what NOT to do to a Cancer?

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mr.crabby
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Girls, if you don't like to do oral, or if you're terrible at it, please skip it. Seriously.

Well, you can't get away with lying, manipulating, scheming, you just won't get away with any of that, EVER, can't, don't try. Can't push your luck either, be as good as you can be, we provide the best and demand the best. Never be harsh, mean, we like a companion, a "good" person, no confrontations, no crap, only HARMONY.
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Listen to thier voice for inconsistancies and watch thier facial expressions,about half of em that I know gets quiet if thier uncomfortable about something and will try to walk away from that person unless it's a really bad mood that thier actuallly pretty blunt about.The snappy times sometimes may not be too serious though and thier usually just having a bad day and will get all lovey dovey in apologising later for being snappy.Otherwise just treat them like you would like to be treated,it's usually the "dark" crabs that look at everyone suspeciously and trys to play mindgames that gets on my nerves,I aien't really that stupid so I guess they don't like it when they don't get what they want from me too so I guess we're even on that one.lol.Too much fire in my charts I guess,tell me directly and you'll get a better reaction type thing.
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"How do you know if a crab has been hurt? or is mad? what to do?"

IMO they are easier to read than scorpio or pisces. When they don't like something they suddenly go very quiet...if you hurt them they can act pretty cold for a while...
These instances are different from their usual mood swings...if you spend some time with them you'll eventually learn to separate mood swings from brooding(b/c you said or did something).

"What not to do?"
Watch what you are saying even when you are mad,b/c those words might come back to haunt you one day...they never forget..NEVER! I wish I had a memory like that.
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when my cancer is upset with me he is very silent and does his own thing for awhile, I sometimes do not know what will upset him and at times it's things that i wouldn't even think of. He gets upset if I spend too much time talking to My X the father of my children, he says Im too nice, He's very cold to his X and I do have a hard time being mean even to people who have treated me badly. I can have a temper and it takes me awhile to show it but when I do it's bad. He was mad at me for doing a shot with my neighbor on my front porch on Saturday. I didn't see anything wrong with it but he was mad at me. Im probably going to have him upset with me this week, he wants me to move in with him in November I said I would but I know think it's just way too soon we will only be together for 6months in November and I think we should wait until a year, I just know he will be very upset when I tell him this. Any ideas on how to say it or make him understand me with out hurting him. I have 2 kids and they would have to change schools Id rather wait until after the school year but Im really confused on what to do.
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Hmmm...you have only been together for 6 months. You would have to uproot your children and move them to different schools. This is quite a bit of emotional stuff for children to handle on top of what has already occured in their lives. I am a single parent myself. My children come before any man does. That man gives you no guarentees (no one can - really). Right now, he is on the "rebound". He does NOT want to be alone - he is needing a distraction to keep his mind off of his current situation. He is also in angry mode. He has not resolved his past issues with his ex. Do you see how he treats her? This will be you. Whether you understand this or not - for him, you are a band-aid. I am sure he does care for you A LOT or he would not be with you. There are so many other factors involved here and the most important one is YOU. You say you do not want to move yet, you want to wait a year. Great, done deal- no negociating Ms. - trust your instincts. If he truly, and I mean TRULY loves you. He will understand and he will respect you for your choices and he will honor them. If he gets mad, he is controlling you by his anger. Face his anger, honor yourself and your children now. What is being presented to you is a lesson in standing up for YOU and believing in your choices and that they are right.

Your children are important to you and they should be important to him and the needs of those children need to come first. Men come and go, your children will travel into the future with you. Show them who you are and what you believe in. Teach them to respect and honor themselves by your actions.

So many women make the mistake of honoring a man before themselves because they are afraid that if they don't, the man will leave them. When this does happen, these type of relationships rarely work - it becomes about "control and power".

This is how a woman can tell a true man....women, always be you, trust yourself - if the man cannot understand this and he leaves...there is then, your answer. He wasn't really into you.

"Im really confused on what to do." You are confused because you do not have peace yet within. Do nothing till you have that answer that provides peace and all will be well. Make your decision for YOU not for him.

Wishing you peace...I know how difficult this situation is for you and for him - I hope for happiness for all.

Freebird



All I want to know is : Do all cancerians "jump to conclusions" without asking or knowing the situation ? do you never ask a direct question?
Melusine
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so my Cancerboy left for Toronto (1000's of miles away from me) for a month for work & he's coming back this saturday. I haven't seen him in 2 months when he left me, and I kissed another guy after I thot we were done out of rebound I guess. Anyways, he t
taurusgoddess
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Just wondering if there are any others? Am i the weirdest scariest thing ever? ;-)
mr.crabby
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I have noticed that ALOT of cancers go into music and acting,like myself i'm now getting into producing,arranging and writing lyrics. Are most cancers have the innate ability to have music in their blood. Does the emotional part have us drawn to music and
Daemon
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Oh by the way, CL, Cancerboy called me yesterday asking if I knew what I did wrong. I said "No",but I'd love to talk about it." He FREAKED out that I didn't know, so I started guessing that maybe I could've been there more for him or something & he just f
taurusgoddess
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yes folks it is I the nutty Daemon. They say us cancers attract easily the water signs ,due to the fact we come from u guessed it wattttteeer,lol. But i'm wondering cancers and water signs alike, is it fresh water or the sea dat gives us the power of attr
Daemon
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Hello.

I wanted to say you one thing:

SCREW YOU ALL!

But that one is unnecessary, because God already SCREWED YOU ALL!

Thank you.

PS: Hey Cancerlady whats up?
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Ok, I can't deal with this BS anymore!!! After my cancerboy being there & dissappearing & then acting like nothing was wrong, I have had enuf. I was trying to be patient as he was stressed about looking for a new job & his dad who left 10 years ago wants
taurusgoddess
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