a cancer...

brought me my food, my drink and everything. I was outside from a smoke came in and it was all there for me on the table ready for me to eat.

That was really nice of her... right?

let me add, then later she asked me to get up go all the way to the back of the room to get her something, should i have gotten her it? maybe she was testing me.

i hate being put through tests...

its scary, sometimes i think cancers can read minds they are supposed to feel out emotions of the situations. Somestimes I'm afraid to think certain things because I feel that cancer can read my mind, almost. yikes!

haha i kno its scary, thats why i usally try to stick to the truth, or just do what i woudl nromamlly do.. but its hard, sumtimes i find myself trying to impress them.... but that will jsut screw everything up if it sint hwo u really are.

again, dont mind my typing

give and take..kinda of nice in a relationship, don't you think?

she did it because she wanted to please you..us cancer women are like that...asking you to get her something was not a test.
just curious, did you get it?

"its scary, sometimes i think cancers can read minds they are supposed to feel out emotions of the situations. Somestimes I'm afraid to think certain things because I feel that cancer can read my mind, almost. yikes!"
i would love to mess with you here and say that we can, but im afraid it would be a lie..lol
i cant read minds, but i must send out vibes, but it seems that everyone i am close to, can read mine...ie..i will be thinking a song in my head and my honey will come in singing it. i would think of a color and my ex could tell me what it is...i must be a sender.

"just curious, did you get it?"

I actually didn't because being a scorpio ascendant I get really paranoid with reading between the lines with things and lately I've felt that I was being used. Was not getting her what she asked for a mistake? But later she asked me if I wanted to go to the store thats across the store from work and said I would because I felt bad and I really did.
At the store I felt I was being used again so I annoyed her like really annoyed her to get me a choclate and I'm surprised how patient she was, but eventually she got me my chocolate. What a nice cancer girl.

The real thing she should've done was to throw away the cigarette. but on the reals though, thats absolutely amazing

cancer girls love to spoil their guys...she wasn't testing you, silly...cancers love a give and take relationship & it conforts us that our efforts to please are appreciated. when you read between the lines (as you said you must)..look for good intentions..because that is what they are..start questioning our motives and you will not like the reaction you get. if we feel unappreciated, not only do we stop the spoiling, but we will take it very personally and go out of our way to be mean..i hate to say it, but it is our nature..
quit being afraid to put your cancer on a pedastool, i guarentee the results will be well worth the extra effort...we are very creative

thank you, this is what i wanted to hear.

what sign are you crude?

I'm a libra, I'm going to assume you're a cancer, just because.

good assumption..lol
i was just curious....
by the way, how are things with this cancer?

well, ive caught her looking at me at random times during the day and sometimes she'll go to places where i am, kind of like following me but not quite.

lately she's been acting distant and detached and i figured it something she must be going through and i should leave her to it but i pry anyway because i'm curious.
sometimes she'll act as if she's close to me and sometimes a bit disconnected, its a cycle but i dont know. its probably her own thing. i probably have dont something to hurt her but i'm not sure.

she'll come around again, i like her.

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if you had done something to make her mad, trust me, you'd know it..lol
she is waiting for your next move...and giving you plenty of opportunity to make it..
looking for a good response..try this...
get her her favorite candy bar..make sure you get you something too...it is not the buying it that will win her..it is the seeing if you know what it is, that will
not a test..just a thought..lol..we are silly crabs, but it is the little things that matter to us

hmm, getting her favourite 'thing' whatever it is. you crabs are hard to please..
she got me my food once and so in this give and take thingy we got going on, i decided to get her favourite drink.. she hardly took a sip!.. i wonder what the hell she was doing.
maybe she's shying away. because i also remember saying to her how i know 'cancers' and therefore i knew her. she said, 'you wish you knew!'. i was kind of taken back as if she's trying to hide away from me.

might i also add, she's been getting kind of touchy with me, like little playful gestures. she seems to be getting comfortable.. finally, after a year.. !

"because i also remember saying to her how i know 'cancers' and therefore i knew her. she said, 'you wish you knew!'. i was kind of taken back as if she's trying to hide away from me."

well that's not only insulting but incredibly rude of you.

not to mention immature. how old are you and she exactly?

"Cancers are known to be private types who are fond of their homes and very, very tight with their families. Don't ask them any personal questions for at least a year, regardless of whether or not you're married by then."

haha! well expect her to start opening up soon. we try very hard to give any wrong signals to those we are not attracted to, which means we won't touch you. so now you know she is into you.

well, i didnt say it like that.. but my intentions were not to be rude, just to bring up the fact that i follow astrology. i guess i dont know how to start a conversation properly, oops. she's 24 and im 20.

when dealing with cancers, do not be flippant about "knowing" us, because very few people in the world ever will. simply assuming you know anything about us because of our signs shows narrow-mindedness and prejudice. we at least like to think that we are deeper and more mysterious than that.

if you wanted to mention that you follow astrology, there are more tactful ways to do so... i.e., "i always seem to have an attraction to cancers" or something like that.

but if she didn't care, then whatever, but i think she was probably a little put off at your cockiness. 20 is still young, but by the time you're in your mid-20s like she is, you realize that that sort of cockiness is not always attractive.

crude..i think they are being a tad bit hard on you...
hes not a mind reader, he's just trying to figure it out...
she doesn't have to drink it, silly..but she noticed the thought..try again with something different..if she didn't catch it the first time..she will...

notso.."it was probably poisoned"
thats funny...what kind of psycho's are you dating..lol

oh my, I couldn't log in yesterday and i had oh so much to say in response.

i wonder if the food is really poisoned, if it was poisoned, its taking quite a while for it to kick in.

I must say cancer is being quite difficult to figure out. I do look at people as little gift boxes you can open up and there is something waiting for me inside but she's like the gift box with a million locks on it.

well menbay, she doesn't give me many opportunities to do that for her but i try when it does arise. maybe she doesn't want me to know her at all.

i do recall this one time when she said, " i love you, i really do." it was said in a casual way like alot of girls say it to show appreciation so im weary about it because doesnt seem like a thing she'd usually say but i dont know.

she's also said to me " you're my good good friend". she's said these things all at work so, there could be alterior motives, because if i'm not mistaken, cancers are manipulaters when tthey want to be, but that goes for people in general.

she's also been starting to text message me randomly, just about random things, which i do enjoy. I'd like to look at these things as her coming out of the shell but then again, i dont want to look at this from a naive point of view. I'm glad i have dxp's cancers watching my back. 😉

the cancer traits you see as bad..only come out if we are hurt by you.there will be no doubt when this happens and you will not be blind sited if it does..quit trying to look for the other motives for our actions, we sense this and will see it as you playing a game.
what we look for in love/relationships:
we are hopeless romantics...be romantic..it won't kill you, i promise
we adore humor and wit. love a man that is cocky at times and makes us feel we are worthy of his affections. share secrects with us, don't keep them from us..we have a sixth sense when this happens and will go to great lengths to find out what it is. we look for a man that gets "it"... if we are smart, tells us so..if we are beautiful, tells us every day, if we are kind..says it..finds out why we are special and says it to us and often...we love feeling special..get our doors, introduce us to your friends, spend quiet nights at home snuggled up. make us feel alone in a crowded room with you.
don'ts:
don't lie to us
don't ignore us
don't cheat on us
if you do any of the 3, it is on and we can be very vengeful..you can hurt us in many ways and we will not hold a grudge..hurt us in one of these 3 areas and we will never get over it..

alot of what you said already comes to me naturally.
a perfect relationship for me is someone who doesn't lie, doesnt ignore me, and doesn't cheat on me. i also have a knack for making people feel special. 😉 so treat others like you want to be treated right, this is all just falling into place.
i dont know why they say libras and cancers dont get along.. maybe this is a special case.
thanks alot menbay you've been very informative. i appreciate it 🙂

you are very welcome. i would have surely blown it with my pisces guy i love dearly if it hadn't been for this website...sometimes it is helpful to have some sort of clue before flying blind into relationships...
fell free to bounce thoughts off of me at anytime..

🙂