Who would cancer be with in the end...

I am cancer female and she is a scorpio. Him and I have been together for over a year, we broke up a few times because of this woman. I have been through so much with her and so has he. She disrespected me countless amount of times and even tried to attack me. She attacked him a few times, bashed his car one night because she was upset and constantly disrespects him and his family. For some apparent reason he just cannot pull himself away from her, he claims the only reason why he communicates with her is because she's been through a lot in her life and she doesn't have anyone (family, friends, no one who cares). He always would lie to me telling me he doesn't talk to her, would push me aside to put her first. So I had to leave him a few times. I understand being a cancer that we are always trying to be someone's savior but I have never been known to push others aside who cares about me because I am trying to help someone else, or just be there. Now out of the clear blue sky he contacts my best friend on myspace sending her a comment saying he loves me to death and that he's sorry, he basically wants me back.

Him and I spoke and he claims he doesn't want her he wants to be with me, but he still communicates with her.

Now from what I know cancers and scorpio's are more compatible, so that worries me at times which has me wondering if I should give him another chance.

Sweetie, you should't credit astrology for all that much, astrology does play maybe a 3% in the interpretation of the situation.

So let's look at the situation : he lied, he treated you the way he did. Basically, imo the cancer man wants both of you. Also cancer wants what it can't have. So if you want this guy (but why would you? he doesn't seem like a decent guy), you have to be very reluctant in taking him back, for all he's done, and lay the law : no more contacts w/ scorpio girl.
Best of luck!

Ok so I told him if he wanted to be with me he'd have to leave her alone, so he has to make a choice whether or not he's willing; His response "I'll get back to you on that". After going through all of that finding my friend on my space and saying he loves me to death and he's sorry, and begging; He's still not ready to leave her alone. If he wants to be with me should that even be so hard to do. He claims that he lost someone special and all that crap, and now he has to think about it? So I told him since he couldn't make a decision, in which he should have thought about that before contact my friend. I told him to just leave me alone, because I honestly cannot allow myself to go through more drama because he's afraid to let her go. She doesn't like me thanks to him, she wants to literally kill according to what I heard her say, so why would I put myself in danger again; and obviously he doesn't care he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I cannot allow him to play with my heart like this, and it hurts because I have no idea what she is doing that makes this so hard for him, but she's way more important to me so hey more power to her.

Here is an update. So he sends me an e-mail here it is...My reesponse is below.
Him:
Well I love you a lot M___. I have realize that honesty is the best thing and i promise to be open an honest about everything. my ex on the other hand i mean i know alot about here life because she shared alot of her life experience with me and because i understand how she feels i just sit and talk to her. now i know she has been part of the reason why we had problems but it was my fault that i wasn't up front about certain things with you. To be honest i'm really to be blame for all of this. And i ask myself why i'm i this way sometimes not opening up and acting like i don't care when i do. All i want mona if we don't get back together i was hoping we can be close friends where i can talk to you about anything because i know deep down you are a kind and sweethearted person. Well anyway its after 3:00 now so i'm going to try and get some sleep if you want give me a call later have a nice day at work bye.

My Response

There is absolutely nothing wrong with caring for someone, but you have allowed her to come between us countless amount of times. The damage is already done, and it would take a lot to patch things up again, and honestly I'd rather just leave it alone. I cried too many tears over you, and you can't blame me for wanting you to stop talking to her, and again you are letting her come between us, my heart cannot take that. If we cannot be together, I am sorry I cannot be your friend. I'd rather just move on with my life pretending as if all of this never happened. You had so many chances, you kept lying and I will never be able to trust and fully forgive you again, especially because this is how you do it; you come back saying you are going to do things different and the next thing you know J___is acting as if M___ no longer exists, that's ok I'll pass on that one. Thanks for everything even all the hurt and pain but I'd rather move on from this chapter, you are not ready for someone like me right now perhaps in another life. You obviously can't let her go, and neither can she so now it's time for me to let go for good. This is it, it's over for good and forever.


Bye J___.

Tell me what you guys think.

iluv...I think that was the right thing to do.

For whatever reason, your ex was not taking your feelings into account....so you have to step up and put yourself first. I know it is very hard to let go of someone who you love. But I think (in the long run) it is for the best.

If it is truly meant to be....you guys will find your way back into one another's lives. But I think you need some time to heal...and he needs some time see what it is like without you.

Stay strong and I am sorry to hear about your situation. But it will all get better, in due time! 🙂

Thanks maianm; Yea it is extremely hard but like you said I need time to heal.

So your name is Mona huh? 🙂 Sorry I simply could not resist that...

It sounds like you did the right thing. With Cancers it is always a back and forth thing. It becomes very annoying. So right now-Just relax and do just what you said. See what his next move will be.

Good Luck and I am so sorry for your pain. Cry it out, Talk it out, Journal...

Do what you need to do to heal.

LOL I knew someone would catch that.