what the butter?

i'm a cancer..my ex hubby (14 yrs married, one daughter) is also...
i divorced him over a year ago...he is getting married in a few days (poor girl..lol).
he is a great father, he is a great person (for someone else, not me)... i want him to be happy..because i REALLY am, now. but, he still actively trys to get in my pants...
this is good for my ego, cause he cheated on me several times when we were married (i actually do not think he ever stopped dating)... for the longest time i thought it was because i did something wrong..now i realize it was him..not me...that is what is good for my ego, not the fact that he wants me.
i want him to quit it now...try and have an adult, we have a child together, im not interested, quit trying to get into my pants relationship with him. he knows my boyfriend, obviously...who is much bigger then him and would kill him if he knew. i try to avoid him except when he drops off or picks up my daughter...most of the time my b/f is there...thank god.
i really do not hink he will ever change his cheating ways..his wife to be seems sweet and is nice...i do not really know her that well and don't care to..poor hing..she doesn't know what she is in for...which kinda does my heart good in a way..cause he is her problem now..lol

This makes me think of Robbie William's Love Supreme

"Oh what are you really looking for?
Another partner in your life to abuse and to adore"

Sounds like you're well away from him menbay. What star sign is his wife to be do you know?

Is that a question or a statement archer? hehe only joking.

My eyes are heavy cos I put too much cream on my face today. It's weird, it's like the weight of the cream makes my eye-lids heavy so I feel kinda sleepy. Weird......

menbay - my Cancer ex is the EXACT SAME WAY!!!

No matter who he's with he's ALWAYS trying to get in my pants(for the record, I never responded to his advances, so it's not like there's a history of us just "hooking up"). We also have a daughter together and I try to be friendly for her sake, but he doesn't get that I don't want him AT ALL!

He has been in other relationships and has been engaged but he was still coming on to me and trying to get back with me.

I think he's cheated on everyone he's been with. I might be included in that, but I'm not 100% sure. As soon as I got a whiff of him *possibly* doing ANYTHING with anyone else, I was done.

His unwanted advances are frustrating and annoying. If you ever figure out how to get them to stop please post it, I could use the help. lol

WOW, i feel like SHIT!!! thats what my cancer ex is doing to me.thats prolly why i get so confused thinking he has feleings for me. since i am a tuarus touch is relaly importnat, so here he is gettin into my pants, and im thinking love, and he could just be thinking, alil sumthing on the side.

Lil ladie;

Don't feel bad. If you guys shared an emotional bond, he might still feel it as well and wants to know that you still feel for him and are open and available to him. He might not actually want a relationship or anything though, which usually confuses the other person. Cuz for most girls - feelings + sex + time = wanting a relationship.

However I DO know that Cancer guys are willing to use people for sex(and to stroke their egos), no feelings whatsoever. Well, actually, they MIGHT have feelings(bad ones) if the person they use for sex rejects them.

wow, the more and more i share on this site about my cancer buddy, the more i relaizse i have been living in a dream.
kind of sad.
esthero - beautiful lie.

"Well, actually, they MIGHT have feelings(bad ones) if the person they use for sex rejects them."

That's probably what the cancer guy whom I recently was "consorting" with feels about me. He probably just thinks I'm a bbig bitch for not takign the whole thing in a refined and reserved way.

i don't know her sign...
really, i think it is just to see if he can...it is part of this sick game...i know i have played it before. i am soooooo glad i have met the wonderful guy i am with now. no more of the crap-o-la...
hopefully someone will learn something from my experience..i wish i would have had this board way back then..probably would have left a lot sooner...
you see, i wanted the happy ending and he was not it...kinda liberating knowing it..lol