What's going on in his mind?

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marmir
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I've recently started seeing this cancer guy. We met through a mutual friend afew months ago and only started seeing each other more; hanging out, movies and things. Anyway, I've met his friends, family, boss, female friends etc. Everyone in his life seems to know who I am, but lately when we hang out he's been in this quiet state. He's not as chatty as he used to be or joke around as much as when we first started seeing each other. It's only been a 2 months. We still hang out on a regular basis, he calls me regularly and asks about my day, tells me what he's up to, wants to see me etc.. But I sense when we're together he's sort of distance himself to me, and I don't know what is going on or how he's feeling. He says nothing and that he isn't thinking anything...but I really don't know. I mean, if he wasn't interested in conversing with me, then why bother to spend time with me at all...any insight would be helpful!
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PiscesArgie
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mmmmm this could mean two things.
Either he is falling hard for you, and is retreating because he doesnt want to be too vulnerable, or he is slowly losing interest and doesnt want to hurt you.
You can probably tell by his body language, his looks, how he feels about you.
The fact that he is not chatty doesnt mean that he doesnt like you, maybe he is nervous around you, because he is falling for you and is unsure of how to react.
when I started dating my cancer guy (now going for about months) he used to send me all the time flirty text messages and all, and then he became different, cautious, more distant.
After some time I asked him why and he told me that he had planned to go out with me just a couple of times and when he discovered that he was falling for me, he kind of retreated.
Cancers are hard with the ones they love, specially when they dont completely trust you. Im there at the moment. slowly getting him to open up,and being patient.
Im sure you can tell by the way he looks at you, the way he treats you whether he is falling in love with you or losing inerest...
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lovesaleo
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I have a similar situation : ) I was trying to figure out my guy as a Leo sun but after finding out his moon and venus are in cancer the forum has help me make much more sense of him. I had exactly the same thing happen....I was getting the flirty texts messages and then all the sudden one week they stopped. I was like we'll that is strange. We have been seeing eachother for months now so I got worried that he was loosing interest. With that in mind I was like we'll if he is there is nothing really I can do so I will just ask him how he feels about the relationship. He basically told me exactly how he felt and that he wants me in his life. It was so cute and now he is back to the seet flirty texts angain. What I think it is is that sometimes they start to question your feelings but when you tell them how you feeling (without expressing youe undying love of course) they open up more. I don't think they would if they really are not into you. But I understand the constant wonder and having to be so patient is hard. But I truley do beleive he is protecting his heart as much as possibile.

They are so hard to read sometimes. Luckily I have a friend who is dating his good friend and in conversation one night she told me that she asked him the other night how we met. She said he was so smitten and went into every detail telling her a was the most beautiful girl he has seen in a really long time. From his sometimes cold demeanor I would have never guessed he was that smitten. PiscesArgie girl...I love reading your posts. You have a great grasp on the Cancer Man.
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cancerguy
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Posted by PiscesArgie
mmmmm this could mean two things.
Either he is falling hard for you, and is retreating because he doesnt want to be too vulnerable, or he is slowly losing interest and doesnt want to hurt you.
You can probably tell by his body language, his looks, how he feels about you.
The fact that he is not chatty doesnt mean that he doesnt like you, maybe he is nervous around you, because he is falling for you and is unsure of how to react.
when I started dating my cancer guy (now going for about months) he used to send me all the time flirty text messages and all, and then he became different, cautious, more distant.
After some time I asked him why and he told me that he had planned to go out with me just a couple of times and when he discovered that he was falling for me, he kind of retreated.
Cancers are hard with the ones they love, specially when they dont completely trust you. Im there at the moment. slowly getting him to open up,and being patient.
Im sure you can tell by the way he looks at you, the way he treats you whether he is falling in love with you or losing inerest...



You absolutely nailed it. So far I think you're one of the better people here at interpreting our behavior, which guessing from the posts here, is difficult to do. If he is losing interest, he'll start acting more like a friend would. Friends aren't always careful with others feelings, and not on purpose, do you know what I mean? Friends don't look at you in a loving way, they don't always open doors for you. Does he act nervous around you? That's excitement, if he seems nervous but subdued, he probably REALLY likes you in a big way!

So, use your intuition.
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marmir
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MY guy has a way of texting me and asking what I'm up to/what's up, and when I reply, he doesn't take the initiative to say whether he wanted to see me later on or just curious of my whereabouts. I'm not sure if he just wants to keep tabs on me. His texts are always nice and kind but it always leaves me questioning the intention of the text message in the first place. When I bluntly ask him, it takes him longer to respond...and then I usually get 'I don't know what I'm up to yet!'. But will always text that he wants to see me soon but never makes a date as to when. I know he takes long to open up, but I'm wondering if I should stick around for it or let him be and move on...
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PiscesArgie
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MY guy has a way of texting me and asking what I'm up to/what's up, and when I reply, he doesn't take the initiative to say whether he wanted to see me later on or just curious of my whereabouts. I'm not sure if he just wants to keep tabs on me. His texts are always nice and kind but it always leaves me questioning the intention of the text message in the first place. When I bluntly ask him, it takes him longer to respond...and then I usually get 'I don't know what I'm up to yet!'. But will always text that he wants to see me soon but never makes a date as to when. I know he takes long to open up, but I'm wondering if I should stick around for it or let him be and move on...



Welcome to the Crabby world!!!!!
just be patient if you like him really. 🙂