what should i do when a cancer woman is making problems in her head?

what should i do when a cancer woman is making problems in her head? I'm a scorpio born on nov. 4, i'm just cool and relaxed because i can tell that the problem she is thinking of is all in her head.. but is that a good thing or a bad thing (that she is showing this to me)? and should i do something about it? or just let it flow? do you think that if i explain to her she will understand? or should i just not do anything about it and just let it flow? thanks in advance!

Posted by Shashka
What is the problem?

i was telling the truth about multiple things and i guess i hurt her feelings. (she is super sensitive with me and what i say) i know i hurt her because she becomes passive aggressive... intuitively (as a scorpio) i can imagine that she might think that what i did (telling the truth) was me being a jerk... but i tried to explain that actually i was just telling the truth... but i guess she's not buying it because she is still not in a happy mood with me... that and she believes that what i do to other people i can do to her... recently i became distant with former friends because they turned out to be not nice people (i just discovered recently) and i think she was affected by that as well..

The way people spoil and make life complex just because of what's in their head is really...unfortunate.

I'm sorry to say, no matter what you do, people will not leave that which is in their head.

I've seen it my entire life.

No matter how much you try, people see what they want to see.

Dont stress yourself is all I can say ✌

You're not telling us everything.

But yeah..try as much as you can..communicate as much as you can..

Posted by Shashka
It doesn't sound as if it's all in her head. It sounds like you were giving an opinion. That's different from the truth. It might be your honest opinion but it may not be the objective truth.

I don't know if the opinion is valid or not. You mention her hypersensitivity etc I don't know how much that plays into it. But it sounds like you might need to look at how you interact with her.

What is it you do to other people?

Who your friends are you choose.

My step father says something but does the complete opposite. So could be an actions speak louder than words thing.

(additional) i'm right most of the time (because i make sure that what i am saying is right) and i am younger than her... she believes that old age has wisdom... and that maybe i'm (being younger) not supposed to be smarter... so i guess i make her feel insecure about that too? but i never see it that way (whenever i share what i know with her) i'm also very independent and she has been attempting to making me do what she wants, but i know that i'm right, so i'm not following her and i'm currently thinking that it will work out in the end and she will eventually be okay again... am i thinking it right?

Posted by Shashka
It doesn't sound as if it's all in her head. It sounds like you were giving an opinion. That's different from the truth. It might be your honest opinion but it may not be the objective truth.

I don't know if the opinion is valid or not. You mention her hypersensitivity etc I don't know how much that plays into it. But it sounds like you might need to look at how you interact with her.

What is it you do to other people?

Who your friends are you choose.

i think it's because she was imagining it differently... i was telling her that what she is doing was not good... but she thinks that it's good and i think that she believes that what she is doing is good but in my piercing socrpio eyes it is not... she's a positive thinker... and i guess i seem to be bursting her bubble... but what she was actually doing is deceiving other people and i know that she just learned to do that from her husband and her friends. they are using positive messages on her to make her believe that it is okay to do that...

Right about what? 2 + 4 = 4? Or kittens don't have souls?


On my birthday I argued with the stepfather for hours about a news article. It was the bakery not making a cake for the gay couple. He kept pointing out they were sued because of that. I tried to show him an alternative news link about the bakery owner releasing the couples private information leading to harassment and almost losing their adopted children.


So who is right here? Maybe you need to chill on that needing to always be right nonsense and just enjoy someone wanting to hang out with you.

Posted by scorpio04

Posted by Shashka
It doesn't sound as if it's all in her head. It sounds like you were giving an opinion. That's different from the truth. It might be your honest opinion but it may not be the objective truth.

I don't know if the opinion is valid or not. You mention her hypersensitivity etc I don't know how much that plays into it. But it sounds like you might need to look at how you interact with her.

What is it you do to other people?

Who your friends are you choose.

i think it's because she was imagining it differently... i was telling her that what she is doing was not good... but she thinks that it's good and i think that she believes that what she is doing is good but in my piercing socrpio eyes it is not... she's a positive thinker... and i guess i seem to be bursting her bubble... but what she was actually doing is deceiving other people and i know that she just learned to do that from her husband and her friends. they are using positive messages on her to make her believe that it is okay to do that...

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Ah ok. What is she doing that's shady?

Posted by kissmygrits

Posted by scorpio04

Posted by Shashka
It doesn't sound as if it's all in her head. It sounds like you were giving an opinion. That's different from the truth. It might be your honest opinion but it may not be the objective truth.

I don't know if the opinion is valid or not. You mention her hypersensitivity etc I don't know how much that plays into it. But it sounds like you might need to look at how you interact with her.

What is it you do to other people?

Who your friends are you choose.

i think it's because she was imagining it differently... i was telling her that what she is doing was not good... but she thinks that it's good and i think that she believes that what she is doing is good but in my piercing socrpio eyes it is not... she's a positive thinker... and i guess i seem to be bursting her bubble... but what she was actually doing is deceiving other people and i know that she just learned to do that from her husband and her friends. they are using positive messages on her to make her believe that it is okay to do that...

Ah ok. What is she doing that's shady?

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in her business she's lying to people... i think that her husband taught her to lie...and taught her that it is okay to lie. i think he's a sociapath. i said something like "i'm not here (in this world) to deceive people. my conscience can't handle that.." but she believes in doing "whatever it takes" (i don't know what she got that from but maybe form her husband as well)

Yeah that isn't cool. She knows you're right but she plans to go down that path anyway. There isn't a problem in her head. She's annoyed with you being her conscience. 🙂


You've done all you can.

she has been "financial successful" because of it (following her husband) so she believes in him more than me i think... she wanted me to do the same thing, but i said that's (what she wanted me to do) deception and i didn't do it. i actually have never lied to her, but i'm getting all the heat from her... i'm thinking of explaining it to her when she has calmed down about it because i don't like this misunderstanding between us. but i just don't know when she will calm down...

Posted by scorpio04
she has been "financial successful" because of it (following her husband) so she believes in him more than me i think... she wanted me to do the same thing, but i said that's (what she wanted me to do) deception and i didn't do it. i actually have never lied to her, but i'm getting all the heat from her... i'm thinking of explaining it to her when she has calmed down about it because i don't like this misunderstanding between us. but i just don't know when she will calm down...

Well you've done all you can. I agree on letting her calm down. Say this thing is against your morales. If she was a real friend she will leave you alone about it. But getting her to change her mind on what she's doing won't happen anytime soon.

Posted by Shashka

Posted by scorpio04
she has been "financial successful" because of it (following her husband) so she believes in him more than me i think... she wanted me to do the same thing, but i said that's (what she wanted me to do) deception and i didn't do it. i actually have never lied to her, but i'm getting all the heat from her... i'm thinking of explaining it to her when she has calmed down about it because i don't like this misunderstanding between us. but i just don't know when she will calm down...

So who is right here? Maybe you need to chill on that needing to always be right nonsense and just enjoy someone wanting to hang out with you.

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to me it's not about being right. it's about taking care of her... i care for her and i don't want her to go down that path... i also expected that she will be like this if i tell her the truth, but i decided that i'll accept her anger at me even still... i'm just asking you guys so that i know if what i am doing is right... like when you are right and a cancer woman is angry, should i just wait it out until she snaps out of it? or will she snap out of it on her own? or should i do something to help her snap out of it? we had something similar before and she got angry and snapped at me, but i know that i was right back then, so what happened was she became okay as if nothing ever happened. i'm asking to know if that's normal for cancers to do...