interested in someone romatically?

Thanks!!!

-"Since Cancer people tend to hide their truest and deepest feelings all the time"

This means that every other signs goes around and tell everyone else about their deepest feelings..??

-"What are the definite signs that a Cancer guy is in love with someone or falling for someone?"

I guess they start moving their claws up and down and moving side ways.. Left to right and vice versa...sorry Crabs don't jump "physical limitation". That?s the definite sign of affection and love.

Uhh? oh? what the hell am I doing here?.?? I am not the Cancer?!

😉

Btw

Welcome to this board Jl Fiona.

Inspired by watching too many "national geographic programs"? or lese how would I know..??

Thanks guys! I am asking these questions because I'm about to make a "huge" decision in my life.....letting someone in. I am so afraid because I know that I'm falling for this Cancer guy and I want to make sure that I won't regret it. I am so afraid of getting hurt and if I actually let myself fall in love with him I want to make sure that it's worth it because when I fall in love with someone I never hold anything back......it's like all or nothing.....I'm there through thick and thin.....I just don't want to give it my all then I'll be disappointed at the end. I know you guys understand where I'm coming from, so any insights that would help me understand a Cancer guy would help me a lot.

Thank you again!

Jl Fiona.

It seems to me that you scared to death..!!

Which ever signs you pick up your lovers from, need courage/knowledge/passion/self confidence/self respect etc??

What is this mess if may I ask..??

"I am so afraid of getting hurt and if I actually let myself fall in love with him I want to make sure that it's worth it because when I fall in love with someone I never hold anything back".

Only "Love" is not enough to be with someone, that you can dare to call the (partner)!

And then you say?

"I just don't want to give it my all then I'll be disappointed at the end."

You think everyone knows for sure what will happen in relationship..??, sorry lady.. love is not for the "amateurs".!

You contradict yourself lady? first you say when you fall in love you never hold anything back, then you say you don?t want to give it all (hence you holding back thou)..!!

You sure you love this guy..?? Do you really "know" his guy by any chance..??

Hi Qbone! I know I care about this guy a lot and that's what's scaring me. Have you ever been in a situation where you have deep feelings for someone but are not sure whether they feel the same way for you. He never says anything directly but he gives hints and he does things that shows he cares. I've been hurt before and pretty bad too and it took me 6 yrs to move...that is why I'm being very careful. He was hurt pretty bad too and our previous situation were very similar. He told me he trusts me, but I feel like he's constantly putting me to the test. Why would he do that? What else do I need to do to show him that I'm sincere and that he can trust me?

Thank you!

Most of the times "talking" works wonder? woman! Talk about yourself and things that are interesting and important to know, things that showing your true personality and intentions?. Talk about things that makes sense "why you two" should like each other or eventually "jump" on each other!

Communicating is all about, only then you will know how to move next!

TALK DAMMIT, TALK?! YOU TALK, HE TALK—!! No talking..? No relation?..!!

However?!

LOVE talk..! Is BORING?!!!! Avoid it at all cost?!

And I always thought females are "CHATTER GUNS" by nature?!!




Dammit.. Qbone?you again..?? its Cancerina forun?! What the hell are you doing here..??... move? shoo.. begun..!!

Hello Jl fiona

Welcome to the boards. Me a cancer woman but have a cancer cousin and a couple of friends who have cancer husbands. If they are the typical standard that one can go by ..then... a typical cancer man is not afraid of commitment & falling deeply in love. If they may not show it readily, it is soemthing to do with any person who loves sincerely & deeply.The current system where there is so much instability in relationships demand that such individuals tread carefully and realistically.

The most important requirement to build a relationship is trust. If there is a past history of hurt involved the difficulty to trust again is a tricky issue. How soon to start trusting is an important dilemma. It is essential to open up to the other fully if you want the same. In this you cant wait for the other to make the first move . Maybe even he is waiting for you to open up first! And have patience. Once that cancer starts trusting and opens up there is no looking back.

Cancers aren't oral communicators by nature. I hate to tell both of you this, but subtle hints are about all you are going to get until he knows it is safe to "come out of the shell"

QBone!!! You contradict yourself....Shoo fly don't bother me! (lol)

"Talk about things that makes sense "why you two" should like each other or eventually "jump" on each other!
Communicating is all about, only then you will know how to move next!
"TALK DAMMIT, TALK?! YOU TALK, HE TALK—!! No talking..? No relation?..!!"
However?!
LOVE talk..! Is BORING?!!!! Avoid it at all cost?!"

HUH?

Hello guys! Thanks Vanessa126, Qbone, Looneybird and of course to Cancerlady. Your advices and support made me feel so much better about my situation although a part of me is still scared that his feelings may not be the same as mine.....but I won't give up on him. He told me to stick with him and that's what I'm going to do even though there are times that I'm hurting so much because I care for him so deeply.

Hello guys! Thanks Vanessa126, Qbone, Looneybird and of course to Cancerlady. Your advices and support made me feel so much better about my situation although a part of me is still scared that his feelings may not be the same as mine.....but I won't give up on him. He told me to stick with him and that's what I'm going to do even though there are times that I'm hurting so much because I care for him so deeply.

CancerLady...

Burp........! oopss!.. eham?.!!

To the people of the "Cancerlady type creatures" island..!!

Sorry about my ignorance.. Haven't noticed that the "Cancerians" got a "ORAL" problem.!! My deepest apology to the "YOUR" community?!! Sniff.. sniff?!

May I ask you what you use that mouth of yours for..?? Oral pleasure ONLY..??.. How do "YOU" communicating with the unknown person then?.. by belly dancing..?? or twisting your butt??

Oral communication is the only way to present your self to the other person (in natural way). It shows the level of self confidence and intelligent, wit and courage? let alone charm!. Oral communication system/technique also linked to the users "brain"?! If the brain is "empty" then of course?. No communication or at least "difficulties" as this charming lobster "canserlady" saying?!

Alright—..! lj Fiona?. I am suggesting that next time when your date is around get two laptops and act as a "nerd like crab", invite your date "by Email" in to a "chatroom", and "type" him what is it in your heart?! you can even ask "Cancerlady" send her everlasting "wisdom" to you by "Email" and you just "cut and paste" it to your lover.

Ain't technology's great..??

PS..!
Me contradict myself..??... hehe care to share how's that..?? Of course "love talk" is boring when you "can't" talk genius..!

JESUS?..!

ACTUALLY,

Body language is also a way to communicate as well as sign language. Are you saying that all people who are physically unable to talk are stupid? I think not... I meant that as saying that we aren't always the best at actually saying what is in our hearts. We are more show & prove.

As for your attitude, I was joking in saying that you were condradicting yourself. See the (lol)...Why do you people (in general) have to be so hostile all of the time?

Cancer

Hey Q!

Your mouth screws are losen again! I see how it swinging left and right randomly. But, on the other hand, some of your posts are really funny...

Yo Cancerlady

"Are you saying that all people who are physically unable to talk are stupid?"

Have I said that..?? Or you read and interpret as the way you like..?

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"Why do you people (in general) have to be so hostile all of the time?"

You see me as hostile..??

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"As for your attitude, I was joking in saying that you were condradicting yourself."

When you get so easily "upset" by "My humour" and start to be picky, then "sorry you" not me, next time you better "joke" with someone that you can handle the response!

Lol, lmao, and the rest of this "stupid internet sh!t" are not the intelligent way of showing the humour to someone you barely know kid!

Perhaps?.If you stop to be picky, you live a better life..!

LOL?.LMAO? no? ROFLMAO?..aww? Muwahahahah?!

Damn..!

Yo Cancerlady

"Are you saying that all people who are physically unable to talk are stupid?"

Have I said that..?? Or you read and interpret as the way you like..?

***

"Why do you people (in general) have to be so hostile all of the time?"

You see me as hostile..??

****

"As for your attitude, I was joking in saying that you were condradicting yourself."

When you get so easily "upset" by "My humour" and start to be picky, then "sorry you" not me, next time you better "joke" with someone that you can handle the response!

Lol, lmao, and the rest of this "stupid internet sh!t" are not the intelligent way of showing the humour to someone you barely know kid!

Perhaps?.If you stop to be picky, you live a better life..!

LOL?.LMAO? no? ROFLMAO?..aww? Muwahahahah?!

Damn..!

Really haffo..?? is that so obvious..??

Then I guess I have to ask for help from one of "gorgeous ladies I respect" fix this obvious problem.

Fine QBone

I quit and I won't say anything else to you because, Yes I do consider you hostile and I don't deal well with who want to pick apart EVERY word I write & start a tiff.

By the way "Shoo Fly don't bother me" is a children's song not an insult and I said it because you said "shoo, go away" or something like that on a previous post. I try not to attack people here...I am here for advice & a little fun...I'm going to a less hostile place now...maybe I'll see how some Gemini's are doing.

You win.

Cancerlady

Hey Q!

It seems like only solution for your problem is "muzzle". LOL! Take care man!

yeah... a hot kiss would act as muzzle..
🙂

Ohh.. cancerlady...

Haven't noticed that it was all about "lose and win"...wow.. You've surprised me again!

Well, somebody asked a good question....I can't figure out anything from this bull.

lol

Jl_Fiona

So what's the status on your Cancer guy? Is this the same one you work with that you talked about on another post?

How about you Vanessa126...what's the status on him?

Cancerlady

Hi CancerLady! Thanks for checking in! My Cancer guy and I still talk everyday...oh and yea....of crouse he's the same guy I talked about in the other post 🙂 He's away for a few days on business but we still talk (chat)...and it's always like that whenever he's away on business for a couple of days or so. Is that a good sign? What do you think? I'm a little worried because today he's at the site where his ex works 😢 but I shouldn't worry, right, because we talk even though he's over there. I noticed something though....for the first time that he's away...before he left he actually said to me...."see you on _______ (the day that he'll be back)"....I know to some people that probably didn't have any meaning but to me it's different because he hasn't done that before and he's been away several times and never said that once. It's a little thing but it means a lot to me 🙂

Cancerlady, I forgot to mentioned in my previous posts that the Cancer guy I'm falling for used to tell me all the time that he's so ready to settle down, have children and start that part of his life. He has mentioned that to me several times and he even said that he wants to be with someone and he wants it now. When he was saying these things our friendship was just at the beggining stage. That was the time when he didn't know yet that I like him and vice versa. Also, every now and then the topic about intimacy surfaces in our conversations....he's the one who always starts it and at one point he asked me when was the last time I was intimate with someone. Where exactly is he getting at with these comments & questions? What is he trying to imply exactly? Or he's just saying these things to me just because.

Thanks again!!!

Cancerlady, I forgot to mention in my previous posts that the Cancer guy I'm falling for used to tell me all the time that he's so ready to settle down, have children and start that part of his life. He has mentioned that to me several times and he even said that he wants to be with someone and he wants it now. When he was saying these things our friendship was just at the beggining stage. That was the time when he didn't know yet that I like him and vice versa. Also, every now and then the topic about intimacy surfaces in our conversations....he's the one who always starts it and at one point he asked me when was the last time I was intimate with someone. Where exactly is he getting at with these comments & questions? What is he trying to imply exactly? Or he's just saying these things to me just because.

Thanks again!!!

🙂 Hi Jl_Fiona, 🙂

Okay, this is what I am deciphering...It's a good sign that any man still calls you while on his business trip because it means you are on his mind on some level, right?

I generally wouldn't be jealous about the ex. (she held him on a string right?) We may forgive but forgetting a hurt as deep as one created by that type of rejection will not be as easy. He might still have residual feelings about her, but he probably doesn't look at her the same since she left him for the other guy (?). Two years is a long time to be hanging on just to be cut off & fall HARD to the ground! Trust me I KNOW PERSONALLY!

As far as him wanting intimacy...Cancers are ALWAYS ready for intimacy, children, & a stable relationship! We're hard wired! 😉 (lol) Just kidding...Seriously though, he might be trying to tell you that's the stage in his life that he's at...then again, he might be still hurt from the other lady & is trying project his hopes for their relationship on you. Kinda like the whole "rebound" thing, but it's more like fast forward...You understand? Did he say all of this RIGHT after he found out the other girl didn't want him? Just think about the timing & the context of the conversation & the words he specifically said (if you can remember) and you should get your answer.

All in all, I think you two are going to be fine...When guys give you specific times & dates of when he is going to call or come see you, I think that's better than when they say, "Oh, I'll call you tomorrow" Don't ya think!

HANG IN THERE! I think it will pay off!

Cancerlady

Oh hi Vanessa126, I just noticed you had a post!

That's good that you are enjoying your relationship! I honestly respect you for telling him that him calling his ex bothered you, although after four years, you probably have NOTHING to worry about. I would have just sulked & pouted about it, Kudos to you! I think Aqua/Fem-Can/Male works better than the other way around, don't you? I knew another couple like you two they were together for two years until she found out he cheated on her. Then she dumped him like a bag of hot potatoes, never to return. She said "I never distrusted him until he gave me a reason to, but once the trust is gone, it's gone" and believe me he begged! Are you like that with your men? Just curious...

Cancerlady

Along with the Aqua I have been crying in my soup about..I have a cancer in my life. In fact...my whole life has been involved with cancers in some way shape or form..My Mother...ex-Husabnd...oldest Brother...Favorite Cousin... Long Term relationships..ALL CANCERS!!!

The one thing I know about them is that they are EMOTIONAL!!! Especially once thay trust you enough to show themselves. They hurt very easily and deeply. They will brood over something for a long time. Once they love you..they never get you out of their system. For instance, I had a cancer boyfriend in college. He DOGGED ME!!! I mean badly!! I finally dumped his butt and moved on with a taurus (Who he hated long before I came into the picture) He stalked me and gave me hell for a long time. Thats was 1992-95. We are now great friends and he STILL CALLS me and STILL wants us to get back together.

The Cancer I have now I let go back in July...He showed up in my email about a month ago..Poof..outta nowhere. He still doesn't understand why I left him..but it took him this long to confront me about it..The whole brooding thing...He let me know that he wants me back and still loves me in very subtle way. I know by his personality and the way his voice sounds when we talk. He wants nothing more than to scream it from the top of lungs. But he can't do it right now.

Many of them communicate with their actions and when you don't notice, it hurts them. But expect an out pouring when they feel safe and secure. They are alot like taurians that way.

I hope it helps!
KH

Cancerlady..!!

Help..??...what help..??.. You read the other people's ideas.... and?. You talk about your ideas and that?s it? again? what help..??

We all here to discuss about our thoughts and feelings

Are you mature enough to say the ultimate words..??
If not—
Then to hell with your suggestions?however?."if it is a thought"? then mark it as your own personal "thought"?not a "suggestion"..

This is the problem in this board? everyone talking about their "experience" and make a general rules of it.

YOUR EXPERIENCE..WHAT EVER CRAP IT IS "ITS YOURS".

LOL KocoaHauntis (By the way, where did you get your name from?)

Goodness gracious, I am like that too! There was this Cancer that I totally didn't appreciate until he found someone else, then I wanted him...I didn't really STALK him, but I definitely was more aggressive. What can I say? (lol) 😉...*Sigh* Sometimes I still think about my 6th grade love that it took me 7 YEARS to get over...He was a Cap. Pathetic huh? Je sais, Je sais... They say Cancer/Taurus is one of the best matches, except we can be boring together, and make everyone else want to puke!...I know a Taurus male who handles my mood swings with the UTMOST patience. He always makes me 🙂 when I am 😢

Vanessa, I answered this post on the "What Makes a good g/f cancer post"

Good Luck Ladies!
Cancerlady

O boy ! O boy! Lots of hot charming females around here. My heart's on fire.My dear sweethearts if you can shake your bums like the hot Mae West & ask the guy,"Is that a pencil in your pocket or are you gald to see me"? Then you have got him by the.... As simple as that.

Just a pencil BigDad?? Geegze...no thanks!!! LOL

CancerLady KocoaHauntis is a nick name I got from an ex-boyfriend, hes a taurus. He gave it to me b/c of my skin color and long hair.
Thanks for asking!!

Now to answer the question at hand..I believe from my lifelong cancer experiences...YES QBONE MY EXPERIENCES 🙂...with Cancer men is that they fall in love when they feel secure in a person. They are really REALLY big on trust and affection. It may be all in how you touch him and look at him. You must also be consistant in your behavior. Like I said before they are awesome brooders. You may do something to hurt him or do something different that he doesnt like and not find out for weeks!! But when he lets you know hes not happy..HE LETS YOU KNOW. Once they love they love HARD and cling with those pinchers!! Not clingy..but they hold on tightly!
So be ready!!

Now my daughter has told me the meaning of LOL, LMAO,ROFL(ROLF) . I was wondering if those words were spelling mistake. But I will use ROFL only when there is a real woman in my arms. And usage of LMAO?..that will be too crude to describe here.

(Just a pencil BigDad?? Geegze...no thanks!!! LOL)
- quote unquote Kocoahauntis.

LMAO.I was just responding to the title of the topic here not making a pass.Be it Pencil or Hose pipe that is a sign of his passion for her.With Cancer Men it begins from heart and ends up between the legs. That is all I was saying.

BY the way HOT KOCOA that "pencil in pocket" is not a guy talk. It was a statement made by sex siren Mae West ( a female)of the classical era of movie theatre. A tongue in a cheek way of teasing the male. That voluptuous one knew that a Pencil appearance is a little nudge from the hose pipe behind the baggy trousers(attire of that era).😉& recognised a REAL MAN. Men don't advertise to their disadvantage in this area.

Cancerbuddy My Man!

Your points on cancerian "trust issue" can be put forth in a better way. What is a cancerian hold on realistic understanding about human nature is made to look like under-confidence in one's self. I have an adorable cancerian daughter who is very realsitic enough to know that very honest people can be subjected to hurtful actions due to circumstances. Her issue is more to find out how the person can be trusted in given circumstances.That is cancer realism to me.

By the way gals and women ! You can have your cake and eat it too. BigDad has a grand offer. Buy one and get the other free! This way you can have one & eat the other.😉

Cancerbuddy, you hit the nail on the head...Well at least with me and MY EXPERIENCE with being a Cancer (OK I'm instigating & being an a-hole 😉 Kocoahauntis). I mean DEAD ON with every point! Then again, I have ALOT of Cancer in my chart!

Cancerlady

Aint is cool that the CANCER "buddy" get prised by a "lady"—

Yeah.. "you HIT a nail.?."?. hurra for you?..!!

But... err?.————— the problem still exist?!!

You guys ever learn..??...




Doubt it?!

I know Cancerbuddy...I mean what is his freakin problem? What a NAG! 😛 Geez! And he wonders why I call him hostile! And they say Cancers don't know how to let stuff go...

Is there nothing better to do than to harass others who haven't even said anything to you personally, who are talking about a subject that doesn't directly pertain to you? Unless HE too is in love with a Cancer male who doesn't want him and is taking frustrations out on this board & us...

Hi Big Daddy! I'm glad to hear the pencil thing is not literal 🙂

Cancerlady

Cancerlady.. how are you, sug?

Hi

BigDad thnx for presenting the 'trust issue' with cancerians in such a cute way. You sure are a dad who who makes his children feel like a million bucks even if they might be a little over the hill😉

Well guys there is sooooo much more to sex than a pencil/hosepipe.

Hi Qbone! My favorite Virgo! Nice seeing you again.

And congrats! you have completed more than 1000 posts. And I shud have mentioned it at Misc/Politics/Music/Metaphysics boards where your intelligence & thurst for knowledge truly shines. But i am here right now (as I am a cancerian). There is a lot more to you than just joking around ruthlessly....I do perfectly understand the virgo penchant for bringing out the 'truth' in limelight.....The Virgo wisdom..Truth Alone Conquers!!!🙂

Wow looneybird...

Thanks lady... wished I could send you a buckets of roses for your attention...! you are truly great?wished some of these cancerians act as crabs? ( they are a real cancer).. a disease..!!

Hehe

Cancerbuddy has spoken, and he talks about "real" to a Virgo, I should note that.

Perhaps sometimes later? I could refer to this? hm? perhaps he could help me to change my "black and white view" to a Technicolor, 32bit, panavision, super coloure, 3D world then..?

And about this Cancerlady?!

I have no comments for YOU? because you are?er?never mind?!

I HONESTLY wish I understood this so called "Virgo Logic." To me it is just an excuse to run around being a jerk under the guise of being "intelligent" and "truthful." There is a such thing as TACT even if you are telling the truth. Like I said in another post if the whole world operated under this "logic" it would be an extremely COLD, boring, and systematic place. There must be room for empathy, emotions & just plain old common courtesy...The old saying "You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar" is true ANY day of the week.

Furthermore, it amazes me HOW can someone who is SO "intelligent & wise" have the nerve to call other people immature while continuing to follow everything I say to SOMEONE ELSE, just so they can pick it apart, overanalyze it, and come back with some smart a $ $ , negative comment which has been endearingly called "ruthless joking."

What does that accomplish? What is the point? I tried to change the subject & not have any more exchange with the offending party because I DO find him rude, hostile, and somewhat bitter, but it refused to drop it and move on. If someone tells you to leave them alone and they will leave you alone...doesn't it seem a bit childish to keep dwelling on it and trying to start sh!t? SO ON THAT NOTE

Once again, I will say...

QBone, PLEASE do not direct anymore of your "wisdom" and "truth" towards me personally, and I will do the same. I will never write another post directed towards you, mentioning your name, or anything else. Just please keep my name out of yours because you are not someone I can deal with. THANK YOU so much for your cooperation.

Cancerlady

OH goodness Seize the Day,

Here I am calling other people rude and I didn't even say hi back...

HI! 🙂

Cancerlady

Cancerbuddy...

The harrasments..??

You kidding me..?? bah... you think that you are worth the trouble..?? Jesus?..!

But?if you think it this way, its pay back for all your sh!t stuff on Virgo board for almost a year? at least I am "man enough to point at you" not the cancerians..!..

You seem to be not man at all..!

Who cares anyway??..