what is the limit...?

to which you will tolerate your partner being in contact with his ex after more than a year of their breakup? This question is directed at everyone who has been in relationships and who keeps in touch with their exes and lets there partners do the same. Would you guys be okay if the ex wants to hang out with your partner like old times? She keeps in touch with his friends,family,grandmother even the maid. And the cat as well. And texts on daily basis. What is the limit to which you can tolerate the interference of the ex of your partner's life? Without being irrational and jealous.

the maid is a sufficient hint. 😉
Yas she wants in one that $ $ $ .
X her out before she starts to take everything back.

Posted by warmwaters
the maid is a sufficient hint. 😉
Yas she wants in one that $ $ $ .
X her out before she starts to take everything back.

How to X an ex out?
Specially if your partner wants to be frens with the ex. :/

Posted by RainDancer88
LOL at the maid and cat.

For me, I struggle tolerating my partners exes. I used to be more dogmatic. YOU HAVE NO EX. She was dead to him and remained dead if he wanted me.

I am not sure if I have evolved or not, I'd still want his ex to vanish from his mind, world and life. It probably shows I have a sensitivity to feeling inferior. Or am lacking confidence in my relationship.

Fact remains though.. I want her gone and I want to move into every spot she once inhabited.

Exactly my feeling.

I am sensitive towards terraces and bathtubs because they did it there. Also a few clubs in town and 6" inches heels too. Cause she can run in them. And I trip on a flat surface with bathroom slippers on. And the worst part is I was normal friends with my bf before dating him. So he has told me a lot of unnecessary stuff- sexual details about them. Stuff that I want to erase from my mind. This sucks.

Posted by RainDancer88
LOL at the maid and cat.

For me, I struggle tolerating my partners exes. I used to be more dogmatic. YOU HAVE NO EX. She was dead to him and remained dead if he wanted me.

I am not sure if I have evolved or not, I'd still want his ex to vanish from his mind, world and life. It probably shows I have a sensitivity to feeling inferior. Or am lacking confidence in my relationship.

Fact remains though.. I want her gone and I want to move into every spot she once inhabited.

Haha, this is the Venus talking, i have same. Seriously, the irrational part of me wishes that neither of us had ever been with anyone else ever before. lol

Is this ? For cancer people? Because my friend is still sort of like friends with her ex but she isn't attracted to him physically or romantically. He is obsessed with her but even after years of his multiple attempts to get at her she still only likes him as a friend and that's it. Me and her are friends (not exes) and she treats me well but she leaves her heart off limits. You have to just know this. But if it bothers you that much talk to her about it. If you want to ex him out yourself then be a bf and a realllllly good friend to her. She'll get what she gets from the ex from you and will cling even more.

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by StarChild63
Is this ? For cancer people? Because my friend is still sort of like friends with her ex but she isn't attracted to him physically or romantically. He is obsessed with her but even after years of his multiple attempts to get at her she still only likes him as a friend and that's it. Me and her are friends (not exes) and she treats me well but she leaves her heart off limits. You have to just know this. But if it bothers you that much talk to her about it. If you want to ex him out yourself then be a bf and a realllllly good friend to her. She'll get what she gets from the ex from you and will cling even more.

So basically it's okay to string an ex. If she was a mature adult and not an attention WH*RE she would cut it off permanently and give the other person a chance to move on.

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No. Basically ask questions before you judge. Her ex and her have a child together so that's why. And she has full custody but she still tries to keep things harmonious and some type of relationship between her kid and the father. The relationship they have is strictly friendship and I don't see anything wrong with her maintaining a friendship if she knows how to draw the line. Two exes can hang out without romantic feelings being involved. And that is a mature way to deal with breaking up and remaining civil. But if the guy is uncomfortable with that or the trust ain't there then he needs to make that clear with her and set boundaries for him.

Posted by CluelessCancer
wHAT'S YOUR BOYFRIEND'S ZODIAC SIGN?

AND YA YOU SOUND WEAK AS HELL.

lololol reading CC's comments while drinking white wine is full of lmao.

i'd never tolerate it. my husband would never tolerate it. It's just "unspoken" i dont even have to say shit. He doesn't have to tell me shit or what to do.

but if he has children from the ex, you can't do anything about it. just minimal contact.

those kind of situations are usually bad though. maybe there are stories out there that are good like that, but if you're not the super jealous/posessive type, you should be ok.

You kill his ex.
okay maybe not.

Well you scare her away!
he is your man OPPPPPP
Tell he to fuck off or you will make her life miserable.
She can't be perfect why else did that break up.
Make stuff up or find shit on her.
Destroy her because she is gonna mess up your shit.

Posted by CluelessCancer
wHAT'S YOUR BOYFRIEND'S ZODIAC SIGN?

AND YA YOU SOUND WEAK AS HELL.

He is a Cancer Sun, Aries moon,venus in Leo.

Posted by warmwaters
You kill his ex.
okay maybe not.

Well you scare her away!
he is your man OPPPPPP
Tell he to fuck off or you will make her life miserable.
She can't be perfect why else did that break up.
Make stuff up or find shit on her.
Destroy her because she is gonna mess up your shit.

Haha... You are kidding me right? I imagine these things in my head 😉 but I ll never implement them. Only if I were married to this guy or something. Then he is my private property. No trespassing. 😛

Posted by CluelessCancer
VIRGO MEN ROTATE BETWEEN EX GIRLFRIENDS, SO IF HE'S A MUTABLE SIGN, HE'S POSSIBLY SLEEPING WITH HER BEHIND YOUR BACK.

Eeks Virgo men... I dont really get along with them. His ex is a Virgo though. I am sure he is not sleeping with her because she is away in a different country and they have nt met in a year. Its her and her msgs and fb stalking that bothers me.

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Posted by RainDancer88
LOL at the maid and cat.

For me, I struggle tolerating my partners exes. I used to be more dogmatic. YOU HAVE NO EX. She was dead to him and remained dead if he wanted me.

I am not sure if I have evolved or not, I'd still want his ex to vanish from his mind, world and life. It probably shows I have a sensitivity to feeling inferior. Or am lacking confidence in my relationship.

Fact remains though.. I want her gone and I want to move into every spot she once inhabited.

Haha, this is the Venus talking, i have same. Seriously, the irrational part of me wishes that neither of us had ever been with anyone else ever before. lol

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Is this Venus or something else I dont know. I have Venus in Gemini. I am supposed to be all airy and chilled out about this stuff. Sigh!

Posted by StarChild63
Is this ? For cancer people? Because my friend is still sort of like friends with her ex but she isn't attracted to him physically or romantically. He is obsessed with her but even after years of his multiple attempts to get at her she still only likes him as a friend and that's it. Me and her are friends (not exes) and she treats me well but she leaves her heart off limits. You have to just know this. But if it bothers you that much talk to her about it. If you want to ex him out yourself then be a bf and a realllllly good friend to her. She'll get what she gets from the ex from you and will cling even more.

This question is for anyone who has been in relationships. His ex is obsessed with him too. She has a Venus in Scorpio. Even she made multiple attempts. When my guy broke up with her, she called up his parents and made a big scene. She went nuts crying and created a lot of drama.And then started the emotional blackmail. He told me he is a little scared of her.

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Posted by RainDancer88
LOL at the maid and cat.

For me, I struggle tolerating my partners exes. I used to be more dogmatic. YOU HAVE NO EX. She was dead to him and remained dead if he wanted me.

I am not sure if I have evolved or not, I'd still want his ex to vanish from his mind, world and life. It probably shows I have a sensitivity to feeling inferior. Or am lacking confidence in my relationship.

Fact remains though.. I want her gone and I want to move into every spot she once inhabited.

Exactly my feeling.

I am sensitive towards terraces and bathtubs because they did it there. Also a few clubs in town and 6" inches heels too. Cause she can run in them. And I trip on a flat surface with bathroom slippers on. And the worst part is I was normal friends with my bf before dating him. So he has told me a lot of unnecessary stuff- sexual details about them. Stuff that I want to erase from my mind. This sucks.

HA! That is me!

If he ever said a certain movie reminded him of an ex - I BAN THE MOVIE.
Their old song? THE SONG WILL NEVER PLAY
The restaurant he got serviced in the parking lot? WE WILL NEVER DRIVE BY THERE

lol.

There must be something more to feeling this way? Do you think it has to do with being insecure? Or wanting complete control> Or is it that we want to completely possess our mate? Ugh what is it?

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Oh shit.Thank God there are others like me as well. I don't know if its my insecurity or possessiveness. I try to keep it cool. I don't get jealous if he talks or looks at other girls. Its only the ex that makes me irrational and jealous. Maybe because I know that he loved her?

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Posted by StarChild63
Is this ? For cancer people? Because my friend is still sort of like friends with her ex but she isn't attracted to him physically or romantically. He is obsessed with her but even after years of his multiple attempts to get at her she still only likes him as a friend and that's it. Me and her are friends (not exes) and she treats me well but she leaves her heart off limits. You have to just know this. But if it bothers you that much talk to her about it. If you want to ex him out yourself then be a bf and a realllllly good friend to her. She'll get what she gets from the ex from you and will cling even more.

This question is for anyone who has been in relationships. His ex is obsessed with him too. She has a Venus in Scorpio. Even she made multiple attempts. When my guy broke up with her, she called up his parents and made a big scene. She went nuts crying and created a lot of drama.And then started the emotional blackmail. He told me he is a little scared of her.

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Oh. Well he needs to stay far away from her then. Maybe he still talks to her because she makes him feel guilty for leaving and he uses communication with her as a way to pacify her enough for her not to start doing stupid shit and starting drama. If this is the case then you need to ask him why exactly he deals with her and what he's going to to about it. Then give it a week deadline and if she's still contacting him then tell her to stop (and he has got to ignore any messages from her). She'll probably start some drama but don't feed into it after awhile she will quit.

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Posted by RainDancer88
LOL at the maid and cat.

For me, I struggle tolerating my partners exes. I used to be more dogmatic. YOU HAVE NO EX. She was dead to him and remained dead if he wanted me.

I am not sure if I have evolved or not, I'd still want his ex to vanish from his mind, world and life. It probably shows I have a sensitivity to feeling inferior. Or am lacking confidence in my relationship.

Fact remains though.. I want her gone and I want to move into every spot she once inhabited.

Haha, this is the Venus talking, i have same. Seriously, the irrational part of me wishes that neither of us had ever been with anyone else ever before. lol

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With my Virgo Venus, I also wish the same..*sigh*

If there's kids involved, then the ex staying in contact is normal and to be accepted. No reason they should be chumming it up if they don't have kids together, though. If they do have kids together and you can't be civil to her and their kids, you'll lose the war on this, and him, too.

My take on exes is that they're an ex for a reason. If they were so wonderful together then they wouldn't be broken up. If my partner does betray me then he's gone and I don't want him.

Posted by MoonArtist
If there's kids involved, then the ex staying in contact is normal and to be accepted. No reason they should be chumming it up if they don't have kids together, though. If they do have kids together and you can't be civil to her and their kids, you'll lose the war on this, and him, too.

My take on exes is that they're an ex for a reason. If they were so wonderful together then they wouldn't be broken up. If my partner does betray me then he's gone and I don't want him.

No there are no kids involved. She used to ask him to marry her and he denied thrice thats all. And she too involved with his parents and friends. This weekend she is here in his hometown and shes meeting his friends and parents and she kept asking him to meet her as well.He said he ll be busy. She keeps sending voice notes on whatsapp every 2-3 hours and he ignores them. Whenever I ask him about her he says he is over her. There is no reason to worry at all. But whats with all the contact with his family and friends. Thats what bothers me and is out of my control.For now.

Posted by Arielle83
Have you met her? What's she like with you?

No I have never met her. She lives in a different country.But is here for the weekend.

I am not sure if she knows I exist.

He doesn't sound interested in her at all. The ex seems to be dropping to new lows by trying to contact his family and friends to try to get him to see her. Chances are he has no respect for her and will never take her seriously in that way.