When he's still pulling the disappearing cancer trick, ignoring me..etc..would really like genuine insightful thoughtful replies from folks who've maybe experienced this? A little befuddled...thanks!! I miss crabby ☹
why does my crab wanna move in with me....
Thanks Kodak, but i do..and he flakes. And then comes back..sooo why share a house? And struggle, yes it is..we talk babout it all the time on here and why am I a piglet exactly??
Well..since we've never spoke before...and I dont know ya at all, ill just consider that an insult..and uh SEEYAZ...
Yea..its hard cuz I've been an extremely patient kind and understanding person, always being stable when he's all over the board...and don't get me wrong, I talk to him a lot about a lot of issues..just wondered if maybe there was some cancer mystery I was unaware of! Its very odd...where my ladies at?? Š
Posted by thinktoomuchTrue.
He probably think you love him for who he is and doesn´t know, what you really feel and think about all of this.
You gotta be more honest then and then be ready to deal with the consequences. Seems like it won´t be a good relationship either way, if you will always feel dissapointed about this. Something needs to change maybe...
I gave up mine last night. I cannot handle anymore 4 days he was cold and distant - yesterday is his last chance so I sent him ultimatum. yes he reached out to me, calling me 3 times, why would I listen to a dude who is good at talking but not doing the right thing, I could miss the opportunity that a good guy has to offer me along the way. He keep repeating what is not working is what we call Insanity. I am fine. I am ok. I am always prepare for a change. Nothing is permanent. Change is constant.
is funny. 😆 😆 😆
Posted by thestrugglePosted by boxcarmirnta
Well..since we've never spoke before...and I dont know ya at all, ill just consider that an insult..and uh SEEYAZ...
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Damn m143, you were giving me hope for while there! Haha..but yea I hear what yr saying!! Haven't you guys done this a couple times already though?
Posted by boxcarmirntaYes. But I don't have patience anymore. I was harsh, cruel and rude last night - I am not gonna say *sorry*. I deliver my wrath with the abundance of my heart.
Damn m143, you were giving me hope for while there! Haha..but yea I hear what yr saying!! Haven't you guys done this a couple times already though?
I told him I don't play cat and mouse. His response: M, you are the cat. I am the mouse - You ate my heart. I don't talk to him when he was calling. I am done. This is my last and first time
talking with him without compassion. Life is not sitting down and waiting a guy to pick me up when it is convenience to him. He cannot manipulate me. really.
Posted by goligoldHe ignore my messages 4 days ago. Then when I sent him ultimatum breaking his heart last nigh. He kept calling me and said honey, talk to me. Why would I buy this behavior? no need for explanation.It's damage. I am no longer buying it.
He is ignoring your calls and messages?
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberYes. I learned your post comments about tennis match. 😆 . nice post.Posted by M143Yeah, when you are dealing with a human being (regardless of sex) who pursues a relationship when it is convenient....Posted by boxcarmirntaYes. But I don't have patience anymore. I was harsh, cruel and rude last night - I am not gonna say *sorry*. I deliver my wrath with the abundance of my heart.
Damn m143, you were giving me hope for while there! Haha..but yea I hear what yr saying!! Haven't you guys done this a couple times already though?
I told him I don't play cat and mouse. His response: M, you are the cat. I am the mouse - You ate my heart. I don't talk to him when he was calling. I am done. This is my last and first time
talking with him without compassion. Life is not sitting down and waiting a guy to pick me up when it is convenience to him. He cannot manipulate me. really.
Best to move on.
The only person worth being with is the one who is willing to jump fences to be with you.
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Posted by goligoldyes. He was in pain. He said I am cruel. I acknowledge though but it's over.Posted by M143Yes, that is not good....Posted by goligoldHe ignore my messages 4 days ago. Then when I sent him ultimatum breaking his heart last nigh. He kept calling me and said honey, talk to me. Why would I buy this behavior? no need for explanation.It's damage. I am no longer buying it.
He is ignoring your calls and messages?
You should never allow that behavior in a relationship...one time you may look back and think of all the time wasted, that you won't get back...maybe you should consider keeping your options open...
It doesn't matter if he thinks everything is fine. If he ignores you never put up with that from any man.
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Posted by goligoldI am actually ok. Yes exactly. Also, I end it. So it's a call for him.
I am sorry to hear..everyone comes into our life for a reason either they are the student or the teacher. Hope you feel better soon.
Goligold: No more than usual...being hes normal flaky sometimes distant self....yrfavorite: That makes sense..im wondering if its out of convenience that he wants to live with me? Hes expressed many fears and doubts cuz of his past relationship and it feels like he's super on the fence....so I just dont understand why he wants to do it...maybe I should just be grateful that its happening and not stress over it...or maybe the hot and cold will continue. Ugh!!!!! Good for you m143.
Posted by boxcarmirntaMy ex cancer man behaving that way fears interfere due to past relationship and family. Well, I am afraid he is less evolved when it comes to relationship and family.
Goligold: No more than usual...being hes normal flaky sometimes distant self....yrfavorite: That makes sense..im wondering if its out of convenience that he wants to live with me? Hes expressed many fears and doubts cuz of his past relationship and it feels like he's super on the fence....so I just dont understand why he wants to do it...maybe I should just be grateful that its happening and not stress over it...or maybe the hot and cold will continue. Ugh!!!!! Good for you m143.
He is afraid of failures but he failed to cooperate - This is why they kept doing what is not working. I was tired helping him, giving compassion above all giving him hopes not all are bad.
I observed actions not those flattery words - wedding, family, houses - I threw it all in his face last night. A talker is not going anywhere only fantasizing something that isn't gonna happen.
I see what yr saying...similar situations for sure...but I feel there has to be something behind those words, its hard to not believe he's sincere ...I see no reason for him to be dishonest...i think it truly is fear..shame fear can destroy so much.
@moonbutter @magicpowas I crave your insight!!
Oh Lord, I am being summoned...hold on
box, watch this. 😉
because that's what they do, apparently...mine did and it's turned out to be rather pleasant more often than not...
--Jack
--Jack
Guys, My man sending me mms thru my mobile.. because I blocked him thru viber, so I unblock him when I saw his bunch msgs coming to my mobile. I cannot handle him anymore. He said * You hurt me so much M, F*U*C* K * you. I had 3 hrs conversation thru viber. He drag me I stand soo strong. I am sorry for him But I am very determined to leave him.
He cannot put down a good woman. Trust me Ladies. 😭
I am not easily get hurt nor kicking my ass and bruising my egos won't work for me . In fact it gives me power to stand my ground and protect my boundary.
He cannot put down a good woman. Trust me Ladies. 😭
I am not easily get hurt nor kicking my ass and bruising my egos won't work for me . In fact it gives me power to stand my ground and protect my boundary.
The fight is too nasty. telling me I am *f*u*c*k*i*n*g boys here every week end. well, he is not listening and disrespected me. such shameful character of him made me feel even colder.
Cancers always wanna move in with somebody lmaoooo
Typical.
Typical.
M smells like emotional manipulation!!! don't let him go away with it... if he accomplish his goal he will use it every time it becomes handy... (this is not a cancer specific trait, lot of people regardless their sign does it all the time)
Yellow! Can you give more details? Fullwater not sure what goal hes trying to achieve tho....m143 brutal! But he doesn't wanna let you go!! Balblair..not quite sure what you mean there but..sigh anyway...🙂
My apologies boxcarmirnta, I fell asleep last night w/o replying..I guess I just don't get the whole "disappearing" act Cancer Males do. Because of that I'm afraid I am lil use of advice on this one, unless you have more info so I can see the big picture.
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Posted by fullwaterpiscesYes. His behavior is not acceptable. He disrespected me and he failed.
M smells like emotional manipulation!!! don't let him go away with it... if he accomplish his goal he will use it every time it becomes handy... (this is not a cancer specific trait, lot of people regardless their sign does it all the time)
Scorpio in general prioritize *Respect* more than love.
I can give compassion to a beggar by giving them a spare of what I've earned and respect them. How much more a lover.
When we love someone we give respect.. Respect shows love.
Love without respect is impossible.
Posted by goligoldI don't have someone else. I am lonely if he did not communicate with me. With lots of break ups before I clearly stated - I cannot stand without communication.
M143...don't get mad at my question but is there someone else?
I am dying without it. Constructing a message in 1 second in 24 hrs is not serve. I need communication and if it is not given...Scorpio will stand, withdraw emotions and declare war.
It is not easy..but we have to understand our partner needs our attention to let them know we care and love them. He didn't bother doing it 4 days?
Wasn't clear enough and upfront saying it many times? Meaning he didn't listen very well. 😉.
Posted by goligoldAfter exchanging a lot of messages within 3 hrs
M143...don't get mad at my question but is there someone else?
and he then said.. M, I love you. I love him too. I said it. But it's just too hard to believe his words without action. He said he is coming to my place and I cannot control him. I told him to see all those people whom he spends time when he ignores me. Still his actions are not justified. and because he cannot get what he wants from me he then said I am *w*h*o*r*e.
So I respond thank you for saying that... my *p*u*s*s*y is not used and his behavior is the manifestation of a man who doesn't respect a woman. Then he asked.. Did you *f*u*c*k*i*n*g
boys every week end? tell me honestly M!!!. I respond, I don't do f*u*c*k*i*n*g every week end. He knew I went to church and do painting and zumba. How come boys *f*u*c*k*i*n*g me?
then he said that is why he didn't communicate with me for me to get satisfaction with boys.
I know what I am doing. I know my feelings. I know my verdict has not been mistaken. 🙂
Posted by boxcarmirntasure, i'd be glad to...what exactly are you curious to know, though? i'm an open book, so ask whatever is on your mind lol...
Yellow! Can you give more details? Fullwater not sure what goal hes trying to achieve tho....m143 brutal! But he doesn't wanna let you go!! Balblair..not quite sure what you mean there but..sigh anyway...🙂
--Jack
@magicpowas thanks concise and to the point! @moonbutter I think I pm 'd you a while back..6mos of him being into me then getting scared back n forth etc...now we are talking houses...but he is still distant a lot.. @m143 that's some serious drama there! But I think cares for you which is why he got so upset!! @yellow01gt just curious about yr story, so you live with your cancer? How long you been together etc 🙂
Thanks so much!! I really believe all that! And the does work behind the scenes to care for me which is sweet. I will heed your advice!
Posted by boxcarmirntaWell, He apologized over and over again. I gave him time to explain. He confessed everything. Well, He needs to be forgiven. The madness has gone.. The new us has been reconciled. Yes full of drama but it's better to react sometimes to get the answer.
@magicpowas thanks concise and to the point! @moonbutter I think I pm 'd you a while back..6mos of him being into me then getting scared back n forth etc...now we are talking houses...but he is still distant a lot.. @m143 that's some serious drama there! But I think cares for you which is why he got so upset!! @yellow01gt just curious about yr story, so you live with your cancer? How long you been together etc 🙂
It was pretty that I was saying it loud. Now, I know why he did it. For some valid personal issues. I respected it and it made me happy.No 3rd party.
It's better to confront the issue all the time. Men hide a secret if women just deal it like *fine*. Not for me.Just Say it loud and I will give justice.
He was sending me sad face and said He was feeling terrible and sad 2 days for what had happened.
It's funny because I respond.. the w*h*o*r*e is sad too. 😆 😆
so then he said.. not true M. just childish behavior. lol
So yr back together....haha
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